Is it possible to be romantic with my husband again with a newborn in the house?

Answer 1

Absolutely - in fact it is important that you and your husband are. I have 3 kids and I know we always made time for romance and that is very healthy for a marriage.

Answer 2

Tough cookies on your husband coming home and only wanting to relax on weekends. You work too, inside the home. You are keeping the homefires burning, that is also work. You are caring a child that hopefully he had a hand in making and he should want to make sure you can get through the rest of the pregnancy with both you and the baby coming out healthy. You can't tell everything in your question, but I sense signs of an abusive relationship here. Abuse isn't confined to physical or abusive language. It is also when one part of a relationship is ordering the other part to do this or that and "I'm only going to this". There is no way that you will be able to handle doing all that alone after the baby is born. If your pregnancy is high risk, very likely you will need more recovery time after the birth than usual. And your baby just might have some special needs. College is hard, keeping a house is hard and trying to do all will burn you out quick. Talk to your doctor, your priest or a counselor right away and get an objective opinion on this. Get together good information to present to your hubby on why he is demanding too much. And stop the "I don't blame him" stuff. Marriage is supposed to be a partnership, not a dictatorship.

Answer 3

o mi gosh. absolutley!!! in fact it should b prime time. here u have been pregnant 4 the last 9 months & prob 4 the last couple have not felt like "romance" much. now is the time 2 make up 4 it. plus u need ur rest. this will help get ur body back in shape from the baby. just b sure u use some protection unless u r planning on having another so soon. this has happened many times so do what u need 2 do there. of course, if u r a little sore from the birth, u may want 2 instruct ur husband 2 b very gentle, so as not 2 hurt u & thus discourage u from trying again 2 soon. yes wehnever that baby is asleep & that will b a lot 4 a newborn take advantage, u get ur rest & let ur husband know that he is still very important also. it is easy 4 the hubby 2 get a bit jealous, after this, after all he has been #1 4 quite a while. as a wife & mom, u will soon figure out the perfect time 2 devote 2 both hubby & baby!! congrats & good luck.

Answer 4

Sometimes it seems like you will never have a normal anything again. Especially if you get a fitful baby such as I did. He was up 2 hours, slept 2 hours for the first 3 months. Little by little he got better. By the time he started crawling he was a wonderful child and by the time he walked at 10 months, he was almost perfect natured. But he didn't sleep all through the night until he was 1 1/2 years old.

Having a baby is quite an adjustment. Don't worry. You'll be able to have special alone time with your hubby again.

Answer 5

Of course, but it takes a little more planning. Enjoy it now, though, because a newborn has no idea what you're doing and older kids do! :) The main trick is getting yourself in the mood. Try to make sure the baby is down for good before getting started or you will be distracted. Also, don't know how old the newborn is, but make sure you are completely healed before you have sex!

Answer 6

Everybody has good input so far, so I'll only add one thing that we noticed with our babies (now 18, 15 and almost 10):

Newborns are VERY contact-intensive -- that is, you have to pick them up, carry them, hold them, and otherwise be in constant physical contact with your baby because it can't sit, stand or walk by itself. And while this constant physical contact is very good for the baby, it can drain the mom.

It shows up especially if you're breastfeeding, because that's something Dad can't help with. My wife got to a point with each of our kids where she felt that she simply could not STAND to be touched any more that day. Kinda made it hard to get romantic, at least much beyond the "here's a card and some flowers" stage, anyway. :-)

If you start to feel this way, that's a good time for Dad to step in and take over some of the contact duties (or he can join in now and prevent you from getting burned out). Fortunately I loved snuggling with my babies, which made it a little easier to get up in the middle of the night when one of them needed something. And as our babies got older, I'd take them for walks or short drives, partly to help my wife have some alone-time to recharge her own batteries, but also because I like my kids and have always enjoyed doing things with them. (Still do!)

The main thing to know about feeling that you can't stand for anyone to touch you is that it's temporary -- it only lasts a few weeks. So if you start to feel it, take some comfort in knowing that it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you and it will go away. (It goes away faster if you can get some relief, too.)

Other than that, though, let me just add one more voice to the chorus of "it's not only possible to be romantic, it's important." The single most important thing that parents can do for their kids is to have a stable, loving and emotionally healthy relationship -- it gives them a foundation and an emotional center for their lives, but perhaps most important it means there will be two of you to handle things that come up.

Answer 7

Absolutely! My baby is almost 4 months old now. Things can be very stressful at times. The most important thing is remember to always make time for yourself, and then make time for your husband and you to be together.

My husband and I have a date night once or twice a month. The father-in-law or sister-in-law will watch the baby all night so we can have some alone time. This is most enjoyable, even if we do just stay home. It allows us to do what we want, when we want, where we want, and we can sleep in the next morning. We also still make sure to have some alone time almost every day. Take advantage of when the baby is sleeping.

It is important to remember not to let a child interfere with your relationship with your husband. Sometimes we get caught up in our daily lives with children, work, house chores, etc. We forget that one of the most important things is to tend to, and maintain, the relationship with our spouse. If you don't take time to do that then over time one or the other may begin to feel neglected and resentful.

Answer 8

Sure...the newborn's not going to care...make some time for yourselves as a couple now and then...have a friend or family member stay with the baby a few hours so y'all can go out...

No reason at all that romance cannot coexist with the baby...you just have to be creative...

Answer 9

Yes. The average newborn baby sleeps 18 hours a day, that plenty of time.

Answer 10

Well mt dear, your not dead,
So yes of course it can happen.
I felt a little uncomfortable, because of the extra weight,
But it was all good,
Make sure your ready, and as far as the new baby goes,
it doesn't know whats going on in your room,
Good luck, your husband will be so happy!

Answer 11

All newborns do is sleep. Have sex all you can because in a few months that baby will want to be up playing and won't sleep as much.