He works really hard I know but still he very rarley is in the mood to be cudley. And I always am.We've been married a little over a year. Usually if I let it build up too long I will get so mad that I end up yelling at him which Im sure doesn't make him want to cuddle with me (lol) but this really makes me feel bad about myself kinda lonley I guess, and I have talked to him about this many times. Its like he just can't do it, what should I do?
2006-08-22 04:47:46 · 10 answers · asked by JesWood 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Men want what they can't have! So busy yourself with something else, look like your having fun! Then he'll get interested. Remember men are like hunters, so make him work for his meal, don't pass it out like candy!
2006-08-22 04:57:48 · answer #1 · answered by dollface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has a problem initiating the cuddling then you do it. If he withdraws then ask him at that time why he has a problem. There are different reasons why males do this & having gone through this before with an ex it's not easy for them to change without a little support on your part if it really makes a difference in the marriage. Let him know this is a serious issue & has a baring on your self esteem so he can do something to help you.
2006-08-22 06:05:36 · answer #2 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, the reason it upsets u.I think is that u need to have the cuddly time to feel as if u matter to him.That u are important and he need to be close to u.But some men are not cuddlers where others may just constantly want to cuddle and make u feel smothered.Maybe u guys can work on having a little of both maybe u could deal with a long hug when he gets home and sitting close and watching some TV later on and then other times have more cudding when he is not so tried .Hope that helps some good luck
2006-08-22 05:35:14 · answer #3 · answered by motherof319662000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With marriages like these, I see why the divorce rate has gone up.
Look, you have every right to demand and expect your husband to be affectionate to you as his wife which should be a marital requirement along with finances, child rearing, and other marital decisions.
You need to communicate very early to him that this is causing you great concern and he need to feel how serious this is to you and your marriage.
What happens many times couples let the day to day stresses take away from their husband and wife duties of intimacy and affection which don't cause nothing to give but your time.
Usually this type of lack of affection takes place years into the marriage but yours has happened after only over a year so I say fix this situation quick before it leads to other problems in the marriage.
Again, I understand your concerns which you have a right to have affection from your mate so I wish you all the best in trying to get that affection.
2006-08-22 05:03:11 · answer #4 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe try giving him a massage to loosen up the tension he might have on his back and shoulders. Try doing that instead of wanting to be cuddly. Try that for a week in a row and see if there is any improvement. My husband also works very hard and when I give him a massage, and then he is in the mood for more than just cuddling. Good Luck!
2006-08-22 04:56:35 · answer #5 · answered by Jersey Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Younz are still newleyweds. It might be because he is comfortable. I know it hurts you probably because you feel like you don't have it anymore. Believe it or not guys and girls get that way. Maybe try not to be cuddly every waking moment. I know it gets to me after a while, like you need some space. Try talking to him instead of yelling, hopefully he will tell you.
2006-08-22 05:03:17 · answer #6 · answered by rhonjean 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, couples sometimes tend to mirror each other's behavior ... do you physically show him that you want to cuddle? My husband was not very affectionate when we were first together--it was just how he was raised. But I am like you; I really like affection. Now, he is very much like that, too. I just didn't complain about it--instead, I told him really nice things and told him how much I loved affection, and he eventually started doing it.
2006-08-22 05:02:32 · answer #7 · answered by danika1066 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Why does it hurt my feelings so bad when my husband is not affectionate?"
Did he used to be and is now NOT?
then something is wrong you must find out what if you what this relationship to last?
Was he never affectionate in the first place?
then do you really expect that to change?
OH, this question is about YOUR feelings, isn't it?...
...do you think that maybe you're disappointed in him?
2006-08-22 05:04:37 · answer #8 · answered by DM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about u cuddle him instead of visa versa ..ya never know he might get the hint that u like cuddlying
2006-08-22 04:56:08 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love to cuddle
Email or IM me
2006-08-22 04:54:00 · answer #10 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋