Has anyone been a victim of verbal abuse in a relation ship? I had a gf that would call me names everyday, (dumb,fat,asshole ext) Im not hurt that eaisly, but after a while it really takes its toll on you. Any one had a similar experience?
2006-08-22 02:58:31 · 15 answers · asked by john 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ya know, sometimes that hurts more than any physical beating because it attacks your soul and spirit. I had an ex who would belittle me constantly telling me I was ugly and making fun of how I dressed and everything.
Only when I left him, did I realize that this behavior is unacceptable! No one who says they love you would ever make you feel like crap intentionally.
Your woman sounds very insecure which is why she's trying to break you down so you won't think your worth being with anyone better.
My advice - Stand up for yourself one good time and let her have it! Tell her that you will NOT accept it anymore and it it continues, she can find another man. She should get the point. And if she doesn't, good riddance (hope she had the time of her life).
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2006-08-22 03:07:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes but mine was not only verbal abuse but also psychical. Verbal abuse like you said takes a toll on you after awhile since you can put up with so much of letting someone put you down. All, I can say is that you need to put your foot down here and let her know you will not put up with that no more and you deserve better. If she conitues to disrespect you and verbal abuse then you should dump her it will not be a healthly realationship if she conitues. Relationship are built with respect, love, & honesty.
2006-08-22 03:20:48 · answer #2 · answered by Roxann B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My X was very verbally abusive. His favorite word was **** and I was always one when he got mad about things. Even if I had nothing to do with it. No matter how many times I sat and talked to him about it he just kept on. There were a lot of other words and sayings but this was the one that finally broke me. So he is now an X.
Don't let what someone says to you get you down like that. They obviously don't know you and have to feel better about themselves by putting you down.
2006-08-22 03:14:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i was with a man that was verbally and physically abusive, and i have to say the verbal/emotional abuse has been the worst to over come.. that scars u worse then the physical stuff.. it screws with ur head so much that someone can say something innocent and u automatically think what the monster said to u... its been 3 years since i left him.. and im now married to a wonderful man, but my husband tends to have to pay the price for my low self esteem, and my insecurities due to all the abuse i took for 5 years which i know is unfair but i cant seem to control it.. he emotionally screwed with my head so badly.. that i wonder if i'll ever be the person i was before he came into my life..
2006-08-22 03:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When someone special comes into our lives, they make us feel soo good about ourselves. The reasons are different for each couple. People who insult those who are close to them, are either just mean and ugly, or very insecure about themselves( how could anyone love me, I know i'll screw this up, what happens when he finds out i'm not perfect, what about the secret i'm keeping). Examples of just mean----I want my freinds to think i'm cool and in charge, If I'm nice to him he'll walk all over me, It makes me feel good that he just takes my abuse. If you are listening and paying attention, you'll see which of these is true for your GF, if any of them. BUT----we are responsible for how we treat each other. We are responsible how let people treat us. If she doesn't respect you, if she doesn't stop after you tell her how you feel, it's time to move on. You have to decide that you deserve someone who treats you well, and really wants to lift you up.
2006-08-22 03:17:58 · answer #5 · answered by Angry,Concerned. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've never had this experience but know someone who has. be extra careful and move out of this relationship as soon as possible. these persons tend to become violent too after a while. women abuse their guys verbally because they do not have the strenght and guts to hit them, but when after a while they see that you do not do anything about it, it can get out of hand and do something drastic.
i suggest you move out of this relationship asap and find someone who will respect you and be loyal to you.
2006-08-22 03:06:37 · answer #6 · answered by trushka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I go through that right now. It really does hurt. Especially to hear the one who supposably calls you a ***** cause you wont lend his family money. But that does not ever stop. No one deserves that. It really gets under your skin.
2006-08-22 03:05:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but why would you allow it to continue? Sure you can't make her stop but out of respect she should and if she didn't why stay in such a verbally abusive situation.
2006-08-22 03:05:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes my ex did that to me. Then it turned to physical. Then it turned to me getting a protection order against him. Not good and never let anyone treat you like that. My husband would never even raise his voice with me!
2006-08-22 03:04:09 · answer #9 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but was around it enough. My step father treats my mother that way. It is uncalled for and sickening.
2006-08-22 03:05:07 · answer #10 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋