It happened at school after class when no one was around not even the teacher. So, I'm offended when how some of you can ask that it never happened, for shame on you! The guy was ten times stronger and simply didn't understand the word " NO "! One thing is for sure I did not bring this on to myself!
2006-08-22 06:25:38 · 31 answers · asked by One Hand One Heart 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I didnt read you last question, but I assume you got a lot of negative answers from people saying you brought it on yourself or who didnt believe you. Those people should be more than ashamed of themselves, they should be embarrassed at verbalising their ignorance. Its these kind of people who make it hard for victims to come forward and they need to get a little bit more educated before they open their big ignorant mouths. It makes me so angry that anyone could think a woman/man wants to be forced into anything. It takes away our basic rights of choice. Rape has long lasting effects on the victim, so these mindless idiots who gave you these negative answers, mustnt have a brain and maybe they just get their kicks from making fun of serious issues.
I think you are very brave to speak out about your rape. My only words to you is please get some counselling because unless you do, this horrible incident will have long lasting effects on you. It may not be evident now, but it will rear its ugly head when you least expect it. Has the rapist been caught? There are rape crisis centres everywhere....have you sought help from them? You need some profesional intervention and these people do this kind of thing every day, and if it goes to court you will have profesional support. The male who raped you needs to be stopped, but ultimately it is your choice what you want to do. That is why I suggest you go see a counsellor at a rape crisis centre because they will be able to advise you of your rights. I am from Australia, and maybe our laws are different, but I know with rape victims, the counsellor is more interested in the frame of mind of the victim and helping them come to terms with their rape than in seeking justice through the legal system. I know any counsellor will only have your best interests at heart, and you wont be forced to do anything you dont want to do. And if there are legal issues then you will be informed of them when you get this help....You need the help. You need the support. I wish you all the luck in the world because you are going to have some tough times ahead....but just from the small amount I have read I believe you have a lot of strength and determination.
2006-08-28 21:43:37 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should call the police. This guy should spend some time locked up so he can be punished by having to think about what he has done. This rape will stay with you forever and probably have an effect on every single relationship you ever have. I know, I've been there. So this guy shouldn't be allowed to go on like nothing happend and he doesn't deserve a normal life. When I was raped I was 15 and no one believed me, even my best friends! So I know that its frustrating. The people who suggest it never happened just don't understand because they have not been there, It would be better to talk to someone in a organisation set up for rape victims instead. I'm glad that you say
'One thing is for sure I did not bring this on to myself!'
because that shows you are not blaming yourself, so your on the right tracks! : )
2006-08-30 05:51:25 · answer #2 · answered by toyotagirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, I'm really sorry to hear that. I hope you did have him locked away for a long time,...maybe he will see what it is like to be raped!!! I hope i can clear the air a little for others by explaining my thoughts......I cant and wont try to speak for everyone, but i think i can speak for some with my explanation. You must understand that allot of the bad feedback that you received was probably because some ppl find it hard to believe that you could get on here and talk about such a disturbing crime with perfect strangers,..some ppl cant and wont talk about something like that with their own family's. Some probably thought that it was a prank simply because of your bravery and openness to discuss it with us. So, if it is true and you ever need a friend to talk to about your feelings, then I'm sure I'm not the only one here that would be willing to be that friend. I wish you all the best, keep your head up and take care.
2006-08-22 13:46:18 · answer #3 · answered by juslookin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a really hard time accepting that people could be as un-caring as they can be. I have been raped by 2 diff. ex-b/f's @ 18&22,I was molested by a staff member @ a crisis center @ 17,then attempted rape by one of the other residents after I turned in the employee and nothing was done to him. If I were you I would ignore the in-humane's of the world.Good Luck In the Future with this Issue,Get help...join a support group in needed.
2006-08-22 13:51:58 · answer #4 · answered by xaviersmother2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you had to go through something like that. Forget what those other people say, you went through something horrific and they're certainly not helping it. Have you sought counselling to deal with the after effects of your experience? Its worth a try if its going to help you get past this rape and move on. By the way I hope you reported this guy and he's behind bars for life. Good luck with life.
2006-08-22 13:37:47 · answer #5 · answered by dsd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happened to a friend of mine in school too. Rape is rape. My friend tried to commit suicide after that. Best thing to do is never be alone with any guy. Boys are stronger than women. Did you go to the police. You should have. I hope you went to the emergency room too.
2006-08-22 13:36:14 · answer #6 · answered by T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that you were raped at school by another student. I know a similar situation. A girl in my school got raped by a student who was much stronger, and it was in front of about 10 students, the teacher left the room for awhile and then it occurred. I was one of the witnesses who testified in court for her. I will tell you, this happened close to exam time. The girl never came back to school nor did she do her exams. She was threatened by many of the other girls in our school. Charge the *******!!!!!
2006-08-27 16:05:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry you had to experience that. It most definately was not your fault and I imagine was probably a very traumatic incident for you.
I hope that with time and with good people around you, you can recover and be stronger than ever!
2006-08-22 13:41:25 · answer #8 · answered by kari 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you guys out there why do you rape girls how do you guys do a thing so bad to a girl to a woman it like killing her if you think with your top head an not the one that know what he want its your lower head when it come to rape i can tell you your looking at 20years in jail for that 1 time of getting puss.y jack off you get to fell what it like to get rape when you go to jail you get that 10 in up your bu.tt hole when 2 guys are holding you down then you know what it like to be rape and i gest if you stell want to rape a girl when you get out of jail oooooo i for got you will not like girls by then so if you want to rape a man try it all i can say we are not all of guys are for for rape so dont hold it good for all guys ok soory it happen to you but you have get over it take your time it hurt like a guy will never know JERRY
2006-08-22 14:48:15 · answer #9 · answered by do it good 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you because i do know how you feel since I have been raped myself and i know that it is hard to get over but have you got any help with this. I hope that you will talk with someone and let them help you go through the stages of this crime. The more you work through it the sooner you will heal.
please let me know if i can help you in any way
2006-08-22 13:38:39 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋