Why was it unhealthy? How long did you stay? Did you leave? Why?
2006-08-22 06:27:00 · 13 answers · asked by plenymo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, I was in one for 20 long, miserable years. I was young and naive when I met him. I was trying everything I could to get away from my parents home, which was abusive in so many ways. When I met my ex, I saw a way out. So, 3 years after we met, we got married. But, unknown to me, he was also abusive, just not quite as bad as my dad was. I was taught to stay in a relatinship no matter what happened (lying and cheating, abuse, drug use/abuse, etc). Well, all of that stuff I listed happened and I stayed. I FINALLY got a clue and left him emotionally and mentally for about a year before leaving him physically so I would stay away for good. It worked! I have since moved on with my life, am finally living in a house (a dream of mine), and have an awesome fiance that does NOT aubse me or anyone else, doesn't believe in lying and cheating, doesn't believe in using drugs, etc. I finally found my soul mate and we are getting marred next year.
If I had it to do over again and I knew then what I know now, I woldnt have even given my ex the time of day and would have got a job and got myself out of the house.
2006-08-22 07:34:47 · answer #1 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I was in an unhealthy marriage. Our relationship started out as "opposites attract", but the longer we were together the more the differences became noticeable. I stayed in that relationship of over 8 years because we had children together and I didn't want our children to suffer through having divorced parents. He left, saying he wanted his freedom. It was probably the nicest thing he ever did for me.
2006-08-22 06:47:50 · answer #2 · answered by cheryld34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's unhealthy when it starts to change you into a person you can no longer recognize yourself. that's when you know you're in an unhealthy relationship. at that point if not sooner you know to get out of it. the signs will be there from the beginning so look out for them. mine lasted 6 yrs but then again I was in my early 20's. learned the hard way but I learned a lesson that I'll never forget.
2006-08-22 08:27:08 · answer #3 · answered by mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately I have. I stayed for 2 years. The only reason why I did stay was because we were married and I wanted it to work. He wasn't like the person I dated. We dated for 3 years before we said I do. For a total of 5 years together.... After that.... He became very possessive, controlling, argumentative, and disrespectful. At the end of the day I had to sit and think to myself was it all worth it. Ultimately I decided no. I loved him yes, but I love me more. We are now separated awaiting divorce.
2006-08-22 07:06:06 · answer #4 · answered by Laila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in one for about 2 weeks. The whole time he never sobered up. I was working 2 jobs to pay bills because I an buying a house, and when I realized he was looking for a free ride despite his statements that he makes more in a day than I make in a week: I told him I didn't want to work all day and clean up after him and his buddies anymore. The next day, nothing was changed so I told him to leave. DO NOT give someone multiple chances. If something is unacceptable you do not have to put up with it.
2006-08-22 07:50:50 · answer #5 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes unfortunately i did... i was with him for 3 years. We moved in together after 3 months of dating and i honestly should have ended it there, but i was a rebelous 19 year old looking for the "easy" route out of my parents house. Multiple times over the next few months we should have gone our separate ways, however i found out i was pregnant as i was preparing to move out. I decided to give it one more shot which turned into 2 more years of lying cheating and betrayal on his part. I finally had the courage to leave him last january and i've been so much happier!
2006-08-22 06:39:42 · answer #6 · answered by camoprincess32 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stayed in a relationship that lasted 8 years. I made mistakes, she made mistakes, and it brought out the worst in both of us. You get to a point where you can no longer work things out, or it just crosses the line to becoming too much work. Where happiness was compramised due to the fact that the relationship took too much work to keep together.
Needless to say, I learned a lot about relationships, which will help me in any future ones.
2006-08-22 06:50:28 · answer #7 · answered by -J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm staying in an unhealthy relationship but I filed the papers so I'm waiting for him to decide how he wants to deal with our rights.
Why unhealthy? because it's not carrying anything to me except lies, gossips, unanswered questions and slapping...
Enough, marriages aren't meant to be battlefield and competitions....
2006-08-22 06:41:24 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stayed in several relationships with older men longer then I intended, but selfishly, it was for the sex - I liked it, they liked it, and it worked. But after a while, when no commitments were being made, I had to bow out. I dated a guy seriously for 2 years - he loved me and wanted to marry me and I just didn't feel it. I tried so hard to make it work but my feelings never quite matched his. I felt terrible but I broke up with him. Then finally, I met my husband and my world is so much better now!!
2006-08-22 06:37:14 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i stayed in anunhealthy relationship fro almost three years. it was unhealthy because he hit me and i did get out of it as you always should
2006-08-22 07:06:52 · answer #10 · answered by adnama_n_werd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋