I am the more generous type, my spouse is the more selfish type, will he ever change? and I can't be generous because of him it brings conflicts into the marriage.
2006-08-22 06:02:09 · 17 answers · asked by Ultrabrite 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Could be a problem - he won't change and you won't change him
Money matters are a main reason for couples splitting
good luck
2006-08-22 06:12:39 · answer #1 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My father could "make a penny scream" he was so cheap. It's funny because my boyfriend of a year now is the most fantastic man I've known but he is also the cheapest. If you are already married, you should know by now that there's no changing them - even if they want to, the way he was raised and his natural behaviors will always win out in the end. I was angry about it at first but now, if I feel like buying him something I do it anyway even though he insists that I don't because he claims he can't get me anything in return. Maybe it would be better if you had a separate income and account that you could use to be generous to other people without upsetting him. Try to explain to him that it is part of who you are to give just as it is part of him to hold on to money. If you compromise and promise him you won't go overboard you may win him over. In my case, our finances are still separate although we live together, but at some point I'm sure I will face this issue too and I've already thought it through. I hope some of this helps, happy giving!
2006-08-28 15:33:42 · answer #2 · answered by pamela f 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your husband is a more responsible individual then you are. Cheapskate? That's a low life individual who takes a girl out on a date and she ends up with the bill. Or someone sitting in a bar where everyone takes turns buying a drink but the cheapskate disappears when it's his turn to buy. Are you mistaking him for something he isn't because he's a responsible person insuring that his family -"You"- are properly taken care of? I'd think twice before calling him a cheapskate.
2006-08-29 09:39:07 · answer #3 · answered by AL 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe if you stop being so generous to the cheapskate people,the maybe they will feel like they need to kick in.
2006-08-29 13:36:02 · answer #4 · answered by marrissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's not so much a cheapskate as he is worried (or just thinking) about the future. maybe your "generous" nature scares him. my husband is like you and i am like your husband. if i didn't monitor our money and take care of the finances, we would be bankrupt for sure. i don't really think things will change, but try seeing things from his perspective and ask him to do the same for you.
2006-08-29 10:25:59 · answer #5 · answered by Vol_Fan 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-29 04:17:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is doubtful that a cheapskate ever changes....but he should not be that way with you...maybe there is some kind of understanding you two can come to...i am a giver myself..but at times i know i have mis foot myself trying to help others...
2006-08-22 06:15:51 · answer #7 · answered by sanangel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do "cheapskate" people ever change?
I know of it thru hearsay!
2006-08-22 06:15:07 · answer #8 · answered by DM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I'm dealing woth one right now why doyou think I want ot give him the boot. He waitde too long too change and my heart has changed.
2006-08-30 05:27:25 · answer #9 · answered by friend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both create a balance. Where you spend too much, he saves the extra.
If you change him into a spender...you will not be spending very long yourself.
2006-08-22 06:15:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋