is it true the way guy's treat their mom's are the way their going to treat you?

Question

my boyfriend dosen't get his mom anything, not even for mothers day,....and he didn't get me anything for christmas, valentines day, or my birthday, i got him something for every holliday , and someone told me the way they treat their moms is going to be the way they treat you

Answer 1

It's a very good indication.

Answer 2

Well Sweetie I think u answer your own Question.If he didn't get u anything on those special of occasions and didn't do for his mom either then there u go.And yes for the most part yes the way they treat there mom is how they will treat u.cause it maybe the way his Father treated his mom or his whole family may not do that kind of thing they just don't do for each other like that.But if u can be happy with it fine if not talk to him about how u feel and the things u do and see what he feels and thinks and go from there maybe he just don't know how important it is to u.good luck

Answer 3

I fell in love with my husband as he treats his mom like the queen. His dad was a playa. Before marriage I was treated like a princess (can't go above or equate the queen status). After marriage, I too, have to treat his mom like a queen and I was degraded to a house servant. When I neglected my house servant role, my husband, with the blessings of his mom, looked for a replacement wife. His mom went as far as spreading rumours abt me. Playing a victim's role all the time. Sometimes, it's not because of following parents' example. It is more accurate to say that women are devious. They have gone thru hardships and expect that their sons be their 'husbands' while theire sons' wives are to be made to go thru what they had gone thru with their husbands. Sad to say that women of this time oppress their own gender just to make themselves feel good.

Answer 4

Yes, that is correct. Most men will have respect for their Mothers and that is carried on to their wives. When it comes to gift giving, most men don't like to shop and most feel that whatever they give, is not exactly what the reciever wanted. So gift giving isn't a good example of for treating his Mother/wife the same way. It falls into kindness, respect, love, being polite, attitude twords these two. You can not go by gift giving.
The best advice I can give to young women/wives/girlfriends is: Whatever you do, don't ever slander a mans Mother. No matter what type of a Mother a man has, do not ever downgrade her. This is the best way to turn a man away from him woman. To call a man a MOMMA'S BOY or a Mommies ***** is the worse thing a woman can do to a man. He will never forget that. It is a very cruel, form of Mental Abuse. I don't care if the Son helps his Mother and visa versa. It is wrong. Some men don't dare show his spouse that he deeply loves his Mother for fear of being called the above names. Society doesn't hear much about women whose parents help her. But for a Mother to help her son, it really offends some women. And why should it ? When us girls are called a Daddy's Girl, its no big deal to us, as we like to hear that. But to be called a Mommie's Boy, it really offends the men. I could go on and on.

Answer 5

Well, I would say 50/50. Just like you would say "you can tell how your girlfriend is by her mother." Well, he mother may be a trashy who**, but some how the daughter turned out okay, but the daughter could be the same as her mother. But I would go by what he is doing already. He hasn't gave you or his mother anything, so that right there tells you what kind of person he is and what he is going to do. At least he is not hiding it. He could get you something every year and then when he marry's you, stop. So you can either accept this, confront him, or dump him. Some people can change. Maybe if you talk to him about it, he will change, but most people don't want to change. But if he really loved you, he would at least try.

Answer 6

Yes honey most of the time it is VERY true! If he treats his mom badly most likely you will not be treated any better. Unless of course his mom happens to be a crackhead or something like that. I mean there are a few exceptions. But girl get out while you still can. You don't need a guy who isn't considerate enough to buy you anything for your birthday at LEAST!!!!! But I'd be pissed about Christmas & Valentines too. Girl need to be treated like a princess from their guys. We should be showered w/ gifts. Not just on our birthday & holidays... but on random days too! I kicked my guy to the curb after I didn't receive a gift for Valentines. : (

Answer 7

Yes, because it shows his respect for or attitude about women and people close to him in his life. If you like gifts and he isn't reciprocating you may want to find another guy. But if he's just broke, try and give him a break!

I would be willing to bet this guy's father does not get the mother anything for Christmas, Valentine's Day, Birthday, etc. Guys learn to treat women based on how their father treated their mother or other significant women. Additionally, women learn how to expect men to treat them based on how the father interacted with the mother. And vice-versa. If I see my husband as only a wallet, my daughter will grow up to expect the same out of the men in her life.

Answer 8

There may be some truth to this. The guy I am seeing now just went through his parents almost getting a divorce. When he was living with only his dad and not his mom he was a completely different person, but now they are back together and he is much more sweet and considerate. It actually changed his outlook on a lot of things. So, it might not be exactly how they'll treat you, but it probably does correlate somehow. I would definitely be leary of a guy who is disrespectful.

Answer 9

I think in many ways it's true, but sometimes guys that treated their mom poorly were acting out for an entirely different reason and treat their gf better. I think that if mom's raise their sons to be respectful and all that, then they will treat their gf well. If they don't, you cant really expect a guy to automatically know what to do if he wasn't raise to know it.

Answer 10

YES YES YES. Studies have shown this and so has experiences of myself as well as many friends and family members. My boyfriend hates his mom and has no respect for her. I know that his perspective on women is just the same as how he see her. He sees her as greedy, selfish, and disposable. Though he loves me and treats me well, deep down inside he fears that I will be like him mom and he has his guards up. When we argue, it is the same arguments he had with his mother. When a man has a bad relationship with his mom, it affects his relationships with all women.

Answer 11

Damn it's like that he is selfish and mean
Yes it's true the way your man treats your mom is the way he will treat you cause my b/f do me the same way he does his mom and tell her to shut up all the time