Hi! I'm meeting my Indian boyfriend's parents for the first time in a few weeks. Perhaps any Indian mothers and fathers out there can give me some advice on how to make this meeting go smoothly? His family isn't quite traditional Indian and they live in the United States like me. They're vegetarians, but i am too. They agreed to not arrange their kids marriages, but will they still be resentful of me? How can i make this meeting go over well? I'm also worried that I won't be able to understand their accents. Anyone Indian, please help!
2006-08-22 04:17:35 · 15 answers · asked by Me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
loooooool... hey i'm indian too... don't worry, it won't be a prob.. if they've agreed to meet u, it must mean a lot..
by the way, saying where you're a native of would help a lot!!! best bet is to be on your best behaviour..
the only DO NOT's are:
- waste food they serve you
- talk back at them (i doubt this situation would occur)
- make moves on their son (hold hands, etc - UNLESS he does)
the DO's are:
- agree with them on whatever you can
- ask them questions about them
- make conversation!!! don't sit tooooo quite, but don't talk for the world either
lol.. have i scared u more? trust me it's not that bad.. best bet, as i said, is to simply be yourself!!!!!
2006-08-22 04:26:28 · answer #1 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Meeting Indian Parents
2016-12-17 16:33:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. The parents seem to have done an OK job on bringing up their kids ( after all you are dating one of their children ).
In any case, relax! Show interest in their world, and they will be happy that you care. Do not worry about their accent -- if you can understand Chinese waiters and bosses - no disrespect meant - then you can understand these people also. Nothing wrong in asking them to repeat if you do not understand , or ask your boyfriend to help out.
About dress, you do not have to wear a Saree, but do not wear a ultra mini skirt either! Just dress normally , and you would do ok.
Many Indian families do not quite approve of living together before marriage; so avoid that kind of topic ( talk to your boyfriend before hand about this)
Best of luck .......
2006-08-22 09:34:49 · answer #3 · answered by curiosity_unbounded 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The parents always said "no arrange" but in their heart, they're always wish their boy bring home an Indian girl, but If he's really love you everything's going to be fine.
I dated my ex for 15 years...love of my life, he's Indian but I'm not. His parents (specially his mom) very good to me if I'm with him but when he weren't there they gave me a nasty look. I called it off a week before the wedding, I couldn't deal with the cold war between him and his parents, I never told him the way they're deal with me when he weren't there, he 's the only child...so I back off. If I could turn back time then I wouldn't.
I'm married with 3 children, I have a loving family but he's still single and a god father of my first child.
anyway, just be yourself it doesn't matter what the parents think, most off all, care about your relationship and his feeling.
2006-08-22 18:20:54 · answer #4 · answered by Sakina H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dated an Indian man for years. Be traditional in a sense. Like show that you really care about their son by perhaps making his plate at dinner time (if his mom doesnt beat you too it). I know they are old school if you know what I mean. Good luck!
2006-08-22 04:26:43 · answer #5 · answered by kingMe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry.......It will not be a problem.........
They already know that u r not Indian,so be normal,dress up normally but like loose top, jeans/skirt....It will b good if u avoid shorts,tights etc.....that not means u will wear Traditional Indian wear.....It really looks artificial....
When u will meet with them, greet them(u can learn it from ur bf that how do u greet them).....THEY WILL LIKE THIS.....
Will talk normally,politely, try to agree there point of view and thinking...............That's all
Don't worry
Best of Luck
2006-08-22 06:22:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
be calm don't get worried. making a few mistakes is ok. when ur worried though u make more mistakes. u cant be perfect. before they come, know more about indian stuff. im telling u this becuse im indian. and i think ur bf's parents would be happy if u dressed up as a young indian girl.
2006-08-22 04:24:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wear a saree, do less make up be calm,polite &helpful if possible try to learn how to cook some indian sweet dish like halwa....if you want I can send you the receipe also.
Best of Luck , mail me hotchocredrose@yahoo.com
2006-08-23 00:52:27 · answer #8 · answered by hotchocredrose 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm if they arent traditional then ur fine... but if they are...
> when u meet them for the first time u can hold ur palms and say namaste (which means hello in hindi)
> be respectful in the sense u really dont wanna play with their little boy in front of them.
> Keep smiling...
Should work... u didnt tell me if they were hindu'z, christians or muslims... watch a bollywood movie, most of the bollywood love films should help you a lot
2006-08-22 04:26:04 · answer #9 · answered by UK GUY 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be as you are dont pretend anything you are not . U will look stupid if u try Indian outfits just to show.U wont be comfortable with them first day u meet.So let them meet who they come to meet.If they approve then there is lot of time to change and try .And mind u cannt be Indian in a day .So enjoy what u r ............................ best of luck
2006-08-22 04:36:48 · answer #10 · answered by chdman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋