My parents have been married for 25 years. As far as I know their marriage has had some pretty difficult times but they always stick together. Anyway, I knew my dad wasn't too happy and I want him to be happy as he is the best dad ever. I love my mum but I am not happy with how she behaved or maybe still behaves towards him. When I was growing up, I remember when my mum was physically attacking my dad and it left some pretty deep scars inside me. My dad is a pretty sucessful man and I think my mum finds it hard. Anyway, he has tried to leave her as he has met someone else but the whole family stood up against that and he stayed. My dad says that the abuse has stopped but I don't trust my mum. They behave as if nothing is happening when I am around but I am pretty angry about it. I just cannot forget how many times I had to interfere with the scenes at home. But I don't kmow if I have the power to change anything between them? I live abroad but I get upset from time to time about it.
2006-08-22 04:35:11 · 8 answers · asked by violet b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should not be looking for the power to change things as you cannot change anything about your Mom.
You should be looking for the power to accept the things that you can't change.
2006-08-22 04:44:00 · answer #1 · answered by Fishgutts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are times when children just can't interfere so much in their parents marriage problems. Stop being upset. All you can do is to be there whenever your dad needed cheering up. Don't talk or ask between him and your mum, just talk about maybe butterflies! I bet your dad feels much better that his daughter loves him so much and knows how to mend his hurt feelings.
2006-08-22 12:01:23 · answer #2 · answered by qisyia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i understand you worrying about your dads well being.But honestly there is nothing you can do to change things.These problems are between your parents.Only they have the power to change things.Only your dad can make the desicion to stay and put up with the crap or to get out of dodge.Obviously your dad loves your mom and wants this to work.You say he tried to leave before but the whole family was against it.Honestly this isnt the familys desicion if he wants out then thats what he would do.It sounds like your parents may want to consider some marriage counceling.If i were you i would stay out of it and let them work things out themselves.
2006-08-22 11:50:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents can be very strange at times. You should express your anger to both of them at the same time. There's nothing you can do to change their situation, but maybe opening up will change how you feel inside.
2006-08-22 11:49:37 · answer #4 · answered by Chrissy w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't be able to change your mom. You can only let your dad know you will support him no matter what decision he makes.
He may be lying about the abuse stopping to protect you.
2006-08-23 13:03:15 · answer #5 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the serenty pryer says accept the things i can not change the courage to change the things i can and the wisdom to know the difference. this is not your problem if your grown its theres
2006-08-22 11:48:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change them, don't try. Worry about you and the things you can do for yourself, let them work their own things out or not.
2006-08-22 11:48:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
help your dad child
2006-08-26 04:29:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋