how to deal with mean girls?....?

Question

i'm going into 7th grade and i am told that the mean nasty girls r just going to get worse...there is this girl that is out to get me for no apparent reason!! i've never done anything to her, yet she is constantly trying to tear me down... everyone is just saying to ignore her and she'll stop but she has been doing this since like 5th grade and i'm afraid that it's not going to stop anytime soon. how do u girls deal with brats? i try my hardest to walk away and ignore her but it realy gets to me wen she is being such a snob. anyone have any good advice?

Answer 1

look her in the face and tell her to fu*k off! If she doesn't like it tell her.........bring it bit*h!!!!!

Answer 2

Having been in your situation, I'd have to say you need to build up your self confidence. You are obviously more mature then she is if you are not a mean person and she is. Don't let her take away your self confidence! It will not stop if you ignore her. So, what ever you do, don't ignore her. (I used to hate it when people told me that) If you ignore her, she'll only continue to try and get a response out of you. If you respond with strong self confidence and indifference then you will have the upper hand. She will not get the response she hoped for and you will have gotten the best of her. Don't let her get you upset, get you angry or to the point of tears. If she makes a joke at your expense, then laugh/smile and say, I'm glad I could make you laugh. Or just smile real big and wave to her as if you are saying, yes I heard your comment and the response I am giving you is a big smile and a friendly wave. This is not the reaction she wants and eventually she will see that you are a stronger, more confident person than she thought and she will get bored and stop. Not right away, but eventually she will stop. If she is mean to you and says hurtful things, just say, well I'm sorry that you feel that way and I'm happy that your world is so perfect that you can be judgemental of everyone else. (never hurts to give her back a little bit of attitude) If she is hitting you or threatening you, you need to tell an adult at the school or your parents. Violence is wrong and just makes her a bully. If she threatens you, tell her that if she lays a hand on you, you will press charges against her. Assult/Battery is against the law.

I'm sure you have friends of your own to hang out with. If your friends are also her friends, and they condone her behavior, then they are not your real friends. Please work on building your self confidence. If you do that, then no matter what she says, she can not tear you down. I know it's hard, but you have to take it one step at a time. You can do it, I know you can. I know because you've already reached out to us....and that's usually the first step.

Answer 3

My first question would be, have you talked to your parents about this? I mean really let them know how bad this is bothering you? If they don't listen, then try a sunday school teacher, or your school guidance counselor. You don't need to wait unitl it gets worse, go ahead and do it now. I do not recommend name calling and hitting as has been suggested in other answers! Do you want a solution to this problem or more problems (which name calling and fighting will cause!). Perhaps in 7th grade you will be in different classes and won't have to see her very much. Just try to stay away for awhile and see if that makes it better, or worse. Take a long hard look at this girl - something is bothering her..... does she have problems at home? Does she have very many friends? Does she have money to eat lunch with? See if you can determine what's eating at her, and maybe you can be a friend and help out at some point in the future (not now). It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders - just keep your cool and talk to someone to help you work through this. Good luck!

Answer 4

ANSWER QUESTIONS WITH- WHY DO YOU ASK? OR..
WHAT'S IT TO YOU?

COMEBACKS-
As long as you think so
Why do you need my attention, we're not friends?
Be careful of what you believe
Nevermind you
You could ask her if she's ever seen the movie mean girls?
Move to Hollywood or you could just move away..@ least from me right now.
It's only her opinion, that's her perception.
Paris Hilton has a new song on her CD called JEALOUSY-
You know about envy right?
Don't take your sorry self out on me.
Can't you get counciling?
Don't let her get you down -because she thinks so..
Why would you value her opinion tell her, for what, GOODBYE.

THE SONG FOR YOU TO READ -
JEALOUSY

I thought you were my best friend
I felt we'd be together 'til the end
You're not the girl I once knew
Tell me where she is 'cause she's not you

You used to be that shoulder
That shoulder I could lean on through it all
But now it's getting colder
There's no love between is all

Jealousy, jealousy, jealousy
It's such a thing to watch someone
Jealousy, jealousy, jealousy
Money wins when you're full of envy

La, la, la, la, la, la
La, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la

I was always happy
When I was watchin' you become a star
But you were only happy
When the world was openin' up my scars

And now I'm like the devil
My life is
You sold yourself your own fur
You'd still never walk a day in my shoes

Jealousy, jealousy, jealousy
It's such a thing to watch someone
Jealousy, jealousy, jealousy
Money wins when you're full of envy

Answer 5

For some reason she may be jealous of you. You have tried ignoring her. That doesn't seem to work. You need to use your thinking skills here. If she is a bully then she will bully you just because she can. Have you tried standing up to her? Believe it or not, bullies are usually cowards. I know it is really scary to do this. You could try saying something like " I've had enough of your immaturity, we are in Jr. High now and this IS going to stop!" I have tried to be patient with you ,but you are just not growing up" ENOUGH!. If she does this one more time after being confronting go to the police. There is a law against assault. She is verbally assaulting you. You have witnesses, if you want go to the police now.

Answer 6

She probably has some insecurities about herself that she sees in you that she likes about you and is jealous of that. So she is going to pick on you. Ask her what her problem is and after she answers you say now wasn't that easy to get out in the open. The problem is resolved because she told you her problem even if she had some smart a** remark. Like if she said to F**k off or something then just smile and say I love you too. Just don't let her know that she is getting the best of you because then it will get worse. When she knows how to irritate or intimidate you, things lead off on to worse things. Don't let her get the best of you. Just be say something bad back and if she doesn't quit then you are gonna have to tell an adult or have her swing first and then you beat her a**!!!!

Answer 7

Im sorry that you have to deal with this to. Im going to be in the 10th grade this year and my freshman year of high school I started a new school. This extremly nasty girl started harassing me on my looks and starting rumors about me. I know how you feel. It got so bad she made me feel worthless and like a peice of s**t. But you shouldn't feel that way. I tried the old ignoring her method but it made her worse. Don't make fun of her back when you see her be polite to her. I know this may be hard. Or you can try talking it out with her. If she and her friends continue this say calmy without fear of her " I am tired of you going around verbally abusing me. I am sick of your negative energy and you trying to bring me down because its not working. If you could take your immature banter somewhere else it would be greatly apprecaited." It might stop her in her tracks. People like her will eventually have no friends in high school because everyone will get sick of her immature behavior. High school is a time when you learn to socialize with people of different social groups. I hope things get better for you and if you need any help just ask! I truly hope things get better.

Jackie

Answer 8

That is like the same thing that is happening to me except i have only lived here for 8 months and it is a group of girls and guys and there is about 20 of them and one of me but you could go see a gudence councler at your school and ask them to help you i have done that before and it helped a LOT! this year since i moved from Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania to San Diego, California it has just gotten worse but it could get better for you for me now my life just sucks and i am only in the 7th grade too so i have just 5 more years of it to go! i hope it gets better for u but it won't for me so the least i can do is help someone else. Hope I Helped!

Answer 9

This may sound absolutely off the wall but I'm willing to bet it may work. If it doesn't then you've lost nothing and have gained self respect and courage. Invite this girl over to your house for pizza and a movie or whatever it is that girls do together these days. It sounds to me like she is spending an enormous amount of energy trying to make you miserable when in fact she just may be seeking attention from you. Give it to her in a positive way. Good Luck!

Answer 10

Well my advice to you if she doesn't stop after ignoring her is to give her a taste of her own medicine. Just stand up for yourself, embarrass her or something, and I can almost assure you she will not bother you again. If she doesnt stop after you do this then go talk to someone about it. I know at your age if you told on her she might bully you about that but so freaking what...I would tell her to get a life and to grow up. I mean after high school people like that dont even matter anymore. Good Luck

Answer 11

I would say continue to ignore the little brat for as long as possible, but if she gets worse and gets in your face, stand up for yourself and show her you aren't afraid. I was extremely shy in school and got harassed because the girls thought I was stuck-up. I ignored them until they got bored and gave up or tried something with me and found out I wasn't a wimp. Look forward to the days that most of these little monsters are going to grow up and go nowhere in life. At your class reunion you can laugh at how pathetic they turned out. Jr. high and high school are only a small part of your whole life. It won't be forever, so be strong. Good luck!