My ex came home after being in the service, and had been married for about 9 months, but told me that he had gotten a divorce and that his wife had a miscarriage awhile back. This was after i clearly stated i didnt want to have anything physical with him if he was still with her. He said he wanted to see me and how he might want to stay with me for a bit, and told me he was moving across the country for a job, but wanted me to visit him. So I believe him and when he got home late last week we ended up sleeping together the first couple days. I found that he told another ex gf that he really was still married even though he didnt know how it would work out cause it would be long distance since the wife didnt want to relocate, and that she didnt have a miscarriage and was 8 months pregnant. Yet he tells his best friend that although he is married she wants the divorce cause he hasnt been there for her, but now that he is home he hopes she will change her mind but there isnt a kid.
2006-08-22 03:25:39 · 9 answers · asked by rahster 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So right now im really lost and confused... and i feel extremely hurt because he used me to have an affair on his wife. And this has been a kid that was my first love and a close friend for 6 years. i feel horrible for his wife and the baby if its all really true.. and i dont know how that is going to work out.
Please just give me some advice/words of wisdom
2006-08-22 03:27:48 · update #1
im hoping for his wifes sake that she follows through with this divorce and not just stay with him cause of the baby
2006-08-22 03:40:22 · update #2
please do not let this get you so depressed you can do better then him also do me a favor as a woman who knows what you are going threw seek counseling and also contact the wife if you possibly can and explain to her that he had really tricked you and he tricked her and she should be very careful also i bet you are not the only one who he has cheated on with his wife who knows how many women there are and i am glad that you found out before you really and truely commited to the (excuse my typing) the asshole because he is not worth the time sure you kinda feel like you made made a mistake with sleeping with him but yo also learned a big problem well do not let that stop you there are so many guys out there who i bet would love to be with a woman like you who is honest and truthful and who actually trys to find some one who will be the same i have been threw this several times and i can honestly say it is hard and a set back like this should not get you down what you do is you do not let it bother you and you actually hold your head up high and you do not every think of this whole experience every again so that you can be a stronger person trust me i have been there and i just had this happen to me this past year so i am knowing how you feel
2006-08-22 03:48:12 · answer #1 · answered by skyppolar_green 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but this guy is not worth anymore of your precious time. I know that it is hard to do but you need to cut all ties with him. He has lied to you to hurt people that he supposedly cares about (including you). He's a liar, perhaps a compulsive liar and seems that he's trying to play on your heart strings and give you hope to keep you around. You sound like a very nice person that got caught up in an ugly situation. Best of luck to you and keep your head up, there are nice guys out there.
2006-08-22 03:39:27 · answer #2 · answered by WxEtte 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about the mess, sounds like someone else is a bit confused as well as you are. My only words of wisdom are do not follow anyone else's advice, take it into consideration. But the best thing to do is just be true to yourself, listen to that little voice in your head that is telling you what to do. Follow your heart, you may not like where it takes you, but it is the only way to be true to yourself. You are you, and you will be okay..
2006-08-22 03:41:54 · answer #3 · answered by sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a liar and is cheating on his pregnant wife. Shame on him.
Be a lady and break up with him. Stop contact inmediatley and tell him that you will not p;ay his games anymore, that youknow the truth and that you will not get involved with a married man and be a homewrecker. Tell him that he is a liar and that you will not allow him to use you and hurt his poor pregnant wife.
Do what's right. You will never regret it.
Good luck
2006-08-22 03:37:15 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey let go and let God!!!! This man has issues that need to be dealt with and he's dragging you in to try and justify him in his wrong!!! If you are really a true friend you should leave him alone!!!! And let he and his wife try and salvage whats left of their relationship!!!!
2006-08-22 03:35:47 · answer #5 · answered by cocoa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she should get the divorce papers out, because no women should be treated like that. It should be a law. =D
2006-08-22 04:02:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh...leave his a$$ what the hell is wrong with you...you might care about him or whatever but he's obviously nothing but a liar and is going to end up nothing but a waste or your time
2006-08-22 03:33:25 · answer #7 · answered by KrIsTyN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him..... You're the Jerk in Reserve, and being used. What ARE you thinking????????????
2006-08-22 03:47:28 · answer #8 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM
2006-08-22 03:32:20 · answer #9 · answered by mks 7-15-02 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋