I am 25 years old. I would say I'm thin and attractive yet my husband loves to look at porn. I also try to spice things up but nothing works.
2006-08-22 04:12:25 · 16 answers · asked by lex 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some men are more visual and find porn as a way to fit their fantasies. Here's an idea why not watch them with him and while he is turned take control...let him watch while you get it on. Buy some videos of your own they do have them for women or regular porn and tell him you got one and watched. When he asks about it, tell him you have no intentions of sharing your porn with him. Go into the room close the door, turn the porn on, and lie in the bed. He WILL change believe me.
Sweetie...I always believe it is the woman's job who controls the essence of sex...not that he doesn't have some responsiblities, but you need to handle him directly.
Good luck
2006-08-22 04:21:41 · answer #1 · answered by kaiynasha 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know that after a while, sex with the same person gets boring, whether things are spiced up or not. It also takes up a lot of energy; with porn he doesnt have to do anything. You both have to be into doing something new and exciting with each other. Try figuring out his fantasies.Talk to him, ask him what he wants. Let him know that it hurts your feelings that he would rather watch porn than be with you. You tried changing things. Now it's up to him to change and make the next move.
2006-08-22 11:51:17 · answer #2 · answered by Jess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your husband is into kinky things and is either too afraid to ask you to do those things or knows for a fact that you would not like to do them. Perhaps you should ask him what his fantasy would be...if he comes up with something kinky and you are ok with it, just be like, "ohhh, Honey, yea" and go with it. If not, just be happy he's getting his thrills from porn rather than someone else.
A more sinister explantion could be that your husband is bi or gay and the porn he is looking at is not straight porn. In that case, can you deal with your guy being bi? If so, again, just make sure that he sticks to the porn and does not act out the fantasy.
The next to last explantion is that maybe you aren't as hot as you think you are. I'm sure you are good looking and in great shape but these porn actresses are sometimes guys idea of perfection.
Finally, maybe he's just a horny guy who likes porn. Most guys are / do.
2006-08-22 11:24:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hello i am 21 so my hormones are at their highest peak so yes ill admit i look at porn even though i have a women i love and have sex with. why do i other than my hormones are at a peak . men hit there highest horniest peak between the ages of 17 and 25 some times 30 deppending on the man. i love my women to death we have sex about once every three to four days some times more, depending. but for my raging hormones it seems to be not enough. no matter how much i want to control myself from the porn i always end up back .
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2006-08-22 12:17:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men are very visual. My wife watches it with me. We never make it through a movie and we both end up forgetting it's even on. Quite often when I get home from work, she is dressed in something very sexy and a porn movie is on. She has been watching before I get there. I guess I'm one of the lucky ones.
2006-08-22 12:11:15 · answer #5 · answered by funone19552001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To Him its a safe way to see whats out there. Looking but not touching is the old rule. Women are beautiful to see big,tall,short ,fat, thin,. My wife gets mad as well but I'm not looking for the replacement. Kind of like window shopping seeing whats out there. Then again I only look once in a while
2006-08-22 11:25:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your husband and the rest of the dirty men in the world just love to look at others having sex. Its not a bad thing because he can also be learning new positions for yall to do. Porn is nasty and dirty... men are nasty and dirty enough said!!!
2006-08-22 11:23:09 · answer #7 · answered by justbeautiful4u 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i tell u what u can do to spice up ur relationship u ever tried role play? well get all dressed up for bed , candles, bubble bath, everything and just surprise him see if that works, also maybe send him some sexy letters on email and just have fun be creative girl.
2006-08-22 11:50:41 · answer #8 · answered by rachel m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, but I'd love to give you a 2nd opinion on what he see's that may not be getting his engine running!!! j.k.
Maybe its simply a issue that he would like to act out something and does not feel comfortable discussing it with you? Make time to ask him what the problem may be....good luck!
2006-08-22 11:48:35 · answer #9 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him ask him why. Look at porn together and say to him, "lets do that" and copy the film.
2006-08-22 12:18:05 · answer #10 · answered by fun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋