Did you have another or was that it? Is your marriage better?
2006-08-22 02:12:23 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Anyone actually speaking from experience?
2006-08-22 02:33:57 · update #1
You want to know why? I've been cheated on and I've cheated on gfs, never cheated on my beloved . . . but I know several people who did cheat on their spouse whether it is male or female.
Men . . . usually goes back to their wives, do to the fact that they still love them. The reason they cheat . . . is numerous . . . from excitement, lack of action at home, nagging, communication . . . etc.
Women . . . usually stay with their husband, but less than men that want to say with their wives. Due to the fact of no fault divorce . . . unless he has a prenupt . . . she can screw the entire dallas cowboy football team and still get half of everything (because of the no fault law). Reason why women cheat . . . ego . . . they want to know if they are desireable, lack of attention at home, communication, etc.
Some men who cheat and confessed to their wives, who stayed together . . . most of them . . . their marriage was better, because they were able to discuss the reason why and how they can prevent it from happening in the future.
Men who cheat and don't tell their wives . . . will cheat again . . . until they are caught . . . and because they did it several times and never told their spouse . . . usually end up divorce.
Women who cheat, whether they told their spouse or not . . . usually divorce their husband in 5-10 years.
2006-08-29 05:55:48 · answer #1 · answered by Tag Your It 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-06 04:41:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the thrill of having an affair is the secrecy. The exciment of doing something forbbiden is what makes it interesting, and once the affair is no longer a secret, men lose interest.
Also, they knew all along that they were not going to leave the wife for the mistress and they just wanted something "on the side". After he has been caugh cheating, the mistress is going to expect to marry her, which was never the men's intention because divorce is expensive, incovinient and they are affraid of losing the kids. So, they leave the mistress and go back to the wife, is cheaper that way.
Good luck
2006-08-22 02:44:21 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
people have different reasons for cheating. or excuses.
one partner doesnt feel like they are getting what they deserve. they think that they want something better. they think that they are getting something better and when they do get it, they figure out that their marriage is more important to them than they thought.
some have affairs out of spite for the other partner.
some guys figure out that a divorce is going to cost them most of what they have worked for all their lives and dont want to loose it after all.
i dont know if the marriage is better, but the trust is real hard to find again. if the marriage is better, thats up to the partner and the problems that they had to begin with.
2006-08-30 01:32:10 · answer #4 · answered by lodeemae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a man, but I think they go back because divorce means changing your entire life around. They have to split their assets and move and maybe even lose some mutual friends. They have to go through the process of explaining it to their family and friends.
It's basically a big hassle to get divorced and if they are cheating then it's even more complicated and they get seen as the bad guy. Some men are really sensitive about that.
So they decide to stay with what they know and what's comfortable. It's sort of like go for the devil you know instead of the devil you don't.
I think that if they have kids then that complicates things even more. It had been my experience (I'm not married, but my married friends tell me) that the man cheats again because the reason why he cheated int he first place is probably still there.
Anyway, I hope it works out for you.
2006-08-22 02:21:30 · answer #5 · answered by **Shannen** 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
An affair is just a momentary admiration. It could have happened on a immediate urge to satisfy your urgent need at that particular point in time. Going back to one's wife indicates that you really love and care your wife. In my case, I told my wife for having an affair (only once) with the woman and she was quite understanding and forgiving.... that's one of the qualities that I like of my wife
2006-08-29 20:53:39 · answer #6 · answered by dukes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a wife takes her husband back after he has an affair, then that means one of three things: she is desperate, she feels she can't do any better or he is very charismatic and convinces her to take him back.
2006-08-30 00:47:50 · answer #7 · answered by soulman2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is. Why did my wife take me back? I have a very beautiful wife inside and out. Her sex drive is no way as high as mine. I am not making any excuses because. The is no legitimate excuse for my infidelity. I just need sex a hell of alot more than her and I selfishly went out and got it. Well I got busted. As good of a wife as she is to me. There is no way she should of taken me back. To answer your question. I WENT BACK BECAUSE IT FEELS SO MUCH BETTER TO LOVE SOMEBODY THAT LOVES YOU. THAN TO MAKE LOVE.
2006-08-29 21:56:28 · answer #8 · answered by 21questions 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Add one to the fire. My husband (victim of midlife crisis) didn't want to cheat on me, but he wanted to "date" so he asked for a divorce instead. He told me he loves me, but he's just not happy.
So, I gave him his divorce, made it really easy for him, hoping he would come to his senses and come back to me.
It's been two years. He's still not happy. Oh, he dates, and even moved in with a woman for awhile, but he's not happy. We email eachother all the time, and it's very friendly and heartwarming, and I can tell he still cares.
But now, even if he came back to me and asked to come home, I wouldn't take him back. Even though I still love him, things have changed. A bond has been broken.
Marriage is a covenant -- a promise. I just don't understand why anyone would want to be with someone they don't love, at the risk of destroying a marriage with someone they DO love.
2006-08-29 10:53:06 · answer #9 · answered by Dianne C 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
knew of a man who did that. he went back because he still loved his wife. he realised that what he did of having an affair was only his lustful desires but admitted that he still loved his wife realising that she was different from his girlfriend, realised his true love was his wife..so imagine a humble wife accepting a man who has cheated on her. he will be lucky if she accepts him back. some do and some dont...
2006-08-28 14:03:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋