why is it that...?

Question

you want the people you cant have
you miss the people whom you didnt make the most of when they were around,
you can hate somebody that you used to love
your opinion of a person can change so quickly, that you were once adament upon
you regret decisions that you were certain were for the best

is life just confusing or does it deliberately try to contradict you? Why can life change so quickly and feelings change so easily?

Answer 1

that you want people you can't have? because people are fickle and never satisfied. we're looking to fill a gap inside of us with something outside of us. that is a mistake that most people make.

that you miss those you didn't fully take advantage? because it's difficult to acknowledge our own failures and insecurities. you failed to do right by that person, you failed to make the most of your time with them, and you failed to learn every lesson they had to offer. that's it. it's gone. you won't get another chance. you will never have those opprotunities again, and it hurts to know that.

that you can hate someone you loved? because you loved them for who they were, and watching them change is that much more horrific. it's like they killed the person you loved, and replaced them with this, this mockery. it's easy to hate someone who takes your heart, and then kills the thing that held it.

why can your opinion change? because you are mutable, adaptable, fluid in every way that you allow yourself. evidence presents itself, and you can't live in delusion(you hope). and as such, you change your mind.

you regret decisions you thought were best? because again, the benifit of hindsight allows you to know what you hadn't known when you made the decision. there are a lot of people in the american army right now, who wish they'd have known there was a war coming when they signed up.

life changes so quickly because that's the nature of the universe. we are fleeting, and eternal. we live, and then die, and then live. everything is moving in one direction or another, and everything is in natural harmony. there is no joy without sadness, and in every life a little rain must fall. accept your place in the order of things, and let the fluid universe take you, and drift where you may.

Answer 2

You want people you can't have because you think they have something that will make your life better. But you can't ever really "have" anyone, and no one else has anything that will improve your life, except truth. And that's in short supply!

You miss people because they enriched your life when they were with you, even if you didn't realize it at the time.

Any positive emotion you feel about someone can turn into its opposite if you become too attached to them and you think you've "lost" them. (But remember, you can never really "have" anyone! Let people come and go as they please. Life will fill in the space they left, if you let it.)

If you have a false idea about someone, and you learn something true about them which contradicts your idea, you might feel negative about them. But you were wrong about them in the first place! Accept this, and accept who they are.

Sometimes we make decisions without knowing all the right information. But bad decisions can be made into good experiences if we learn what we did wrong so that we don't do the same thing again.

Life isn't confusing. You've been taught a lot of different and contradictory ideas about life. Your job is to sort them out, so you live your life with the RIGHT understanding. Then life gets easier because you know how it words.

Our feelings follow our thoughts. Wrong thoughts make wrong feelings. Simple!

Answer 3

If life was an exact science it would be rather boring.
I think that we get wiser with age and certainly see things from a different angle. One thing is for sure - we make our decisions the best we can based on what we know and feel at the time only so that we can second guess ourselves at a later date and maybe make some changes.
Life is a challenge and I have been dealt some bad hands, but I am glad to have played and I am still in the game !

Answer 4

Maybe sometimes your soul feels rejected and anger builds towards the person you thought you were in love with. I am currently in the situation where i want someone but that someone has different points of view than I. Life is confusing but sometimes you just have to make the best out of it or you'll end up being the one that always gets hurt.

Answer 5

i have decited that this happens b/c of several reasons
1) we are too immature to make certain chooses
2) it takes a while to really know the other person
3) if life would always b easy then it wouldnt b much fun
4) and God gives us a free will so we can change our mind we just need to use it with more thought !
5) and sometime stuff! just happiens and we just have to accept it and dont over think it!

Answer 6

You should read about Carl Rogers and his person-centered therapy. It's basically that everyone does these things, but if you become aware of what you're doing, you can change them for the better.

Answer 7

Because we react to stimulus that we receive.

Since the world around us is constantly changing, our ideas/thoughts/emotions are constantly changing.

Answer 8

everyday is a decision. we have choices all the time. For every choice there is a result, whether good or bad.

Answer 9

Because thats what life is, a series of down endings.

Answer 10

life is made to push your buttons and piss you off, especially when life has already got you down,.but later you realize that life isnt so bad, when you can make do with wat you have and when you realize how well things have gone and how great life has actually been