I love my girlfriend. She is 25. I am 32. I want to marry her but I
haven't saved any money. It worries me. When should I marry my girlfriend?
2006-08-22 03:37:38 · 36 answers · asked by skubrick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Me and my boyfriend are together for 5 years now. Next year we wanna get married. I'm 24 and he's 27. But we realized that we have no money, no home of ours. We lived in a rented apartment. We r both working but if we would have stayed in that rented apartment we wouldn't got any money for our own apartment. So, because we know each other for so long and we love each other, we moved in with my parents. I imagined that it would be bad. But it's OK in fact. And now we get to save 1 salary per month. It's a start. In maximum 2 years we'll have our own "love nest". Now it depends. But take my advice. LOVE is the basis, but money is the necessary. Find a way to save money. Have an open talk!
Best of luck! Hope your dreams will come true!
2006-08-22 04:00:13 · answer #1 · answered by marianaadrianaioja 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you want to get married, but you haven't saved any money. First of all, ask her if she feels the same way about you that you do about her (if she wants to get married). If she does, then save up money for an engagement ring (or do it the other way around if you want), an propose. And THEN save money for the wedding. Hopefully she (or you) doesn't want a huge wedding!!! Good luck, and congrats!!!
2006-08-22 04:03:44 · answer #2 · answered by Isabella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got engaged at 25 and my husband at the time was 32 - how cool! Well, there is never going to be a truly financially set time so the best thing to do is get it arranged NOW! Maybe you guys can just elope, or do a very simple wedding to keep the costs down. Talk to her and see what she wants. Make it work! And make it happen.
2006-08-22 03:54:30 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to marry you, then when she says yes discuss whether to wait until you have saved money. My husband and I were both broke as a joke when we got married. We survived and I even think the struggles of not having anything made us appreciate what we have now (31 years later) even more. May you have many many happy years together!
2006-08-22 03:56:03 · answer #4 · answered by cmdynamitefreckles 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you are not financially stable you know your problem so fix it and don't go into a marriage looking to fix your problem.
If you truly love your girlfriend, there should be no problem with you waiting to get your self and situation in order to have a happy and healthy marriage as a first step to future peace and happiness in the both of your lives.
Again, when you get financially in order you take a first step to insure that you are able to fully provide and do your part as a husband and lessons the burden of your wife having to do it all and also take away from one of the most common destruction of marriages finances.
Good luck.
2006-08-22 04:13:32 · answer #5 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure she wants to marry you? She is only 25. Anyway, I wouldn't marry before you are secure financially. You don't want to enter marriage and face fincial problems do you? It could very fast lead to a divorce so I would think about the marriage carefully.
2006-08-22 03:45:13 · answer #6 · answered by violet b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i can tell you this you should not worry bout money if you want to marry her just do it cause it will work itself out in the end and if you two really love each other you can last threw anything and love is the key to everything so if you are ready go for it
2006-08-22 03:50:35 · answer #7 · answered by skyppolar_green 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life, believe it or not, is not all about money. While it is nice to be prepared YOU need to go with your heart.
Even if you have to say that when you propose, "I dont have everything I want to give you but I will take care of you." We love that stuff.
Someone who is TRULY in love just wants to be taken care of and loved back. IF the money is that big an issue than its not the right person. My husband was broke when I met him (which was partially my fault because he tried to impress me so much). But I am working WITH him to secure OUR future. Its not all on you.
So there is my two cents.
2006-08-22 03:48:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
SAve some money first then ask her if she wants to married you, Because marriage is two people have to ask her if she agrees.
Good luck
2006-08-22 03:43:08 · answer #9 · answered by xoxo§kailey§ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people have no money when they get married. Tell her that...start saving...
2006-08-22 03:43:16 · answer #10 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋