What should I do?

Question

I met this guy and he is awesome. We have been hanging out for a few a weeks. He told me that he is going through a divorce. Well then he says that hes not going through a divorce but he and his wife dont get a along and he moved out of the bedroom a year ago. And that they havent been intimate since then. He says that he stays because of his daughter. I really like him and we have so much fun together. I would love to be more with him but i cant. What should I do?

Answer 1

RUN - DON"T WALK away from this relationship. He is a married man - who cheats on his wife. Fun or not, you can bet the he is lying to his wife to sneak time with you.

Or... offer to call his wife and discuss what her thoughts are on the subject of him hanging out with you - a single female. I would bet that she doesn't even know they supposedly have problems.

You do not want to get involved with a married man. That will do a number of things including ruining your reputation and losing respect of everyone that you know.
Also- he may just have a wife like me, that if I found out my husband was cheating on me, I would spend every waking moment of my life making his life suck. He would leave with nothing more than the cloths on his back and his car. Everything else would either stay here - or burn.

And pity the chick he hooks up with, since I will make sure everyone is aware of the tramp that she is to be involved with a married man.

Please get out while the getting is good. There are plenty of single guys out there. You really don't want to get involved with someone who is married. Respect your self and RUN.

Answer 2

My best friend was in a similar relationship a year ago, as well as the Mom of a girl I babysit. You'd think a guy could get original with his story! After my friend had sex with him a few times he decided he was going to "try to work it out" eith the wife, again, for the daughters sake. The lady who's daughter I watch, he has said he is leaving so many times and that they have nothing, interesting how the wife ended up pregnant..... bottom line, if he is not man enough to tell her up front that it is over and deal with the changes it will bring to his life (and his daughter) then he is not a man you want or need. What if you were his wife?? How would you feel?? I think you know the right thing to do, or you would not be asking this question. When it is right, it is right. This is not right, he began it with 1 lie, how many more are you going to let him get away with??

Answer 3

He needs to get his life straight before he gets involved with you and you know thats right. You dont want to be caught up in a divorce problem, Have you told him how you feel about him?
let him know how you feel and that you want something more than friendship than you will see if he really wants to be with you too by making a movein to his divorce or if he doesnt do anything than he still wants something there, The fact that he is staying there because of his daughter is not an excuse he could still see his daughter and everything would be the same, Just let him know what you think???
Good luck.

Answer 4

Accept an answer from a guy who knows? This man has lied to you once already, therefore he ain't trustworthy If you want to get serious with him, start once he has moved out of the family home, and not before! If you are intent on seeing him while he's still in the family home, make sure that he and his wife have agreed to see other people, and the best way of doing that is asking her! My strongest feeling tho is to not go near this guy with a barge pole.

Answer 5

you should remain friends with him, because he's not divorced and you shouldn't have more feelings than just a friend for a married man, even though he isn't living with his wife. You should be a friend and convince him to go back with his wife, it's the only right thing to do, and get him to work out the problems with his wife.

Answer 6

if he hasnt left his wife yet and hes been supposedly out of the bedroom for a year its highly doubtful that he will leave her.I would not push this if i were you.Tell him that you cant knowingly enter into a relationship with him because hes married and when he leaves her to come to you then.But i would walk away from this becasue you will end up getting hurt.He told you hes leaving her then he says hes not becausse of his kid.Think long and hard on this look at it like your looking in on someone else with this problem.You dont want to be classified a home wrecker and you dont wanna be the mistress.You deserve better then being second best.

Answer 7

Move on.
Leave him.
Find another (SINGLE) guy.

Here's a quarter, buy a clue: we guys love to have sex.
Most of us are pretty straight about it, but some will cheat on their wives...and we'll lie like a dog to some unwitting chick (like yourself) to get you to give us a little of that sweet stuff.
We'll tell you all sorts of stuff about how bad things are back at the old homestead, just to keep you dangling on the line, all the while you are hoping and waiting for the day that we'll be all yours.
And that day rarely happens.

Answer 8

You've already answered your own question. You can't! Tell him when he get the balls to move out of the house completely, give you a call. You don't want to get in the middle of his mess. Children would rather grow up in a broken home then to live in one. His daughter is aware of what is going on, more that he thinks. I'm sure she would rather see her dad in a happy relationship than a fake one.

Answer 9

baby girl, he needs to do the right thing first. he needs to get a divorce. then start dating you. don't fall for what he says, otherwise you'll be only the "other woman" in his life. remember that he's still taken and not until he's single then you can consider going out with him. of couse you can still be friends but no more than that right now.

Answer 10

If he has good feeling to you. you and he have a right to meet and love together. i can not say to you about daugther he has but i think he will divorce. whatever his daughter will be(i'm sorry for her but), you should achieve your love with him. Don't get nervous. Have confidence and attain your aim.Better late than never and The will is as good as the deed.