how can I tell my wife to loose weight?

Question

She was nice and trim whaen we were first married and now she is a total heffer. I can't even think of having sex with her the way she is. I don't mind fat people, she is a nice person but my god, ahe is so fat. Should I just come out and tell her or make small sugestions about loosing 200 lbs?

Answer 1

look guy!! you are so so so sick!! So what because shes heavy...is that why youve moved on to child abuse!!!! like you deserve anyone to give you an answer to this question!!!! you need help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

Everynight ask her if she'd like to go for a walk with you! Walk with her at least 45 min. if not an hour every night and you'll see results within the next 3 mos. it has to be everynight though. Do not let her eat anything after 7:00 p.m. distract her by taking her somewhere or doing something with her, start buying more fruits and veggies in replace of junk food, if you have to you start doing the grocery shopping she might catch on but do it with her and tell her you just want her to look her best and be more healthier and if she losses weight tell her she'll be sexier!

Please don't feel this way about your wife, ask her to look down the shower drain and give her a little from behind, for crying out loud do not deprive her of sex, it isn't going to hurt and you might like it! You married her for better or for worse and big or not you shouldn't let that get in the way of you having sex with her get over it that is being a bit chidish and mean and abusive in a way.

Answer 3

Loose 200 pounds?How big is she?Believe me its easy to gain weight once your married cause your in a stabe realtionship and you feel you can be yourself and you do tend to let your self go at times .And having kids is one big reason time you take care of them all day, cook ,clean ,do clothes by the time they are in bed do you think you want to do your hair or nails or rvrn excercise?Hell no you want to run to bed as fast as you can your tired.SO the best thing you can do is be nice about it,Believe me your wife knows she is big and has gained alot of weight she dont need you telling her that.Just ask her if she like some help your there let her know you love her and its her health you worry about being so heavy!And tell her her weight is starting to effect you but you love her and you dont want another women its just you would like to see her loose a little weight.Dont say you need to loose 200 pounds cause believe me to a heavy person thats easier said then done and 200 sounds so far away and impossible that they give up or dont even want to try.Give her support never put her down or make fun of her positive attitude gives positive reactions.Give her something to look forward to like if you loose 10 pounds ill buy you such and such start small dont say 50 then when she does say you loose 20 and youll get this!And have one major prize like a trip or a new car and say when you get to such and such weight(what ever weight your happy with her being)then you will get that when she has things like that to look forward too she might really try i know i would!!And be supportive and every pound she looses i dont care if its only a pound a week tell her how beautiful she looks and how sexier she is becoming.I wish ya luck and remeber to gain weight is easy but to loose it is way harder !

Answer 4

don't come right out and say it... being a woman i know that is just setting up for a distater! start cooking healthy meals for you both to eat. suggest that you guys should power walk in the morning, or take a trip to the gym a few days a week. sometimes if you tell the ones you love that you feel you need to lose weight (even if you don't) then they will jump on the band wagon and get healthier with you! maybe for christmas or a holiday, get a her a bike. take an interest in a sport that you both could enjoy! the key is little hints. if you hint at the fact that you think she should get healithier, then i am sure she would be happy to oblige!

Answer 5

you can't tell your wife she is fat.

What you CAN do is go for walks together, or other exercise... get off the couch and go do things together. Go grocery shopping together and make healthy choices on the food you buy. Put the potato chips and butter back on the shelves and buy fresh produce and salads and lean meats. Make a lifestyle change that works for BOTH of you, when she starts losing weight, she'll feel better and be more motivated to lose more weight on her own.

Don't ever call her a heifer, you sound so RUDE. But do tell her you LOVE her and want her to be around for a long long time, and that obesity leads to heart disease and other illnesses that she can avoid by living a more healthy lifestyle, and it will benefit BOTH of you.

Answer 6

I think she could lose 200 lbs. really quickly if she got rid of your funky, judgemental as*s! Not hard to do. Man, it's for better or worse; love her or leave her and some guy will be happy to have the heffer, trust me. Then she'll lose weight and you'll be all pissed off. You better love her like she is, or she will NEVER want to be close to you again. Get come counseling while you're at it.

Answer 7

First, you can stop calling her a heifer.....thats just cruel. And why did she gain the weight, did she give birth? If so, then it will take some time for her to lose the weight. If not, then sign you both up at your local gym. If she asks why, then say that you would like to get fit, and healthier together. If she is not comfortable going to the gym, then go on walks together. Also, try to be a bit more sensitive.

Answer 8

My husband lost 13 pounds in 3 weeks just by eating cereal instead of the egg mcmuffins he was having. He started having a little more veggies, and a little less meat at dinner. When he hit a plateau and stopped losing, he started walking our dog. He put an excercize bike in lay away so he can ride it while watching TV. Just add things one at a time, don't expect a major change all at once. And most of all, you love this woman, don't nag.

Answer 9

she may not be the same as she was when you married her but are you? i was a modle when i married my husband 28 yrs ago after our first son i was 200lbs i am nearly 6ft tall i am fat fluffy what ever but if he ever said any thing it would crush me i do try to loose and have lost but i needed to do it for me not him he loves me no matter what i had a stroke from taking diet pill a few yrs ago and he told me pleasse dont take any more i love you no matter what. that meant a lot to me i am still chageing my life style i go to the gym and eat better i have lost 50 lbs in the last yr its slow but stedy my husband is proud of me but if i eat a sweet he doesnt act like the food police if yu love her you will not do anything if it will hurt her
my husband has alway treat me w/ love and understanding and he never calls me names like heffer shame on you we are a changing being, give her time she will get there on her own for herself all u need to do is show her true love are you ever thing you were the day u got married? remeber we reap what we sow?

Answer 10

I went through the same thing. My husband had to tell me how he really felt! I had no idea that he was that bothered by my weight. Please tell her in a nice way that you love her but that her weight is a problem for you. Also make sure you're willing to help her.
PS After he told me I went to a doctor and began working out like crazy. Our marriage is a whole lot better now. It just took HONESTY and COMMUNICATION even though it was hard to hear.

Answer 11

No matter how fat she is you don't tell her nothing about her wake. If you want to stay married to her, her weight is to never be an issue. What you can do is, start cooking healthy meals, try and get her to go walk with you or do some mild exercises. You have to be apart of it too. So you will have to help her. If you help, you will help her help herself to loose weight.