he's married with 2 kids for almost 10 yrs. the affair with the gal has lasted for bout 3 years so far and despite the fact that the wife knows about it. he's a teacher and he met the gal in school. because of this gal he lost a rank at work. and havin to face much of the colleagues' gossips. he comes from a traditional chinese family and believes that divorce will affect the whole family apart from he n his wife. so wat is he thinkin when he's stil havin affair wit the gal? and risking divorce with his wife
2006-08-22 03:20:24 · 23 answers · asked by ying y 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i forgot to add on that this guy has said that there was no love in the marriage already. the only thing that bonded he n his wife were the kids. wat is the most important factor in sustaining marriage? the love or the kids.
2006-08-22 03:54:05 · update #1
the church got to know bout it and he was asked to go counselling. he went there and thot that the onli counsellor useful was the gal..
2006-08-22 06:15:25 · update #2
He's thinking that his mistress is filling a need that he is not getting from his wife, and he apparently has a level of love for both women for the affair to have lasted this long. Many wives condone their husbands having affairs because they realize that after 10 years marriage can get a little stale even if the love is still there. Also, some women lose interest in sex while their husbands' needs may be greater.
Chances are he doesn't much care about the gossip of his colleagues, and that his personal business at this point is none fo theirs, regardless of how it has affected his career. Sometimes people are meant to be together, and sometimes people can be in love with more than one person at a time. It's not the ideal scenario, but it does happen.
I'm 42 and married to a great guy who I'm silly in love with; if he had the desire and opportunity to "hit" a girl of 22 who knocked his socks off, I'd be hard pressed not to understand it, though it would sting a bit.
2006-08-22 03:32:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to find a reason to change the fact that old age is setting in!!!!! Younger women are always a turn on for older men and to the younger women they look at it like this man although old enough to be my daddy is experienced enough to take care of me both mentally and psychically!! They don't give a damn about a marriage!!! Sorry but these days life is just like that!!! Sin is in!!!
2006-08-22 03:28:58 · answer #2 · answered by cocoa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always believe one thing, if a man don't fool around when he is young, likely he will fool around when he grow older, if given a chance. A man has an affair with a gal 20 yrs younger, mostly is after her body.
2006-08-22 18:59:12 · answer #3 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men do a touch loopy issues and they dont' look to imagine about the consequences for some reason. Its extremely not ordinary to appreciate and that i doubt lady will ever thoroughly understand men in this concern. To me dishonest is an extremely advise element to do with someone and that i'd really flow through a divorce then flow through someone dishonest on me.
2016-11-30 23:57:54 · answer #4 · answered by baltazar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not thinking at all.
When a guy gets involve with a girl 20 years younger... do not expect.. anything in his mind.. because.. he is out of his mind....
Divorse will not help... for chinese...
Of course if you are in america... that is okey...
But, that being chinese...will not help...
It is up for the wife... he will soon... get rid of her and find out that the wife is always... the best..
I my case... well... I do not have to tell it here... email me and I will give you more.....
The original wife is always the best...
The girls.. they are only passing fansys... I hope he feels the same...
Good Luck..
2006-08-22 03:35:07 · answer #5 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably thinkin "Damn I'm a stud" or "This chick is much hotter than my wife" or maybe "My wife even knows and wont do anything about it" and probably "my hips are sore, time for a position change"
I hope this was a help to you.
2006-08-22 03:30:11 · answer #6 · answered by n2bateyou2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he must have fallen in love with the younger girl. Cause if he didn't, he would have done something to stop the relationship knowing that there are too many consequences for having it, but he still continued , so maybe he just can't dump the girl cause he loved her!
2006-08-22 03:28:19 · answer #7 · answered by jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this teacher saw the movie "LIAR LIAR" to many times..
So he had been lectured to a way that; He had not only lied to his wife, but also lied to you about loving you, and what he realy realy wants from you is to satisfy he's SEXUAL needs from a girl that is 20yrs younger than him..
2006-08-23 01:48:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its not right but maybe shes giving him what he needs. Maybe his better half is not good in bed who knows. Theres a lot more to the story. Usually when you seek elsewhere is because something is missing in his relationship.
2006-08-22 03:31:04 · answer #9 · answered by Funny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about it choice of sex with flabby old cold wife or sex with a hot chick 20 years younger than the old goat at home . well lets see what do you think?
2006-08-22 03:29:57 · answer #10 · answered by DAVID G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋