the thing is...we are in a really serious relationship and we are planning to get married.im a worrier so i worried myself into thinking he may not be serious anymore so i sent him an email that i knew would piss him off.and it did.He doesnt reply my emails...my texts anything.hes just silent.is he trying to let me get the message that hes no longer interested or hes just seething?its gotten me all tied up in knots.what do i do?His friends and his mother are askig me to be patient.its a long distance relationship we are in.
2006-08-22 04:07:23 · 18 answers · asked by moonchild 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have two questions of my own:
1. Why did you intentionally send him a message that you KNEW would make him angry?
2. Why are you surprised that it worked?
The thing is that worrying can do more to destroy a perfectly wonderful relationship than anything else. You need to learn to trust the significant other in your life. No, there is not rock solid guarantee that even if you trust him he will not hurt you or break your heart....but just think of what you have done. He probably trusted you and you have hurt him deeply.
I think you need to be patient and let him come to you. If he is no longer interested my bet is he will let you know one way or the other...and if he's just seething you need to realize that he is hurt and that can take awhile to get over. If he loves you he will forgive you...and if you love him you will be patient and realize that "I'm sorry" isn't a fix all bandaid.
I think the main question here is do you love him? If so, then stop worrying so much about everything. If not, then let him go and move on.
Hope this helps....
2006-08-22 04:22:03 · answer #1 · answered by onyxunicorn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand how you're feeling. It's freaking you out that he's cut off all communications with you. my friend had a similar situation. Except his girlfriend didn't email or anything, she wrote a letter telling him that she didn't like certain things about him and was curious as to whether or not their relationship was a serious one. So he got really upset about her doubt, and decided to give her time to realize what she had and if she was freaking out enough about him not talking to her then, she'd realize how much he meant to her and then she'd try to understand that he feels the same way for her. Lond distance relationships are the hardest, but if two people love each other they will make it work. Your boyfriend/fiance is probably just worried that you're having second doubts, and he's just needing a little space right now. I'd continue to be patient, and if that doesn't work, I'd have to arrange a face to face and let him know just how much he meant to me. Hope this helps :) Good Luck!
2006-08-22 11:17:34 · answer #2 · answered by JacalsGal 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are playing games with him to "test" his love and commitment, you have no business getting married. You need to grow up more so that you can be a good partner, not a needy child all the time asking for reassurance. If you are a "worrier", get help for this. It can be a very destructive trait, both to you and any relationships.
Please re-think this marriage. See if he wants to continue to see you, but put off the marriage part until you can get yourself under control.
2006-08-22 11:17:38 · answer #3 · answered by jiminycricket 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let's see, you were worried so you intentionally sent him a message designed to piss him off. And now that he is pissed off, you are worried. Brilliant! You need help.
If he does write back, then you two deserve each other and can start your own drama series. If he does not write back, then leave the poor guy alone. If he is smart, he will lose your e-mail address and phone number.
2006-08-22 11:19:42 · answer #4 · answered by Curious1usa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two possibilities.
1) he had an accident. better get someone to check that he's alright!
2) he wants out, or he needs space. either way, this is a rather immature way for him to express this. since you say you're in serious relationship, he should be communicative with you, rather than just running away from this.
I think you should just give him some time like his friends & mother say. perhaps his mother is the best person to find out what's happening.. ask her to help you out!
2006-08-22 11:16:27 · answer #5 · answered by statistics 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not send an email explaining your first email and why exactly you did it and that it was because of your own insecurity and apologize for it. These things do take time and yo yourself saif you were a worrier. Don't give up on him so easily.
2006-08-22 11:16:36 · answer #6 · answered by ѕомєопєѕ▪ ваву ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would you try to piss him off on purpose? You have security issues. you need to get that is line before you marry anyone or you will be miserable and drive peeps away. Do not mean to be rude...but that is my opinion.
2006-08-22 11:15:44 · answer #7 · answered by AQHA34 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. You sent him an email that you wrote for the purpose of hurting him. And, you're wondering why he doesn't want to talk to you. This is a self-answering question, isn't it?
2006-08-22 11:15:32 · answer #8 · answered by Otis F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs time to sort out what ever problems you two may have right now...He will call you when he's ready to talk..if you keep pushing you may drive him away
2006-08-22 11:16:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-22 11:22:37 · answer #10 · answered by stmarysfinest 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋