My husband was married to another woman and they have two teenage boys 16 and 17. They divorced 5 years ago in which she kept his last name all this time. Well she recently married and she still kept my husbands last name she just added a hyphen to it. Example: Kathy Rocksford-Gimbrone. My husband is having a fit over this. What can we do. My husband spoke to the oldest son about this and he thinks it is wrong. Please help?
2006-08-22 06:01:52 · 21 answers · asked by Kristine B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As much as it infuriates you, it's not illegal. She probably kept it so the kids could keep that attachment to their father. It would royally tick me off too, but there's not much you can do about it. Just remember, you are with him now, and that's all that matters.
2006-08-22 06:11:32 · answer #1 · answered by Donkey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My best friend did this, mainly because her kids from her first marriage have her ex's last name and one of them is still in school, so it makes it easier when enrolling her in school. Plus, she likes the last name she had, not her maiden name (her maiden name is Knack and her previously married name is Miller). To add a hyphen and put the new husbands name to it is so she can also have the new husbands last name out of respect for him.
It is NOT illegal to do this. It is becoming more popular, tho. When people get married, it is up to the woman to decide what last name she wants to have (married name, maiden name, or another name), and it is the same when she gets married. I don't see this as a way to disrespect your husband, the kids, o9r her husband. I think it is a way to respect all of you.
2006-08-22 14:54:23 · answer #2 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys are wasting your time being angry over it. Do you know a person can change their name to any name they want? If for some reason she took back a different name after she divorced your husband, she could still legally change it to his name just by filing some paperwork and letting it set in the county courthouse for 30 days.
It should not be a topic open for discussion between the boys. There is nothing you can do about it!
2006-08-22 13:11:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is legal his last name is hers as soon as they marry and she can make the choice to keep it or not. Your husband should mind his business and keep the kids out of it. Did you ever think she kept her first married name for the children so she would not have a different last name from them? If this is all you have to worry about you and your husband need to get a life. Tell him it is wrong to ask a child's opinion that is making him choose between his parents. Your husband sounds like a butt munch, and so do you for following this up.
2006-08-22 13:11:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's legal. My sister kept her first husbands last name and hyphened her new husbands last name to it. She had a child with her first husband and wanted to keep his name still attached to hers for the sake of the child. As long as that was once her legal name (SS cards changed to prove it) it can always be her legal name and she can hyphen any name to it she wants.
2006-08-22 13:10:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's just a name, and he gave it to her when he married her and they have two children. Look at it as if she is benefitting the kids and not torment you guys.....Maybe there is more than one Kathy Rocksford - Walden.....It's just a name.
The important things is that you have the man. WHAT"S IN A NAME?????
I am shocked that newby agreed with it.
2006-08-22 13:11:37 · answer #6 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.However, I she must have keep his name because of the kids having his last name and did not want their names to be different from hers.Some women retain the name legally in a divorce. That is ok, for her to have the last name as long as you do not sign legal doc. with it.
There is an attached website for you regarding womwn taking husbands name.
2006-08-22 13:19:05 · answer #7 · answered by DianaL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's odd... I'd think they new husband wouldn't want the wife having the name of a former husband attached to his name. If the kids think it's wrong she isn't doing it for them.....seems like she's got some kind of issue either letting go of the old hubby or it's a control play.
2006-08-22 13:11:58 · answer #8 · answered by tecvba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did that because my young daughter didn't want her biological fathers' last name(my ex husband) but my ex wouldn't let my soon to be new husband adopt her and give her his name. I asked my ex and his wife and my fiance if anybody objected to me keeping both married names. They all thought it was an ok solution. Weird, I know--but it worked for us.
2006-08-22 13:22:36 · answer #9 · answered by dawnee_babe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's legal because it's her name. Now my question is what's up with her new husband that he would allow this. I could understand her doing it if she had small children as to not confuse everybody but these boys are almost grown. That was insensitive to you, your husband and her new husband. But there is nothing you can do but get upset. Only the new husband can insist she change it.
2006-08-22 13:10:14 · answer #10 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋