i need to get a life?!?!?!?!? please help?!?!?!?!?

Question

hey,

i'm a 15-year-old teen who until a year ago i was extremely sheltered. then my abusive dad divorced my mom. anyway, i need some major social help. i go to a private school. i have plenty of friends there, most of them are dormers, and they live in differant states. i'm a day student. basically, i need to get a life. i'm a pretty cool person if i say so myself. i'm not ugly, kinda athletic and i play basketball, not stupid, i get B averages, i wrote this. a little immature, i like punk rock music. i'm a pretty charismatic type. i don't have anything much to be made fun of except my miniscule social life and short attention span.
i'm learning to skateboard and play electric guitar. i've had 3 girlfriends before. how should i go about meeting local people to hang out with?

P.S. i'm a straight guy, and i'm 6 feet tall, if that helps anything.

Answer 1

As the old saying goes "Ain't nothing to it but to do it".

Get out there and find some places to hang out. I'm sure there has to be a spot where kids your age go and have fun. Talk to the kids at school and find out what they've heard. Gotta get in the game.

Answer 2

It depends on what local people like to do. It seems like skateboarding at the local skateboarding hangout is a good way to meet other skateboarders. Likewise, playing B-ball at the park or boys club is a good way to meet friends your age too. You could also take swimming lessons and hang out at the pool or beach. Playing guitar should attract the girls, so keep doing it.

Some people might make fun of this idea as being a little gay, but you will probably do better with the girls later in life if you take a few dance classes now and get fairly decent at social dancing (ballroom is good for when you get older, but also take some contemporary (club) style dancing). Most dance classes are packed with single girls because guys do not go.

If you want to improve your social life, then try speaking to everyone that you meet, if only to say "hi". I mean talk to the people at the checkout counter at the store and ask how their day is going. It will help you improve your social skills and allow you to meet more people. Also be sure to maintain good eye contact (When I was young, I never realized how important this was, especially to girls).

Answer 3

Well first off sweety you have to love yourself and make you happy so if you are looking for happiness in other people you won't find it. You have to have inner peace within yourself. You have a lot of good things going for you but yet you still feel like somethings missing. I'm more than sure that it probably has a lot to do with your dad being abusive therefore you may need counseling. It's not so bad just give it a try that way you can come to terms and move from that point in your life. Once you have dealt with your issues meeting people will come naturally and it will be more enjoyed. Good Luck !!!!!

Answer 4

I do think you have a pretty god chance to make Friends and over time you find plenty of people to hang out with,paitients that is what you need they say youth is wasted on the young but in your case I would say not. Give it time! I have hung round many groups of people over the years bt the more I think about it now I have gained more in times of concentration,work and study. A social life will automaticly follow but sometime it can be destructive with all of the complications that come with it.
Take care!

Answer 5

U SOUND LIKE A REAL NICE GUY, REALLY. And keep it that way.Don't try to be something you are not to impress anybody. Be yourself go to the mall, to church, skating thing, or whatever. But only by being yourself and loving yourself will you find the people that are right for you. God Bless You and good luck. Sorry about your past and I know that somethings are hard to forget, you must give it a try. Love Ya

Answer 6

You have what it takes to be a good friend with a good personality. Maybe try to befriend twoor three trusted friends in your dorm or school..It`s not the quantity but the quality of friends that matter.

From this few trusted friend you can have networks of friends with similar hobbies and interests.

Good influence is best!

Answer 7

Sounds like you are well-rounded with school and your activities. A good place to meeet nice people is at church--somewhere where they have socials and pizza parties so you can mingle. It's just going to take awhile to "get out there," and be assertive. There could be people your age in your neighborhood to hang out with, it just starts out with a "hi, how are you?"

Answer 8

I agree with getting involved with either church or volunteering. Just getting out and putting yourself in new situations will help alot.

You can also watch some TV and see what's in ,, like MTV has a great show ,," why can't I be you" my girls watch and have picked up some tips on how to be more friendly. =o)

Answer 9

hi... i'm a 14 year old gal... and my friends say dat i'm too friendly coz i get along with any new people especially guys ( but i neva had a boyfriend b4)... but dats not it... look, maybe all you gotta do is to be more friendly... hang around with sortta anyone u c... learn their characteristics and then make a move which is to continue de friendship o not...


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bye and good luck...

Answer 10

the life store....jk... sorry about your parents and your no life. try being more open to other people and try making new friends. try an activity or a sport or join a club at school. good luck! hope this helps!