How do i tell him?

Question

how do i tell my bf who i am on the rocks with that i have a positive pregnancy test and might be pregnant. he is a junior in college and i am just going in as a freshmen to college next week and am scared we were on the verge of breaking up last week and have not spoken since. he does not even now there was a possibility of this occuring. we have only dated about 2 1/2 months but were friends first and have known each other since i was born. are familys are good friends but he told me not to tell them we were seeing each other. should i wait till i get a blood test to confirm to tell him i now he will be pissed and i dont now what to do or what my options are?

really scared seeing my life flash before my eyes and i was using too pill stopped today though this is not fair!

Answer 1

Sit him down and tell him. If he runs away, get your baseball bat and hit him over the head. It's his.

Answer 2

I would most definately get a hospital ordered blood test to comfirm the pregnancy. There have been instances before where women have taken these tests and gotten false positives. Depending on the answer from that, you will have to decide on what you will do. If it is positive, you will need to tell him. Make sure that when you tell him, he is in a seating position, so that he won't run. Don't say it to him mean, or hurtful. You both made this baby. If the test is negative, thank God. You didn't bring this baby into a relationship that is on the rocks. You don't have to worry about being connected to each other in such a living way. Whatever the circumstances, or your religion, you will have to make a decision about what will happen if you are pregnant. You have many options. You will have to seek those out with him included if you are pregnant. Of course, finding out that you are going to be a daddy doesn't warrant happiness, but he shouldn't be mad at you only, because I know that we humans don't reproduce asexually, and there is no way that you were sleeping with no one else. Just get the true test and see what is what...if you have any more questions, ask us. Good luck and God Bless!

Answer 3

That's tough. I would call him and ask him to come over and talk. Sit him down and tell him the truth, that you had a postive pregnancy test. It will be a shock, if you used protection but it's not always effective (my sister learned this), but if you didn't use protection then it shouldn't be that big of a shock...

Tell him that you need to confirm this with the doctor but wanted him to know right away. Then discuss your options, which could consit of:

1. stay together and raise the baby
2. break up but each have an equal part in raising the baby (see a lawyer)
3. have him give up all his rights as the father (see a lawyer) and raise the child on your own
4. carry the baby to term and put the child up for adoption
5. abort the baby

It's alot to handle right now, I'm sure you feel your world is turned upside down, but seek the help of a trusted family member or adult. With the right support behind you, you will be able to make the decission that is best suited to you.

Good Luck and take care of yourself.

Answer 4

Personally I would discuss your options first with a good friend or relative, what is it you want to do first, I know it seems slightly unfair not to let him know right away, but you need time to adjust to things first, I mean you may not even be pregnant why bring it up then. I would get family support AND your options out of the way first so you have some one to lean on in this time of need instead of trying to go it alone. The more support the better. Don't keep this from your family you may be worried about their reaction now, but more than likely, they will be there for you when you need them. Obviously this guy isn't in it for the long haul, if he wanted to keep your relationship a secret (red flags flying there) He sounds like a real jerk. That is why I can not say it enough GET SUPPORT from family and friends before you tackle the task of informing him on your condition.

Answer 5

Sit him down and tell him calmly as possible. Remember it wasn't just you that did this. If he's understandable he'll be understanding and go and get that blood test with you just to make sure. Then you guys can start talkig about your options. If he gets pissed and runs off, think about it will it be worth having that baby with him or not!?! No matter what sweetie this isn't an easy situation. I got pregnant with my daughter when I was only 2 to 3 months into my relationship with my husband now. I knew he was going to say we couldn't have it, it was too soon, and he did at first. Then after a couple days of thinking we decided to keep our baby, we've never been happier, our daughter is now 3. Remember this is something you can't do alone and you'll never know how he will react until you tell him.. Stay stronge, and know this is difficult.

Answer 6

Okay, first of all, you said that you "might" be pregnant. I realize that you guys haven't spoken, but, I think it would be better for him to be informed of your situation before you actually know that you are pregnant. If you just call him out of the blue and say, "Hi! I'm pregnant and it's your baby, now what are you gonna do?" He might take that the wrong way. If he's any kind of person, he should understand your situation. You guys should really talk about the possibilities of what's to come. You should get a blood test to confirm that the child is indeed his. Yeah, he probably would be upset - but that's to be expected. He should help you, though. And I would advise you to talk to your family as well - after you talked to him about it. Just be very patient with him; even if he does make an *** out of himself...it's better to get these things out into the open. It would be better in the longrun. I hope I helped! I wish you luck!

Answer 7

This is serious stuff, and I hate that people don't really take things like this seriously. If you really are pregnant, you need to tell him and your family. You are too young to be a mother, so start looking for a good family to raise your baby. And don't be stupid getting pregnant again while unmarried. Didn't anyone ever tell you that if you have sex, you may become pregnant? No, it's all about feeling good, isn't it? And don't even think about aborting. That Pro-choice babble is nonsense! You had a choice BEFORE you got naked with him. Do the right thing for everyone, especially the baby. Put it up for adoption, and learn a lesson from this. Be strong, take control of this situation. Don't be a stupid girl ANYMORE!

Answer 8

first off, congratulations on the new baby....new life is an exciting thing and babies even though they are very time consuming are very much worth it. as the child grows, you as a person will grow. second of all, despite ya'lls relationship he needs to know this...because he is the father of the child. whether he takes responsibility for his actions is a whole nother story but he needs to know what is going on. regardless of what his reaction is the best thing for you to do is keep the baby and go to school...dont go to school for yourself go to school for you and the baby because a college degree is worth more than some worthless dudes aggravation. stay in school so you and your baby can have a good life. so that you can provide for yourself and your baby. most importantly go to a clinic to get a second opinion to make sure u really are pregnant....let your family know after you have told him that your pregnant and that you intend to keep your baby. chances are your family will be able to provide more emotional support than he will....even tho ya'll are mature enough to have sex you also have to be just as mature to handle the emotional, mental, and physical ramifications of your actions. trust and believe that everything will work out for the better. let him know how you feel about him, talk over where the two of you went wrong, admit your faults, admit where you need to change, admit that the baby needs two parents....even if you two cant get your situation together you need to both be there for the child. both of you are insignificant now because the main focus is the new baby

Answer 9

I would wait until u have a blood test to confirm. I would call your primary care Doctor and let them know that you need to be seen as you have taken a home preg. test that came out + and that u need an apt. to be checked and possibly have blood work done to confirm your preg. once this has been done then your doc. will be able to go over options that are most applicable to you. From there you will have more information and be more prepared. Good luck hun!

Answer 10

Just call him up, tell him you something VERY important to discuss with him. Meet him for coffee or something (somewhere neutral) explain to him your situation, I would tell him now, before the blood test, to let him in on the nervousness you are feeling. If he gets mad and leaves THEN tell your parents and HIS! But if he is supportive then you can call a meeting both families. You both CAN go to college AND raise a baby it is hard but can be done. I did it with 2 babies and it was the best thing I did for my kids. If abortion is what you are contemplating PLEASE reconsider, if you just can not raise the child try adoption, there is always open adoptions. I am very interested in how this turns out, I am a praying woman and will be praying for you, please contact me anytime via email. And please understand....it IS his business...he helped create this little baby, he needs to know about it.

Answer 11

get a blood test first, if you guys are rocky right now you should wait. If you are when you tell him just say it bluntly dont sugar coat it. If you guys have been friends that long no matter how mad he is now at you he should be supportive when you tell him if he isnt right away dont fret let him have sometime to absorb it. He should come around though.