2006-08-22 03:42:46 · 56 answers · asked by babygurl16keke 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well who cares then. It's not the physical appearance that counts but what kind of person he is. If he has a good heart and you care about him and the weight is not an issue for you then stay with him.
2006-08-22 03:48:25 · answer #1 · answered by ѕомєопєѕ▪ ваву ♥ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk with them. Are you sure it isn't another reason they don't like him but this is an easier target. Your parents have been through more than you so give them some credit as to what they may see. Ask them if they see anything other than the weight that they may feel is wrong. Don't argue the point, just try and see what they do.
You have probably heard the term blinded by love. There is alot of truth in that. Nobody is perfect and there is always some give and take in any relationship but be sure of his true intentions. I am not saying to give up but maybe just take a close look without the love blinders on.
What do your freinds think of him? Get several opinions as to what others see and ask for their onest opinion not just what they think you want to hear (some friends are like that) As for the weight issue I don't know without seeing him myself. Is he just "big" all around or seem more flabby? Does he have any desire to try to lose it? Or does he not seem to care? This may be the true issue they see, He doesn't have any desire to even try to be healthier.
2006-08-22 03:49:43 · answer #2 · answered by nooodle_ninja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him and he is treating you right not many guys are like that I would go with what is in your heart. If you want to be with him then be with him and for your parents don't accept him because of his weight i am sorry but that is a stupid reason not to like someone. Besides he can always lose weight. Would your parents like it if he treated you bad but was skinny.
2006-08-22 04:02:02 · answer #3 · answered by shortysonja7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well thats just wrong! Tell your parents that you could be a positive influence on this guy and the two of you start exercising or walking to help him for cardiac purposes if nothing else. That isn't to suggest 'changing' him to ease your parents conscious. His weight unless you and he have a problem with it, should have no bearing on the acceptance of others. It would be like trading dignity for approval.
2006-08-22 03:59:50 · answer #4 · answered by MrsPTB4Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats no reason at all for ur parents not to accept him. They should just accept him for him...not cuz of his weight or anything. I mean look if i got married to a guy with tattoos and peircings...my parents won't like it...but they can't tell me who i have to marry and be happy with...its my choice. I know who i am happy with, they don't. Its just a matter of them understanding u love him...and he loves u, and u 2 being happy together. So don't let them get to you...he was ur choice not theirs. So be happy with who u have. If they keep doing this to u...talk to them...cuz its the only way they will understand...if they don't listen, just still stay with him...cuz later they will understand. Sometimes it doesn't really matter, just as long as he is a sweet nice gentlemen who knows how to treat me right.
I found my guy who does...and he makes me feel good about myself.
2006-08-22 03:52:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents really feel that strongly about your bf's weight, then start working out with him. Go jogging in the park, or challenge him to some one-on-one basketball. Get active with him, and he should start losing weight. This way, your parents can't have anything against him. Good Luck! ^_^
2006-08-22 03:50:42 · answer #6 · answered by Nikki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless if your parents don't like him for his weight or not...you are the one who has to live with the decisions you make. Are you sure that is the only reason why they don't like him? If it is, then I suggest you stand up to your parents and live your life. If not, and there are other valid reasons, be honest and ask yourself do your parents have logical reasons why that don't think he is for you. I remember my mom not liking someone I dated and everything she told me about this chick came to pass a year later...it took me two years to get out of that relationship and a short time to get in it. Nonetheless, the experience helped me grow stronger and wiser in what to look for in a mate. Had I listened to my mom then I wouldn't have the wisdom I have now. So, chose your battles wisely. Pray!!
2006-08-22 03:59:23 · answer #7 · answered by uniqueone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is so heavy that he would be unable to work, and you were have to support him AND do everything around the house if you got married, then I can understand your parents being concerned. If he is only a little overweight, or is quite overweight but works regularly without a problem, then your parents are being shallow.
2006-08-22 04:25:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to me: It's better to have a beautiful face and an ugly body. Because the body can be modified, the face can NOT!!!! Tell him, with tender way, to start a diet. It is healthy not having many kilos on you! So, he'll feel better and your parents will accept him! Good luck! P.S. Don't feel disappointed! :-)
2006-08-22 03:51:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have grown kids and i would rather see them with some one who treats them well and rescepts them than to be the best fitting looking person a live looks arent ever thing tell your parents its a sin to judge its whats on the inside that counts good look as a parent i know we can be over protective of our off spring
2006-08-22 03:51:42 · answer #10 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋