I am 24yrs. old. I LOST MY ONLY CHILD 4YRS AGO, ONLY A WEEK AFTER HE WAS BORN, I WOULD REALY LIKE A CHILD NOW,BUT MY MAN HAS 2 OTHER KIDS SOoooo u tell me what to do, please. MY MAN IS 22, HIS DAUGHTER IS 3YRS. AND SON 1YR.
2006-08-22 05:47:59 · 21 answers · asked by gameswomanply 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
only u can answer this
2006-08-22 05:55:10 · answer #1 · answered by canibus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We have no way of knowing whether you are pregnant or not. Are you ready for a child? No. If you have to ask other people's opinion you are not ready. First of all, are you even married to this man? If not, you don't need to be getting pregnant at all. God designed us to parent together for life - yes, I know sometimes things happen and people end up being a single parent, but it's HARD, and that's not how it's supposed to be for the child, or the parent - it should be a shared responsibility, with both parents in the home and legally married. Why marry? Well, for an example, if something happened to "your man" and you have a child by him, you are still not entitled to anything to help support the child in your "man's" name. The child can, but you can't. If you live with this man and he dies you are not entitled to social security benefits through him or anything. If you are married to him, then you would be able to draw SS benefits from his income when you're old enough. If I were you, I would wait about bringing another life into this world until you are settled and ready to give up your own life for that of a child. It's not something that you can do just on weekends, or a couple of weeks in the summer - your responsibility to that child doesn't end until you are dead and gone, or until they are. It's life long. At 24 years old you still have a number of years to get prepared for this journey, and you'll know without a doubt when you have arrived to the place to begin the trip.
2006-08-22 13:06:34 · answer #2 · answered by heartforhelping 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your man isn't old enough to have a college education much less old enough to have 2 children of those ages. Are you married? Unless you are married (or have some form of legalized committment or pre-nup for pregnancy or children that come out of your relationship) and he has the capabilities of providing you with a wholesome environment (stable home, health and life insurance, and good food and companionship), I would not try to have children with this man. I hope you can make the right decision for not just you, but your future children as well. A lot of relationships fail when couples have children and realize that the relationship is no longer the most important thing.
2006-08-22 12:58:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Search your heart and may a positive decision that is in everyone's best interest. Find out how your man feels about having another child right now. And above all make sure your ready, because its you that has the most at stake. Only you know if you're ready, noone else can make that decision for you. Good luck, and no matter what, be HAPPY!!!
2006-08-22 12:59:12 · answer #4 · answered by 2"CUTE"2B30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you were both way to young when you started having children but I can understand that after having lost one child that you would like to have another one. But like anyone you should make sure that you are ready financially and emotionaly. Plus you need to make sure that you are with the right person. You are 24 so it shouldn't be an emergency. I am 27 and me and my husband are going to wait 2 more years so that we are a little more settled. I am sorry that you lost your child, that must have been terrible.
2006-08-22 12:56:55 · answer #5 · answered by Constant_Traveler 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you lost your child. But only you can truly answer these questions. If you are pregnant, go get a test or go to the doctor. How does your man feel about you having children together?
2006-08-22 12:55:28 · answer #6 · answered by sistermoon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What has one to do with the other?
I know you think they are connected but they really are not. You have to ask yourself if you are ready. Probably you will never be sure and as children are...are you ever?
4 Years is a long time to grieve. Some take longer, some never get over it.
You say: I WOULD REALLY LIKE A CHILD NOW
What was your question?
2006-08-22 12:54:19 · answer #7 · answered by Puppy Zwolle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss : (
You may feel physically or emotionally ready, but are you sure you have found the right man to father your child?
Starting a family is a huge deal. It changes you and your life completely.
Are you married? Do you have a career?
.... there are so many other things to consider before deciding for sure.... take your time, so things will be right for you.
2006-08-22 12:59:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its time to grow up and take responsibility for your life and your unborn child. Go see a dr. and get your diet and health in order so that you can have a happy healthy baby. Good luck!
2006-08-22 12:55:09 · answer #9 · answered by Michael S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should confront your husband and let him know that you would like a child of your own, with him to raise together with his other children. Ya'll are both still young and have a lot of time to raise a child.
2006-08-22 12:56:00 · answer #10 · answered by MDdomer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to know if your pregnant without taking a test. Go get one and find out for sure.
2006-08-22 12:54:53 · answer #11 · answered by Teresa W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋