I been with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years and im really scared for the future. I havent even meet his family yeat, but everyone knows of me and know who he is with. Im a family person and im thinking what if we decide to get married what will his family say? I guess they dont like me and i dont know why.
2006-08-22 04:25:50 · 22 answers · asked by Oh Boy!! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
3 and a half years under the belt is no joke... nothing/nobody can doubt your relationship.
As for the future, that's something you really need to sit down and talk to him about. If he's willing to talk, then that's a GOOD thing. If he gets all defensive, or evasive, then maybe you should plan out your next move, and do it for YOU, not the relationship.
I'm not saying to pressure him, but after more than 3 years, you deserve to understand where the relationship stands.
2006-08-22 04:36:11 · answer #1 · answered by late664 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I def know where u r coming from. I have been there. U feel like maybe they won't think u r good enough for him? But, u know what, if his family truly wants what makes him happy, then they will be happy for him. Well, I think it's about time for u to meet them & everyone sit down & have a discussion. But, in a calm manner. Besides, if he truly loves u & hs family sees this, maybe they will come around. How can tehy judge u if they don't even know u. Keep your chin up sweetie, maybe u r just having doubts. Communication is the key.
2006-08-22 04:35:37 · answer #2 · answered by manders1975 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First talk to him and find out why you havent meet his family. If you two are in love and his family has a problem with you then it is their problem not yours. Not everyone will always like you. So what! Love your man first then the family that dont like you if there is any will simply have to deal
2006-08-22 04:35:05 · answer #3 · answered by cowboygene2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's been dating you 3 1/2 years he doesn't care what they think of you. Family isn't as important to everyone as it is to you. He might be more concerned with the family he's building than the one trying to tear it down.
2006-08-22 04:34:54 · answer #4 · answered by W0LF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'v not met his family yet!!! What 3 1/2 year. Summats not right there girl. U not think its about time you did. 3 1/2 years is a long time and is exactly where my last relationship broke down but mygirl didnt know what she wanted in life. Does your boy know what he wants?
2006-08-22 04:42:59 · answer #5 · answered by forshow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why havent you met them, have you ever asked to meet them. Why would you say they don't like you . My guess is if they did not like you they would have in some way sought to break up you and him. Why dont you talk to your bf and share your concerns, go and meet them, stop being scared to meet them I am sure if you are the love of his life then they too will see what he see in you and love you for you, but you need to go and meet them.
2006-08-22 04:42:29 · answer #6 · answered by Joyann R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Base your relationship on YOU and your boyfriend NOT his family. Do you and your boyfriend have a good relationship? Do you communicate well? Can you see yourself married to this man and spending the rest of your life with him? THESE are the questions you need to contend with NOT how his family will or will not see you or if they like you.
2006-08-22 04:33:33 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're guessing too much and letting your imagination run wild.
Relax, I'm sure his family wants to meet you and will love you and will think what a great addition to the family you will be.
2006-08-22 04:33:48 · answer #8 · answered by Peach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know that his family doesn't like you? Just because you haven't met them yet doesn't mean that they don't like you. Maybe he is just as nervous about you meeting them as you are so it hasn't happened yet. You should probably try to talk to him about it though if its really bothering you and find out what is going on. Just be honest with how you feel.
2006-08-22 04:33:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think they don't like you?? Is there something they know about your past they don't like or are you just assuming that they don't like you? I don't understand how they can NOT like you when they have not even met you..... if that is the case don't even worry about it. When you do meet them just be kind and polite. I'm sure they will come around and if they don't.... that is their problem for being too judgemental . good Luck!
2006-08-22 04:34:15 · answer #10 · answered by purple rain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋