boyfriend of three years
first yr great sex second yr no sex 3rd year no sex
i had conversations i spoke to him about my feeling and he says he loves me and want to be with me
and he says he wants to have sex but theres no action
i need more than a phone buddy and someone who sees me more than once a month should just block the way i feel about him and move on?
and is normal for a guy to change like that?
he says he is not cheating
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2006-08-22 03:34:00 · 20 answers · asked by Cat 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
SWEETY MAYBE YOU ARE THE PROBLEM !!!!
you are not sexually attractive
2006-08-22 03:42:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh, I went thru the excate same thing not only two months ago.
A lot has to do with 'the same ole stuff.' Unfortunetly its up to you to make the sparks fly again...dress sexy, get videos, send hot text messages in odd times of day, cook naked... Guys dont like the same ole routine, they love spice.
Another thing is you are problem nagging at him about not having sex much. Leave them a lone and do what you gotta do to make him happy and he'll finish the rest.
Also, he could be stressed about work, family, etc... Give him space and time to cope with these issues.
He may not be cheating, so you might want to give it a try. If he is then kick him to the curb.
2006-08-22 03:58:19 · answer #2 · answered by MsLysa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the point of going out for 3 years if there is no sex and you only see each other once a month ? He either has other women on the side or he is gay. Basically whatever is wrong with him, its time to move on.
2006-08-22 03:41:46 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea if he's cheeting on you that's a guy thing to answer. My hubby is the same I spent this summers heat wave wandering around but naked and he never batted an eyelid. I asked him if he liked what he saw and if he wants sex I got positive responces but still no action.
I guess some men are like that, they get board easly and need direct stimulation, only us girls don't always want to have to turn ourselves on and jump our men we want to be excited too...
If your not married to him dump him you can always reserect the relationship if not seeing each other works.
2006-08-22 03:47:51 · answer #4 · answered by Just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever consider that he may be having a problem with having an erection? Some men are very embarrased about this and tend to avoid sex. Try and talk to him in a gentle way and just be there for him. This could be a hard subject to talk about. Good Luck!!
2006-08-22 03:46:44 · answer #5 · answered by trace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No man would ever admit it, but I am not afraid. He is bored with you or you have become unattractive for some reason. Weight gain etc. Do you ever initiate sex? Are you a prude in bed? do you experiment? All questions to be asked.
2006-08-22 03:47:59 · answer #6 · answered by ready4it45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would worry less about what he is or isn't doing and focus in on what you want and need from a relationship. Start going out and seeing other men and see if old whats his name comes to the party, if not what have you lost, NADA!
2006-08-22 03:41:58 · answer #7 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of your coping with adult adult males that have not or refuse to advance up. It in all probability has some thing to do with thier upbringing. have been they the only new child? have been they babied and nonetheless being babied by ability of thier mom? have been they the youngest of a team and the youngest by ability of 10 years or greater? i think of those are all motives for slightly one-like adult adult males. some are only stupid. That covers alot of floor. i grow to be. i did no longer fairly get it till i grow to be approximately 30. regularly remember this for all adult adult males. Take thier age and subtract 7 years and you gets thier performing age. Its only how that's.
2016-11-05 09:18:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not normal at all. ive been married for 6 years and still lust after my wife daily. there has to be some sort of physical attraction. im sure you could find someone else who will be everything you are looking for. no need to settle. put your feelings aside and find what you are looking for, it doesnt sound as if you'll be happy tomorrowl let alone next year...
2006-08-22 03:42:55 · answer #9 · answered by locowherto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be gay.
He might have some medical issues.
He might be getting it elsewhere.
Maybe the sex is boring (that has been my experience)
Let him know that sex is important to you. Don't continue the relationship if he can't give you what you need. That is how people end up cheating.Good luck!
2006-08-22 03:46:11 · answer #10 · answered by **Shannen** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a little out of your age request (older), but I believe you should move on. You and he need to be on the same level when it comes to sex and communication, otherwise you are doomed to a poor life together...
2006-08-22 03:45:11 · answer #11 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋