after the break up i have started feeling very lonely..i do have friends and family but i still feel alone...i try to keep myself busy but nothing matters...i have been seeing a counsler and i don't think it is helping..what should i do?
2006-08-22 06:33:22 · 23 answers · asked by sweetgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
How long ago was the breakup? Who broke up with whom? Why are you hanging on to it instead of working through it and moving on?
It's hard to let go, and grieving is normal...but there comes a time when you've got to realize there's a lot of life left to live, that you WILL love again, and you're wasting precious time by remaining blue when it's quite likely the other person has moved on and is doing their own thing...
Think about why the relationship ended, and that if it wasn't right then you don't want to be a part of it...there will be other opportunities but with a partner or without, life can be as fabulous as you make it...
So start making it fabulous!
2006-08-22 06:44:56 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is surround yourself with people who love and support you. Maybe getting rid of things that are reminders of him would be a good idea. Packing them in a box and putting them in the garage or closet. Seeing a counselor is a great idea, however, only time will really help as time heals all wounds. It is natural to feel lonely and sad but I would really suggest you not get involved with anyone right now as you are vulnerable and lonliness and you might mistake lonliness for love.
I really hope this helps and I am confident that in time your heart will heal! Take care and all the best!!!!!
2006-08-22 13:42:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work-out! Endorphins make you happy, so go for a run or hit the gym. You'll feel tons better. And date. It may sound bad, but there's no easier way to get over someone than to start dating someone else. Especially if you like being around them. Plus, friends can help a lot...just keep yourself busy with working out, a good hobby, hanging with friends...work. Good luck Chica!
2006-08-22 13:43:08 · answer #3 · answered by calina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to change things up a bit. I became officially single in January and went thru the "funk" that you're in. It does get better. Find some people to go out with and try new things with. New club or bar or something on a Saturday night.
Take the time for yourself. Your happiness will return soon. I promise!
2006-08-22 13:41:01 · answer #4 · answered by camoprincess32 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've truly put effort into all these things you've listed its just gonna take more time. But you need to make an effort to stay busy and be honest with the counselor. Maybe try some anti-depressants.
2006-08-22 13:41:44 · answer #5 · answered by taz4x4512 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are seeing a councilor and you don't think it is working, then I think maybe your not being fully open and honest with your councilor. Therefore your not being fair and open and honest with yourself and the help you claim you want for yourself. I suggest you open up more to your councilor. Whats the worse that can happen? Your sessions are completely confidential and noone knows what your talking about except for you and your councilor. What do you have to fear? There not there to judge you, there only there to help you.......... Why are you there? Hopefully to get the help your seeking. Good luck and open up more..... I really don't think you are. BLessed be.
2006-08-22 13:43:37 · answer #6 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a normal emotion. After all a very big part of your life is now gone. It takes time to heal after any serious relationshop ends. Give it time. What I did to get over my ex, was devote my time to making my relationshops with friends and family stronger.
2006-08-22 13:41:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals kiddo, just take comfert in the fact that you hopefully learned some things about your past relationship and can improve on the next one making it that much better!
Best of luck
Move on for the world will move on without you.
2006-08-22 13:41:13 · answer #8 · answered by Chris H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the key here is just time, it's hard to leave someone that you were that close to because being engaged is big, but obviously you did it for a reason and it was probably a really good reason. all you have to do is remind yourself the reason you left him and keep a positive attitude!
2006-08-22 13:40:17 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always found going to the health club helped me get over a break up. That way you can smile at all the cute guys and they smile back and that's enough to cheer ya up!
2006-08-22 13:42:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋