She just wants to forget and move on. She still gets very nervous or angry over small things. Fits, and hitting and crying, kicking, these things are not like her. We respond with talking and holding . Common phrases are" What's got you soo angry, it's okay we're here, We Love you. Talking about your feelings you don't understand will help us help you through it, and of course--hitting and throwing fits don't solve problems..they create more. Come, let me hold you.
I don't know what else to do, even as I pray to Our Father GOD for guidance and help.
2006-08-22 03:03:34 · 5 answers · asked by Angry,Concerned. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is hard trying to answer your question, because there are things you haven’t covered, like how young the child is… how long ago the abuse occurred… what you actually mean by a ‘split home’… who the child’s natural parents are… what relationship if any the ‘step’ is/was to you… etc etc.
You never mentioned whether the child has been counselled. If she hasn’t had sessions with a child counsellor, then it should be given very strong consideration. In fact, it is a necessity!!!
Other than that, all I can suggest, is that you try to be as understanding and caring as you possibly can be toward the child. Do all you can to try to boost her self-respect so that she understands and believes she is really special!!! Make sure she understands that the sexual abuse was not her fault!!! In many cases of child abuse, the perpetrator tries to make the child feel guilty or responsible for what happened. It is extremely important that the child realises that that is not the case!!!
I’m sorry I can’t be more helpful.
God bless you for all you are trying to do for the child!!!
2006-08-22 04:19:39 · answer #1 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patience because you can never understand the feelings you have after something like this happens. I think it makes it worse when you are treated differently. Speaking from my own personal experience. Try group therapy too. It helps to know you are not alone. But do be prepared there are still some sick people that stay with the molesters. I haven't quite figured that one out myself. It is always the ones you don't expect and you can never truely watch your kids all the time. But you might want to keep up with the sexual registry in your area. You can find this online.
2006-08-22 03:27:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, having the Lord in your life will help, show her unconditional love, let her know that what happened was not her fault and she did nothing to encourage this behavior from her stepfather. That not all adults do these things. Restore her faith in family and home, but above all pray.
2006-08-22 03:32:55 · answer #3 · answered by fscoutman6971 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't raise her without help. She's been very, very seriously damaged and will require therapy. Big time serious therapy. Here's a web site; http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/ppc/prof_search.php?iorb=4764
Do not delay in getting help for her. She says she just wants to forget and go on and it isn't possible for her to do that.
2006-08-22 03:31:03 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With a professionally trained therapist.
2006-08-22 03:54:13 · answer #5 · answered by Carp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋