2006-08-22 02:48:40 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That would be incredibly irrational, but go right ahead.
2006-08-22 02:54:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why?? What good is he going to do you in prison for 22 years. Girl, move on unless you know for sure that he will not serve the full 22 years. If he going to doing at 15 years that is too long to be apart from someone and especially if you want to have children and all that stuff. You don't have to marry your best friend. You can still be friends.
2006-08-22 09:55:29 · answer #2 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he did something serious that he was sent away for 22 years. You are focusing on the friendship part rather then the fact that he was in prison for 22 years for a serious offense. It isn't ok to marry him under no circumstance. Do something with your life and don't settle for an ex-con. Don't you think better of yourself or have more self respect that you would settle for an ex-con? What are you thinking? Honey love isn't going to carry this relationship. He probably wants to marry you because you are his ticket to some type of care, roof over his head, or cash. What kind of life can an ex-con provide you? What kind of stable living can he provide you? OH wait I bet you are thinking you can do all that for him.... NO sista' you can't. Don't take care of this man. Run like your butt is on fire. You will ruin your life. Get a man that has no criminal record. Don't be an idiot!
2006-08-22 10:06:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First 22 years? WIth parole etc maybe what 5 years? But even so, do you really love this guy? 5 years is a long time to be alone but if you are ok with this then seriously consider it. But just don't do it because he is desperate or you are...
As for jobs, depending upon WHY he was sent to jail, he may or may not be able to get work. Don't expect things to be easy though...But life isnt.
2006-08-22 13:50:48 · answer #4 · answered by Who me? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmmmm 22 years is along time.. i think u better date for awhile and see how that goes before jumping into marriage.. jail time changes a person.. even if they dont show the affects upfront, u will eventually see them, think u need to just wait this one out and take it one day at a time and move slowly so that u dont find urself making a mess out of ur life if its to much for u to handle..
But if he got 22 years he obviously did something seriously bad..
2006-08-22 09:59:56 · answer #5 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its OK...but why? Prison relationships are the equivalent to Internet dating...there is very little chance of physical contact, most of what is being said is from the mind and not from the heart nor can it be followed up by action...your restricted from making any of your words ..actions...so basically they can tell you what ever you want to hear and eventually it can become the perfect world you wanted but listen to where its deriving from...prison....just how promising can that be.
2006-08-22 10:12:03 · answer #6 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you want to have a crappy life. I mean seriously what kind of job is he going to be able to get with 22 years in prison on his record? You'll be supporting him the rest of your life.
2006-08-22 09:54:40 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have fun being married? Do you really call that a marriage? What kinds of great Christmas's, and holidays are you going to spend with each other? That would be horrible. My husband works 60 hours a week and thats hard enough on us.
2006-08-22 10:01:29 · answer #8 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugh, NO.. Why waste your life because they did theirs?
22 years is serious time for likely a serious crime. If you are hanging around with someone that is heading for that much time, you are hanging with the wrong crowd yourself.
Find a church, go to a self help group. Do something to change your own life. Get a counselor and explore your life.
Dump him, they'll be someone's b*tch in jail anyway. Even with conjugals you'd risk getting something you'd rather not catch.. AIDS, HERPES, Syphilis, Gonorrea to name a few.
2006-08-22 10:00:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would make a good marriage. You don't have to worry about anyone asking where you went, whats for dinner, why is the house dirty. You can come and go when you want. Go for it. By the time he gets out you will be certainly ready to settle down and take whatever he throws your way.
2006-08-22 09:55:23 · answer #10 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can marry whomever you want, but I think that you shouldn't marry someone who will never really be there for you when you need him.
What if you meet someone else, fall in love with them( and you probably will)? Think about what a divorce would do to your best friend.
Be his friend forever, but don't marry him!
2006-08-22 10:00:03 · answer #11 · answered by **Shannen** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋