I've been dating this woman for 6 months now, i think, she is awsome, she smart, and sexy. But I have a few problems wrong with the relationship, she has told me things that she has done that i don't agree with. She had sex, with a married man, she also got pregnant by another man, and had sex with a man who wasn't the father of the child, while she was pregnant. she tells me that this is her past, and that i should only be concerned about the present. But, I keep thinking about it. she has told me i'm greatest thing that has ever happened in her life, but I don't know if I can accept all of this. And i'm really asking myself should I be with her?
2006-08-22 05:53:20 · 10 answers · asked by u_already_know81 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Look, Her past has made her who she is today. Everyone you meet is going to have something in their past you may not like. You should try to let is pass. Sometimes it is hard to accept the past of someone that you care about, but think of it this way, if you didnt care about her it wouldn't bother you so much. Keep being the greatest thing is her life perhaps you are exactly what she needs to improve herself as well. Woman have tendancy of doing stupid things with guys to get them to like them, I don't think it was her intention of doing them to be slutty but perhaps these men were giving her a line of crap and she thought something real was going to happen with them, unfortunatley it didn't and now she is stuck with a crappy past. Understand that even though you don't agree with all that she has done it is in the past. She cares for you and if you care for her that is what is important now. Be happy you find her too. She could be the best thing for you too.
2006-08-22 06:07:03 · answer #1 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very smart to question this relationship! If you think you really are falling in love with her then take your time before making a committment. Her true colors will show pretty soon and you will know if she has changed. Sometimes women feel like they have to tell someone they care about the things about their past in order to be honest. Did she say why she told you those things? If she continues to talk about her past I would question the reason why. Good luck, you seem like a nice person.
2006-08-22 13:15:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she cares about you, if not she wouldn't have told you all that.
She could have just kept her mouth shut, which is much easier than saying what she did. I think she wants to start from cero with you, which means having no secrets that could come up in the future and destroy a relationship.
Yes, she might have had very free sex affairs in the past, that doesn't mean she is not capable of having a true relationship with you.
Although having sex while with another guy while pregnant...!!!Maybe she is one ofthe sex-adiccts and needs to go therapy.
Talk to her about it, the reasons... I think I would go crazy too
2006-08-22 15:52:19 · answer #3 · answered by yogmog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has told the same story to 99 persons already. You are the 100th man. Why are you crazy about her? Just for the purpose of sexual satisfaction, do you want to surrender yourself in between the thighs of an immoral lady? World is so wide. You can get better companion if you divert your attention for some time. Good luck!
2006-08-22 15:26:25 · answer #4 · answered by SRIRANGAM G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not being crazy but the past should stay in the past. She told you those things and she didnt have to. If you can't get over the fact of her being honest and accepting the things that she did then you need to move on. But if you are going to be with her then you need to leave her past behind and not bring it up to her ever again.
2006-08-22 13:03:28 · answer #5 · answered by FRECKLES 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really care for her then I would stop doubting her. if she has truely changed, it will show over time. All secrets do come to the light! When you worry things happen so just take your time with her and let everything play out on it's own. Just be careful and protect your heart at all times. Good luck and I wish you two all the best!
LOL & Be Good...=)
2006-08-22 13:07:20 · answer #6 · answered by feva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends. if u wanna be with her by marrying her... give it some time, say around 7-8 months. and u shud not spy on her but jus observe if she still see's other guys.
if u wann be with her as a friend... then just be. date have fun. but keep it clear that you r dating and not engaged.
if she has been honest enough about her past she would (hopefully) be honest about her present too.
BUT PLEASE DO NOT MARRY HER IF YOU CANNOT COME OVER HER PAST AND WILL KEEP BLAMING AND TORTURING HER FOR THE SAME.
YOU BOTH DESERVE A BETTER LIFE THAN THAT.
2006-08-22 13:08:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
all people have a past good or bad don't judge them on it if they are different now.You have to keep in mind that people who don't make the right decisions alot probably never had parents to teach them right from wrong.They probably didn't grow up in the best of circumstances don't blame her for stupid decisions she made if she is a better person now and learned from them>good luck
2006-08-22 14:02:20 · answer #8 · answered by samwise25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a liar, fraud, cheat and unreliable.
She wants anyone to have sex. She is a maniac.
You are her next taget.
Take care - Think and act.
Save your self from such dangerous females.
2006-08-22 13:05:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a Hoe Always a Hoe...
2006-08-22 13:02:07 · answer #10 · answered by ?Whiskey Girl? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋