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Question

ok...so i was talking to one of my friends, and he lives in GA, i am from MN...and we usually IM back and forth, and he usually doesnt talk much, just says yes no and lol, so then he said something about me being a yankee cause im from the north, and all of the sudden he started ranting about how the north got help from the british and the south should have won yadda yadda yadda...so i was just wondering....why doesnt the south drop it already? i mean the south is the only place in the world where they make statues of people who LOST the war for them...so can someone explain that to me? i mean call me a stupid northern girl, but i dont get it

wow...haha from the answers ive been getting it seems pretty split lol...&& thanks for the apoligies, but they arent nessesary, it didnt hurt my feelings, i was just curious, an i deff. didnt expect so many people to answer...and i apoligize to anyone that i may have offended...

Answer 1

You are not stupid. Why does your friend care so much about a war he wasn't even alive to fight. We are one nation not a bunch of segments of a country. There have been millions of northerners and southerners fighting side by side in countless wars, WW1,II, Vietnam, Desert Storm, Iraq, etc. Your friend needs to wake up and join the rest of us in the 21st century.

Answer 2

Well I'm a proud Southerner but I do see your point. I love the sound of Dixie and I'm not a ashamed of our heritage and culture, including the Confederate Battle Flag but too many in this region make too big a deal of that useless war. Your friends history is a little messed up. The British wanted to help the South out but just couldn't support a nation with the institution of slavery still in place. The North did hire ton's of mercenaries (they had the money to do so). That is probably what he's getting at. As for our monuments, they are not dedicated to men who lost the war for us they are dedicated to men who gave everything they had to fight for and defend their homeland. After all the North did invade the South. Also the South had the best generals and tacticians they just didn't have the manpower, finances and supplies to conduct a war. Grant won the war by human wave tactics - the only US general to ever do so. That is why the Union lost 400,000 men to the South's 200,000. The bitterness comes mainly from aftermath of the war, under the misnomer "Reconstruction". The North bled the beaten South out of everything it could and the after effects were still felt 80 years later. There are a lot of misunderstood facts and truths about that infamous war.
Still as a proud Southerner myself I say it's time to move on, remember and honor the past but don't live in it. Above all else I am a proud American, second only to the Kingdom of God.

Answer 3

They burned down homes and crops after they took what they wanted. Or if they left them standing some Yankee after the war went and bought up the land for next to nothing. The war was never about slavery it was about succession. The only reason Lincoln abolished slavery was so that the south would lose their crops. It wasn't that the north was so honorable and thought slavery was bad. The north still tries to tell the south what they can and can't do. Perhaps that's why he won't let it go.

Answer 4

The South was devistated after the civil war. You know the old stereo type of a poor southerner or mountain man. Well, the country has never fully recovered from that war which was very very brutal.
Many of the southerners lost their right to anything afterward. Even life. That is why the South is bitter towards the north. It was very very bad.

Answer 5

They hate the Federal Government more than most regions. It goes back to the framing of the Constitution, goes through to the Civil War and then progress's up through the Civil RIght's Movement. They do not like to be told what to do and they believe more strongly about state's rights than any other region. Also, tell your friend that the British did not help the North; they tried to help the South. Britian wanted the U.S. to fall apart.

Answer 6

Dear Stupid Northern Girl,
Some of the people down here in the south just can not give up their little piece of history. They feel a devotion to remember and dredge up this history. I am fascinated by it, but I do not live it. I do not fly the confederate flag, and I do not hate yankees. I apologize for all my southern brethern who are unable to get past the past and just let go.

Answer 7

I know what you're talking about. Sour apples after almost 150 years. I mean jesus, your grandparents didn't even fight in it! Hearing something like that sounds like a joke, but it isn't. I was in Georgia with a friend for a road trip, and heard some hicks talking about the "War of Northern Aggression!" C'mon Billy Bob, stop screwin' your sister and pick up a damn history book, it was THE SOUTH'S FAULT!!! It's just freakin' sad.

*Oh, and where from in Minnesota? I'm from Minneapolis.

** And Kit, it was "very, very bad" a century and a half ago! You don't hear about mexico trying to retake texas and california because they didn't get a "fair shake." Time heals all things, and honest to god, how can you need more than 5 or 6 generations to get over it? You almost had the deal sealed, and your bumbling oaf of a president, Jefferson Davis, totally blew it. Your fault, you lost, get over it.

Answer 8

Stories and family feelings are passed down from generation to generation. Those of us with family members well up in their 80's have to listen to stories sent down from their parents and a lot of it has to do with residual feelings about slave ownership done in the Southern states. There is a real cultural difference found throughout our Nation. I think that is fascinating..but I do feel sad when these differences are just diversity, but grounds to continue promoting racism.

Answer 9

I am also from the south, and I don't care in the least about why the south lost, who helped the north...blah, blah, blah. It happened, it's not going to happen again, so whoop-a-dee-do. Your friend sounds like a nut, but I know people around here that are like that too...southern pride, rebel flag, etc.

Answer 10

I'm from the North and am currently living in the South (my husband's a Marine) and I've actually noticed the same thing! I've often wondered about it in the two years that I've lived here.