I broke up with my ex of 7 yrs because I was bored and he smoked too much drugs and didnt ever do anything. I cant stop thinking about him recently, I keep having dreams that hes in trouble now and its my fault. I was rather gutless when I finished it as it was over the phone I knew if I did it face to face id take him back. I wouldnt want to get back with him now but i think it would be nice if I sent a card to apologise and wish him the best in his future.
2006-08-22 02:18:24 · 20 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no don`t think it`s a good idea, he may see that as an invitation even though that`s not your intention. it will take time but the thoughts of him will slow down. stick with it.
2006-08-22 02:26:12 · answer #1 · answered by Vickezo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't send a card. I'm sure if you received a card from an ex boyfriend you'd think that he wanted to get back with you, which have already said you don't. I think sending a card would be stringing him along and giving him false hope. Just leave it and if he still wants to have contact with you I'm sure he'll get in touch. Good Luck!
2006-08-22 09:32:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the past is in the past hun, leave it where it is. I dont think it was gutless of you to do it by phone, you did what you had to do for you. If you send him a card you run the risk of giving him false hope and thats not fair. and would this letter really be to make him feel better or to make you feel better?? Let him get on with his life hun dont prolong the pain, for you or for him.
2006-08-22 10:14:17 · answer #3 · answered by nuttybird 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,
It's up to you to decide if he the drugs and his laziness were a problem or not. I won't comment on that.
However, your tone seems to suggest that you feel it was right for you to break up.....you broke up....that should be the total end of it.
if you contact him and apologise now, it will seem like you are weakening and (If he wants to) he could use that to work his way back into your life.
then you will end up back in the same position you were in before the break up, only with more regrets
2006-08-22 09:31:10 · answer #4 · answered by Vinni and beer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No cos he may take it the wrong way and think its ur way of wanting to get back with him. You would be sending him mixed messages. Give him his space to get over the relationship. I think you would only be sending ur appologies to make urself feel better but for him it could stir up all kinds of feelings. Its best that there is no contact until you are both well over it!!!!!
2006-08-22 09:26:46 · answer #5 · answered by vic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah don't send a card, he'll probably use it as roach anyway. then he'll start thinking that you want him back and start calling you and being a general pain in the jackson. If anything write him a letter telling him why you dumped him, and why you did it over the phone maybe he'll sort himself out and find happiness or maybe he's happy just being a stoner.
2006-08-22 09:27:48 · answer #6 · answered by crownose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
takes more guts to walk away babe, if he had sorted himself out he would have contacted you,dont waste anymore time even thinking about him his brain is probably totally mashed right now anyway and wont know who he received it from,dont want to seem heartless but my sister has been through the same she is now truly happy with a lovely guy and realises how rubbish it was with her ex .opened my eyes anyway and she is 4 years older . be strong and focused xx
2006-08-22 09:38:33 · answer #7 · answered by Joeline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will help him a lot more if you just cut your ties and walked away. if you send him a card, then he might call. if he calls, you might feel compelled to answer. if you answer, yall could get to talking and want to work it out, only to have you dump him all over because he's not going to change. i would just cut all ties and move on. he is a grown man and can figure his life out on his own. He shouldnt need you to live a day to day life.
2006-08-22 09:25:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't. I imagine that it would just open old wounds.
Also it may make him see a weakness in you and he may try to contact you and as you said, if you see him face to face you'd probably take him back.
You're too good for him, remember that and move on!
2006-08-22 09:24:12 · answer #9 · answered by Mandy R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you crazy ?? it'l dig up way too much hassle, the dreams are just your subconscious and the guilt you feel is prob because you didn break up proerly with him (which after 7 yrs he deserved ). move on with your life, be happy and say goodbye to the past.
2006-08-22 09:30:33 · answer #10 · answered by Caz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋