What should I do??

Question

I have a friend and I don't want to release any names but well we have been friends for like a long time and he is like my best freinds. But the thing is that I was hanging out at my friends house the other day and he told me that his mom and her boyfriend think that I am gay and I AM NOT GAY and that pissed me off so much. Now I think that this will ruin our friendship and a bunch of bulls**t is going to end up geting started and I already know it is so what should I do?

Answer 1

I say ignore it. Your not gay, you know your not gay, your best friend knows your not gay so there is nothing to stress over. If the parents want to think your gay then let them but they are going to be in for a rude awakening when you start bringing your spouse around.

Answer 2

I understand why you are offended, because even if you have nothing against people who really ARE gay, nobody likes being misjudged or mistaken for something they are not.

The best thing you can do is ignore it. The more attention you give it, the more it will seem like you're the one making a big deal of it, and the longer people will hold onto the idea. If you are secure in who you are & what you're about, other people's opinions don't have to affect you. Just do what you do & let others do the same.

If you come face-to-face with people saying something that isn't true and you HAVE to respond, try to laugh at it & be like "Why would you even THINK that? Wow, that's so far off. Naw, I'm straight." And let it go. But the more you fuss, the more the rumor will persist -- even if they come to realize that you are not gay, they will start teasing you about it if you let them know it gets you heated.

There's no reason why this should ruin your friendship with your friend. It's not you're friend's misperception -- he's just the messenger. He probably told you because he thought you deserved to know, not because he wanted to stir up trouble. In your mind, you have to separate your friend from his mom's & boyfriend's opinions.

Answer 3

Don't fret... so they think you are gay. I don't see too much of a big deal with this. You aren't, you know that. Go up to his mom and let her know that you aren't gay, but thank her for thinking of you as a sensitive male. Girl's love the sensitive type... just means more honnies in your future. Don't take it as an insult. The more you freak out about it, the more they'll think you are covering up. AND DON'T let a little thing like this ruin your friendship. Obviously your friend had heard this from his mom before he told you, he didn't care... not many guy friends would actually stick around when hearing that. Though you are not gay, he's a good friend for not caring either way.

Answer 4

Just because someone of the same sex hangs out all. I'll tell you what. I had a few close friends that i hung out with alot and alot of people thought that me and her was messin around. that was not the case. People are JEALOUS (including your friend's mother) that you have a really cool and laid back friendship. The only way that this will ruin your friendship with your best friends is if you let everyone else interfere in your business and your friendship. That is how most friendships end: on he say/she say stuff. Dont listen to it. You and your best friend need to seriously consider sitting down and talking to each other.
Ignore the haters, and continue to have fun with your best friend. *** all the other bullshiit.

Answer 5

As long as you and your friend know what time it really is, there shouldn't be major problems. I understand you getting pissed about someone making assumptions about your sexuality. You may want to give your friend some space and see what he does with it. If he runs for the hills, let him. Your friendship was not as strong as you thought. If he sticks around for the long, keep being friends. Don't bother addressing the mother and her boyfriend. People are going to think what they want to think. If you make a big deal of it...they will find some way to say that you got mad because it's true. Since I don't know you or anything about you, I can't speculate as to what things about you that they may have associated with homosexuality. Some people just have to say something...good or bad. Sorry that you are having to deal with this.

Answer 6

I think this has gotten out of hand.

Only you know whether or not you are gay, straight, bi, etc.

To me, sexuality is neutral. None of these are better than any of the others.

Thank your friends for their concern. Do not lash out at them. Reassure them that your are straight and then if they want to ask you any more questions, tell them you are no longer interested in talking about it.

Be calm and be in control. And remember, being gay isn't a bad thing. You might want to re-examine some of your attitudes towards gay people, especially if you consider being labeled as gay an insult.

Answer 7

well this so called friend of yours should know you well enough to know this isnt true ,i think you should hit it head on ,go and see your friends parents and ask to have a word and tell them you are totally not gay ,and you would like then to exsplain to you what made them believe that you were,they must have a reason and its about time you got to know just what it is they really think about you,they had no right to assume anything and even if you were gay what business is it of theres and why do they think its ok to even be talking if they dont know as this could get to the rong ears and could cause you a lot of problems as not all people are still ok with gays .
talk to your friend tell him your fears ,he must know you arnt gay after all you did say you have known him a long time ,and also tell him you value his friendship as a friend,and if he also value your friendship he will listern and put his mum and her boyfriend right,
if no luck go and get yourself a nice girl friend get on with your life as ,if you are not listened to and they cant see your conserns then maybe they are not as good a friends as you thoought.
i cant believe that people can still be so thoughtless as these have been ,they havent thought about how this will affect you ,or what harm it could bring you ,or the fact that it could distroy a very good friendship with you and your friend ,
i feel for you i really do ,
when you talk things over with them let them see you are hurt not angry as we dont want to fall out over another row to do with anything else ,as cross words can move from one subject to another very fast when tempers are high ,so know what you are going to say well in advance .
take care ,all the best ,kat

Answer 8

If ur friend is truly ur friend, then he shouldn't even think twice about what his mom and her boyfriend said about u. He knows that it isn't true so it shouldn't even cross his mind. If ur still concerned, however, maybe u should approach ur friend privately and make sure that he's not considering u being homosexual. I'm sure he knows already, but maybe u can say casually, "Ur mom and her boyfriend are soooo crazy for saying that!" Just make it a simple convo and if he's really ur friend, he wouldn't care if ur gay or not. Good blessings!

Answer 9

Well, just do some guys talk about chicks.
Also make sure you have some mags like playboy or penthouse lying around or have at least one nude girl pick up the wall.

And make sure to be staring at hotties when hanging out with him:
I kinda assume that you havent heard his mom and her bf talking about it - so maybe your friend made that up cuz he got worried you might be gay but is afraid to tell you so.

Answer 10

Shine it on. Maybe they don't like you. That's a soft spot in a man unless you are steeled against it. A psychological dig especially here in the U.S. Knowing what people do. If a friend does that to you you need to take stock what constitutes a friend. Better alone than badly accompanied is my general policy.