is this normal for men ? men 28-36?

Question

is it normal for a guy to spend moe time with his friends than his girfrien of 3 years?
is it normal behaviout for a boyfriend of 3 years to not introduce u to his friends and family
is it normal behaviour for a boyfriend of three years to not bring u around his area
is it normal for a boy friend of three yeaRS to not be reliable always has excuses to not talk to me on the phone and only sees me once a month what the heck should i do leave or stay?
i tried talking but i feel like i am nagging and being repetive and i am tired of repeating myself

Answer 1

Well, normal or not, it sounds like he is keeping you a secret from the other people in his life. I don't want to judge anything, but it sounds like he is using you. If he weren't using you, he'd share you with the people he knows and loves, and include you in his world.

Answer 2

Answers to your questions:

is it normal for a guy to spend moe time with his friends than his girfrien of 3 years?
I HOPE SO - YOU ARE PRETTY BORING TO BE AROUND UNLESS YOU ARE HAVING SEX

is it normal behaviout for a boyfriend of 3 years to not introduce u to his friends and family
ONLY IF HE PLANS ON DUMPING YOU EVENTUALLY OR HE IS A P*SSY AND IS WORRIED ABOUT WHAT WILL THINK OF YOU

is it normal behaviour for a boyfriend of three years to not bring u around his area
ONLY IF YOU ARE FAT AND UGLY AND HE DOESN'T WANT HIS FRIENDS TO KNOW HE'S DATING A FAT UGLY GIRL

is it normal for a boy friend of three yeaRS to not be reliable always has excuses to not talk to me on the phone and only sees me once a month what the heck should i do leave or stay?
ONLY WHEN HE KNOW YOU WILL PUT UP WITH IT AND STILL HAVE SEX WITH HIM

i tried talking but i feel like i am nagging and being repetive and i am tired of repeating myself
THEN JUST SHUT UP!

Answer 3

No, it's not normal. I think it's time for you to move on chica. You are just a warm bed to him at this point. A guy who won't introduce you to him friends or family after three years is using you for sex.

He probably doesn't even tell people you are his girlfriend. Maybe he is even seeing someone else. How would you know? You hardly ever see him...

I'm sorry to tell you that, but it's true. Don't listen to any excuses he makes and just get the heck out of there as fast as you can!
Good luck!!

Answer 4

Simply no, its not normal...and if you think its nagging to ask for more or explain why it isn't more then your allowing him to keep such a relationship in limbo...although you may be an important part, your only a part of his life, not all of it nor the heart of it...he has other relationships that are as equal and/or more so by the way it sounds like he spends more time away from you than with you...it is what it is...take it or leave it.

Answer 5

Oh mydear! Most of the things you had asked doesnot show that he is abnormal. Just that he is possesive and does not want to exhibit you to others for the fear that someone else will steal you from him. He has a little inferiority complex about him and thinks that you are far better matched to someone else than him. He doesn't want that someone with his help & support. Both him and your questions here indicate that inspite of three years both of you do not know much each other.He sees you promptly everymonth and tell excuses for his silence. That shows that he loves you still. By leaving him now will confirm his fears of you being taken away from him by someone and that can ruin him. Try to weigh the positiveness in him than finding these weaknesses!!

Answer 6

Are you sure this guy isn't married? It's not normal to have a relationship of 3 years and only see the guy once a month. Move on and find someone that will be there for you. This is crap, and you know it.

Answer 7

No that is far from the normal. I've got a friend that was going through the sam thing except she was engaged to him for 7 yrs. well about a month ago some lady came into our store and asked for the guy/owner and we looked at her like she was crazy and told her that him and his fiance just left and she blew up....this same guy was engaged to Another women in south ga where we live and he was doing the same thing to her for the last 8 yrs....u need to leave u sound like a much better person than that. you deserve someone who will be there for you, afterall you have given 3 years of your life to him. be careful i will almost BET MONEY THAT U R NOT HIS ONLY ONE.....IM SORRY TO SAY THAT,........................GOOD LUCK THOUGH HONEY

Answer 8

What the hell is wrong with you? Why are you letting this guy treat you like this? YOU KNOW it's not normal. Hello? Sounds like you are the 'other woman' and why would you allow this to go on for 3 years? Do you have low self esteem or something? Is that the best you can do?

Answer 9

I don't know YOUR situation, but i've seen similar ones in people around me alot. Being a guy, i've also heard alot of bragging. He's getting his cake and eating it too. Two grilfreinds..or even still playing the field when he's not
with you. JESUS loves us even as much as he knows who we are, what we've done and what we will do and be. Our GOD loves you this much, you deserve a mate who will want and need you enough to give you everything he has to offer, and who is just busting to show you off to evryone he knows--"Lookout world here comes the love of my life!!!" Sure people have baggage, but after three years---there's more to this story.

Answer 10

ok one world that is stupideness of him he should be proud of ya and introduce u to his friends and all of his mates and always hang with ya and wow three years is alot for him to never let his friends check ya or se ya so sorry u should end this relationship no other option he doesn't respect ya and don't like to have u around cos of these actions he does so end this relationship and u'll have realllllllly a great and better guy than him so hope that helps:).