I'm in kind of a bind. I'm dating this amazing girl, smart, caring, affectionate, beautiful... but there is only one draw back. She has a best friend that always needs to be around her. Seriously, if her friend is not at work, she is hanging around us, getting in the way. Whats worse is that she doesn't have a car so my girl has to drive and pick her up at work every night and she works at a damn bar. In other words, my lady and I will by lying asleep in my bed at night and her friend will call at 3am and need a ride, its so frustrating. WHat can I do about this?
2006-08-22 05:50:39 · 8 answers · asked by MSUSpartan117 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Talk to your girlfriend about her friend. If the situation is as bad as you described and your girlfriend is an understanding person, she will probably say something to her friend(she is the one who needs to talk to her friend about it by the way, not you. If you say something to her friend, it will only make her more antagonistic towards you, and it is a bad thing for a developing relationship to have the best friend against it).
If the situation isn't as bad as you describe, or your girlfriend doesn't see a problem, you're going to have to start viewing the best friend as part of the package that comes with your amazing girl. The question is at that point, is she amazing enough to put up with her always around best friend?
Good luck
2006-08-22 06:07:31 · answer #1 · answered by danreynolds1975 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to address the issue with your girl. Be delicate about it because they seam to be very close friends.
Use the approach something like this: "Doesn't it bother you that she calls you in the middle of the night for a ride?" or jokingly say " I hope she at least pays for some of your gas !! "....
Say that you would like to spend a romantic evening alone and to maybe shut her cell off..
Her friend seams to be a little selfish... I mean, I would never call my friend at 3h am to pick me up, unless it's an emergency. It is lacking respect towards the other person and shows that she trully only cares for herself. One can only hope that she will do the same thing for your girlfriend if she needed a ride at 3am...
2006-08-22 13:03:50 · answer #2 · answered by Jojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your girlfriend is very weak, not being able to tell her friend not to push so far. And if she doesn't realize, she is not as smart as you think.
In both cases, you have nothing to do, your girlfriend does. If nothing happen from her side, I think that you won't have an other option than breaking up. You are the stranger of the story, she has to make the move!
2006-08-22 13:18:09 · answer #3 · answered by Candie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is just obnoxious on the part of the friend and your girlfriend should be comfortable enough with her friend to tell her to stop it.
When the two of you want to be alone, the friend should pick up on that without being told and just leave on her own. She must be very thick skinned.
Sometimes thick skinned people need the little extra push of being told to go...........so do it as nicely as possible.
2006-08-22 13:00:27 · answer #4 · answered by purplewings123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just have to say something to her about it...you aren't saying they can't be friends or hang out but it is a little rediculous that she has to pick her up from work all the time.....unless they are dating and haven't told you yet
2006-08-22 12:58:51 · answer #5 · answered by prjeff46 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch ur girl, going out at 3AM, with ..., but to where, to whose bed?
2006-08-22 14:17:55 · answer #6 · answered by kamesvari i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to ur girl about it
2006-08-22 12:59:31 · answer #7 · answered by one in a million 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fart as much can and watch
2006-08-22 12:57:51 · answer #8 · answered by george p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋