My boyfriend has sent me a message and told me that he hates his job and he is stressed out and he cannot wait to meet me on Thursday. Anyway, I tried to support him but it looks like I said the wrong thing to him as he seems very strange with me? I replied to him and told him that it must be really stressful and that I will look after him when we meet on Thursday and that I want him to know that he is the best boyfriend who I wouldn't change for anybody no matter what his boss thinks. He replid and said thanks but then he said that he would be quite sad if I changed my mind about him based on what his boss thinks of him? I replied to him and said that he completely misunderstood me and that what I meant was that even if his boss does not appreciate him, I do and that I wanted to reassure him even if he does not feel about work, he is my best one and I think of him. and I said that of course my feelings aren't based on what his boss or or whoever at work says.
2006-08-22 03:36:59 · 10 answers · asked by violet b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I said to him that I was only trying to tell him that no matter what I am with him. He replied and said that it's quite obvious and useless to say and then he thanked me for my support. I am confused. It sounds like he is angry with me now? I am sad not knowing what to do or say to him and I am sad worrying he may think I am not supportive towards him?
2006-08-22 03:38:23 · update #1
when you said that you would look after him, were you implying that he couldn't? Just reassure him that his decision to leave his job is fine with you. I believe if your not happy, fix it! just listen to him, let him vent.
2006-08-25 21:32:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you trying to say that your b/f misunderstood your reaction toward what he said bout his job & boss? If so, it sounds like you may need to communicate with your b/f maybe during a lunch or dinner to discuss the issues that need clarifications. Otherwise, don't put any blame on yourself for your b/f's actions & don't try too hard to comfort him. It can be taken in the wrong way meaning that you aren't a strong person when it comes to standing up for what you believe & want.
2006-08-22 04:10:22 · answer #2 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you dealing with a man, or a little boy. Sounds like he is directing works frustrations toward you. Best to say as little as possible about the subject. Show you support through your war mth and actions .Respond cautiously there may not be a correct response. The best way you can show your support may be to let him trip out and not take it personally.
2006-08-22 03:52:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go, he's having a bad day that probably has nothing to do with you. Be sweet to him when you see him Thursday. If he misunderstood what you were trying to say, he'll be ok. Don't worry about it. I think he's sort of being a baby, but we are all entitled to an "off" day now and then.
2006-08-22 04:04:07 · answer #4 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not mad at you. He is frustrated with his job and you are just trying to help but (dont take this the wrong way) annoying the situation more.
I had a habbit of doing this to my husband. You have to know when to keep your answer short. Just send him a message telling him you care and your looking forward to seeing him Thursday.
Then when he gets in keep it all short. Dont try and say all the things that your mind doesnt spit out right. I stick my foot in my mouth a lot and have learned to just use your body language and actions versus words.
But he's not mad at you.
Hope this helps.
2006-08-22 03:52:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he said that was usless to say because he allready knows you feel this way....I dont think he is mad at all....when men are mad they aint going to take the time to send you a message. and if he really is mad, he is prolly just frusterated with work, my husband gets all pissy with me when he has a bad day at work, everyone does and they have a right to. Just send him a quick short message that says "luv you" then wait till you meet him on thursday. by then he will have forgotten all about his bad day at work
2006-08-22 03:52:32 · answer #6 · answered by laughoutloud_247 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Classic misunderstanding plus it sounds like he's really stressed out. My husband gets like that when he's stressed. Some men just don't handle it well. Give him some space. He'll come around and when he has time to really think about it, he'll understand what you meant.
2006-08-22 03:56:46 · answer #7 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparantly you guys just misunderstood one another. Sit him down and apoligize for the misunderstanding and start the converstation over.
2006-08-22 03:44:36 · answer #8 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that he's not upset with you, but that his frustrations at work are coming out on you. He might also be feeling insecure, but don't worry, things will be fine.
2006-08-22 03:48:36 · answer #9 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds over sensitive and confused, ur in for a big ride if u stick with him, ,,, get out now before u meet
2006-08-22 03:47:15 · answer #10 · answered by hunny bunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋