My husband's friend's girlfriend?

Question

My husband's friend's girlfriend said he tried to seduce her. My husband says he was trying to prove to his best friend that she cannot be trusted as he suspected that she likes him. He admits it was something stupid to do but he wanted to help his friend. Two month's later the girlfriend did cheat on my husband's friend and they are now history. Can I trust my husband's side of the story??

Answer 1

Ultimately you know your husband better than anyone. You know his character, his personality, his demeanor. How did he act during the time in question. Generally as a woman, you have a natural intution. Men usually call us "crazy", but I think it is something GOD gives us because men have a detency to sometimes "stray". Men dont mix or associate sex with love, relationships, or anything like women do. Women will think about her family, the repercussions, etc before she cheats. A man has nothing like that on his mind. But your inner being probably already told you the truth.
But in all honesty, unless your husband has cheated, or been caught in lies...just believe him and let it go. Never take the word of an outsider (especially not a friend or family member) over your man. She lost her relationship, so the natural thing for her to do is to lash out in anger, especially if she believes your husband is the reason for her break up. If she were going to cheat with his friend(your husband) she would easily cheat with someone else that she wouldnt get caught with. Some wo(men) are just like that. They have low self esteem and cheating helps feed their ego. My husband was like that. He cheated not because he didn't love me, but because he didn't know how to love himself. He used women to build up his manhood, something he felt me and his mother took from him and his ego. I have been married almost 10 yrs, separated 1 yr and a half. But that inner voice was SCREAMING to me...I didn't WANT to hear it. But ALL women have it. LISTEN to it, and answer your own question. But believe in your man, if he has never given you reason to doubt him. Dont let someone else destroy the trust the two of you have. Men are like kids...if you show him you dont believe in him, he feels like...well...if she thinks I am doing it anyway, I may as well do it. Most men get pressure from their "boys" and test their ego....so just let it go. Unless you know in your heart you shouldn't.

Answer 2

It could be that he was trying to prove a point by putting the girl on blast to help make his friend see that she was no good. Although I think it was something that he really shouldn't have gotten involved in at all. He's a married man with his own responsibilities to deal with it was a stupid move on his behave. I wouldn't say that you shouldn't be upset about this matter but I don't think it's grounds for feeling like he can't be trusted anymore. He just made a stupid mistake that he really didn't give that much though about he was just looking out for his boy. Unless you see other signs of him being untrue like women calling him etc. Then don't sweat it but don't let his *** off the hook just yet either he made a stupid move. So make him feel it for a while so that he will think twice about getting involved with things of that nature again. Good Luck !!!!!!

Answer 3

How old is your husband - 12!!!!
I'd question why he didn't tell you he was going to play a childish trick on his friends girlfriend.
The fact that you've posted this question on an open forum speaks volumes - you don't trust him and your looking for reassurance.
Go find a man and leave the boys to their games.

Answer 4

My husband's friend's girlfriend?

Answer 5

let's get serious. I wouldn't do such a thing. It's outrageous. Wanna be sure if in fact HE"S cheating U? Try on the Internet. Put a sexy picture of a woman but not like in the movies, to seam real. I guess u know his ID for messenger. Open a discussion like from nowhere, try to seduce him. But not from the first time. Talk to him like a week. From work, let's say. Make yourself a new ID only for you to know and tell no one. See if he falls. If so ....I'm sorry. If not...U'll be sure!

Good luck!

Answer 6

That depends on who she cheated with, (your husband), since he & his friend are history. Seems as if his friends g/f cheated after being shown by your husband to his friend, the friend would have come back and said OK you told me so, (you think). It's more to the story than you are being shown, so just keep an eye open when it comes to your husband's routine now. You may be able to figure this puzzle out for yourself without causing any attention from the others.

Answer 7

Men can be extremely stupid, and, therefore, his story could easily be true. He SHOULD have told you about this plan before he tried it, but he wasn't thinking about your relationship when he tried this dumb move.

Give him the benefit of the doubt, but tell him why it was such a stupid idea. Also keep a close eye on him for a while to help ease your mind.

One last question though - how far did he take this test? Did she turn him down? Did they make out? More? If he had anything more than words with the girl, you may have a problem.

Answer 8

NO, when did he become dr.phil? women usually don't come to other women and say "oh your husband boyfriend whatever is trying to seduce me. i could b wrong but I think he might have been attracted to her and thought maybe he could've scored a hit.. then with him feeding thoughts to his friend about her cheating their relationship probably never took off anyway. because he might of felt that this girl did not need to b with his friend cause she probably to good for him. sometimes people a jealous to see other people being happy or trying to do the same thing they r.

Answer 9

Obviously this situation planted the seed in your head that it may be possible. The issue now is whether you want the seed to grow or not

To put your mind at ease, i have used this method with my girlfriends as well. We would "check" on our friends boyfriends to make sure they actually would be loyal should the situation arise. Usually this is done before we were formally introduced, so that he wouldn't know if it would get back to her.

Common strategy.
But go with your gut

Answer 10

I would say believe him as long as this isn't part of a pattern u've seen. If he's been otherwise trustworthy, don't worry about it.