Why does life seem so hard?

Question

i feel like i have the worst ever luck....on july 30 i was 16 weeks pregnant and started hemorrhaging..went to hospital all they said is i was threatening to miscarry and was put on bedrest...that tues my grandmother passed away..now here i am on bedrest just lost my grandma i am supposed to stay "calm" yet i feel my whole world is falling apart...the bleeding stopped on wed at the funeral home for the wake...had ultrasound on aug 9th and found out i have a blood clot and have to remain on bedrest......we did find out we are having a boy..i have 2 girls and my husband has 3.....but i am so afraid for this baby....then two days ago my husband found out his sister has a very malignant type of breast cancer.....when does it stop???? i have no one to talk to because before now all i did is work and raise a family and im hurting....can someone just help me understand why everything happens at once??

i wanted to thank the caring answers i know i seem like a big baby about his it is just so hard and being on bedrest makes it all worse...i already suffer from severe depression and have trouble dealing with pain i just needed to talk to others and share i try to be strong by hiding my pain but that only makes it worse

Answer 1

Even the best life requires a balance of good and bad things to even things out. If things were perfect all the time we would never learn to face adversity or to appreciate the good times when they come along. I can't say "I know what you're going through", because I don't.

It does stop - briefly, and sometimes you just want to throw in the towel and give up.

You've been hit with alot at once, and I admire your strength. I'm not sure I would even have the fortitude to type on this computer if I was facing all the pain you are right now. It's so easy sometimes just to say "Forget it" and succumb to the negative emotions surrounding all this. Anxiety and fear may weaken both your resolve and your immune system, so try to keep these are bay the best you can. Take joy from your family, allow yourself to grieve for the grandparent you've lost, and give all the love and support you can to your sister-in-law who has cancer. You need your family right now, and they need you.

Answer 2

Life doesnt SEEM hard. It IS hard. And it's not the blows that strike us, but to not allow those blows to knock us down. Apparantly you're getting hit from all sides at the moment. Stop for just a second, and look how you've been blessed with 5 girls in your life. Sometimes we're hit over the head, and we dont pay attention. Try to value all the good things in your life. You know that you have many that you've not realized. This may simply be some signs to show you all the good things that you DO have. Take a very large whiff of those flowers that you havent noticed recently in your path! Keep thinking good thoughts and this too shall pass. I wish the very best for you and yours!

Answer 3

I'm sorry to hear about everything.
Life is hard on us to teach us how to be strong human beings.
We are handed obstacles by god to make and mold us into good people with understanding and who are strong enough to get through tough situations.
Remember, what goes down has to come up, because once things hit rock bottom, they can't get any worse and eventually have to get better.
If you're religious, keep praying to god and ask him for support.
I will pray for your family as well.
Try and stay positive, if not for yourself, for your kids. They need a supportive figure in their life to keep the house optimistic.
Best Wishes.

Answer 4

hi i dont know what your name is ! but i do know that u are a female ! look i'm cristian and go to church ! i know thta this may be difficult but there is a say thta they always tell me when i am sick ! because i have a liver transplant (i'm 15 ) and my mom tells me when the storm is at its darkest is when the sun is going to come out have faith in God and eveything will be fine ! i know u might think this isnt the right moment 2 talk about this but GoD want u he loves u ! dont even think that God will make everyhting better believe it in your heart ! look maybe u can write 2 me at [e-mail] or ask question and i'll answer them ! i can help believe me i know a lot god has done lots of miracles in my life tell u this i was in coma 21 days then they said i has 4 hours 2 live n here i am ! :)

Answer 5

i feel sorry.

90% of things happening in ur life can be fully controlled by u. only 10% is there which is induced on you by the surroundings.

regulate the 90 and mask the 10. Be cool.

Life is uncertain. u r going through a bad time. Accept it and

enjoy unconditionally whether its pain or happiness.

Take care.

Answer 6

There is no reason....things happen when they happen, and it just happens that in your life, several unfortunate/sad things have occured in a short span of time...

Don't try to make sense of it...don't wonder if you or others are being punished for some wrong doing...don't try to reason it out...it just is what is...all you can do is deal with what is happening as best you can...surround yourself with friends and loved ones...draw strength from the positive things in your life...and know that the sun will shine again...

Take care of you...

Answer 7

Sometimes when it rains it pours and unfortunately that's what you're experiencing. I would suggest you talk to a therapist to get your feelings out as your baby is going through this emotional roller coaster with you. Be grateful that you still are carrying your baby because that is your blessing whether you realize it now or later.

Answer 8

When i feel like this, i like to read the lyrics to this song, it helps alot and i hope it helps you:

CHRISTINA MILIAN

"Believer"

Life Is What You Make It
At least that's what they say
Well I think im gonna make it
Fulfill my dreams one day
I feel this fire growing deep inside of me
Im so inspired knowing that its my destiny

I breathe like a champion
I dream im a champion
I see im a champion
Its meant to be
My wills getting stronger
I cant wait any longer
Im singing a song that's inside of me
Cuz im a believer
I know that I can make it
No matter what they say
So im a believer
The Future is Now
It starts today

I keep my head up

Everyday im waiting
Trying to find the patience
So close I can taste it..But sometimes its so hard
But imma keep on pushing
And Imma keep on fighting
And imma keep on trying because I come to far

I breathe like a champion
I dream im a champion
I see im a champion
Its meant to be
My wills getting stronger
I cant wait any longer
I'm singing a song that's inside of me
Cuz im a believer
I know that I can make it
No matter what they say
So im a believer
The Future is Now
It starts today

The Future is now ..It Starts Today

Answer 9

My dear, life is a journey not a destination, it is only whn we r faced with crises and problem do we understand our inner strenght, remember god gives the most trials and problems to the people of the strongest character and you will come out of it stronger belive me its just that you need to keep the faith and trust yr belief that everything is going to work out the way it shud,pls dont be afraid, yr baby son knows his mama is strong woman u have to be strong fr him, u have to help him by staying calm and keeping the faith.god bless

Answer 10

I am a christian, and the only solution to your never ending flow of testings is JESUS. I know exactly what you are talking about, but thank God i was able to just cry out to HIM at my all time low.
And He is just waiting to hear from us. The Word said he does not give us more than we can bear, keep the faith, everything will be alright.