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Question

I said "oh **** you" to my mom and left the house for long walk. I'm back and she's not here, idk were she went. The reason i said it was...She said "YOUR TO MUCH LIKE YOUR DAD! THATS WHY YOUR SO STUPID". I have been having some trouble with school (i suck at math). she's alway said stuff like that...i love her but i really don't like her. ah i don't know what to do.
(I'm14)

Answer 1

she's probably gone to look for you!
when you've both calmed down, then try and explain how it makes you feel when she says that. I know it sounds sad, but it should work, so long as you rspect the fact that she will almost certainely have something to say to you as well. But whatever you do, don't lose your temper while this conversation is going on, because then she won't take you seriously... Also, if you really don't get on try and arrange your own personal space which you both respect for when you just need some space. Also, have you thought of getting a tutor/asking the teacher for extra help/getting a friend to explain stuff to you, so she can see that you're trying. Finally, try and avoid swearing at her. I know it's difficult, but somebody once said that swearing was what people who can't express themselves properly do. So it won't help her to take you seriously, and it makes both of you more mad, trust me! If you just try and talk to her sensibly you can hopefully come to some sort of compromise. Good luck!

Oh yeah, you should apologise as well- I know its hard but it does help!

Answer 2

She was wrong to say that to you and to provoke you into such a terrible response. She must be really frustrated with your dad. When she comes back, and of course she will, you two need to sit down and apologize to each other since you were both out of line, and talk about this. Ask her what is good about your dad. Maybe she can think of a few things. Just make sure to keep your temper. She will too, if you do. Good luck.

Answer 3

It seems that your Mom has some unresolved problems concerning your Dad.

1) Firstly, apologise to your Mom for what you said about her comments regarding your Dad (I presume that your were reacting against her criticism of both you AND your Dad.).

2) Secondly, study well your math and/or get some help. You may even ask math questions and hoemwork-related stuff here. I see lots of questions like this on this WebSite.

Answer 4

well i would give her a little while to cool off just like you did. then, if she doesnt come back for a while, call around to some of her friends. once you find her, just talk to her about it. tell her that you are your own person and you dont like being called stupid. its not her right to call you names and make you feel like s*** just because shes your mother.

let her know exactly how you feel and apologize for snapping at her. this should make things a little smoother.

good luck =]

--and i think you and your mom could benefit from a little mother-daughter bonding time...just try to relax together, reach an understanding of your relationship (even if you both decide you dont like eachother)
you just need to work some things out with her because it sounds like she is going to drive you insane before you even get into high school

Answer 5

I'm 15 and constantly am fighting with my mom. I know how you feel. I have 4 sisters and am constantly being compared to them. Just take some time to cool off buy going for a walk, writing, singing, exercising. Its good ways to let off steam. Just don't take out your anger by yelling or hurting someone physically. Trust me all teenagers go through a time when they hate their parents.
It will be okay soon. Just try and deal with her and use these methods to blow off steam in a healthy way.

Answer 6

i know it's kind of hard when ur parents insult u and make u feel bad about ur self, but just think about the good things that u have, it doesn't matter how people judge u, it just matter how u r. My father is really mean at me 'cause i'm great at school, the 2nd best one of my class, i work with him in his office and he doesn't pay me, and i try 2b a nice kid, but he says that i suck at everything so now i just don't care what he says i just try to do the good things anyway just to feel happy with myself. that's what really matters. Forgive ger, and tell her u r sorry, but tell her that u need some respect.

Answer 7

she is your mom! you do not swear at her. that is really disrespectful. although that was really wrong for her to say that to you, you do not answer with that response. your mom is probably driving around cooling down, or looking for you. if she is not back within 3 hours call a friend or family member, and tell them everything that happened. get help with math. and never say anything like that to your mom again.
good luck

Answer 8

Your mom is probably out lookin for u so when she comes back tell her why you cursed at her because it her your feelings when she called u stupid and make a compromise from there

Answer 9

Just do the dishes or something for her and don't say anything because you have feelings too.She shouldn't cll you stupid she should help you more.You don't need to liike her as long as you love her.She's you'r mom,not you'r friend.

Answer 10

thats really bad..... is WAS wrong 4r ur mom to say something like this. i would have done da same thing BUT I WOULD NOT HAVE SWORN!! thats pathetic. try sorting things out with ur mom just sit down and have a talk with her . if that dosent work try consulting a counselor hope things work out with ur mom