what if you do love someone with all your heart but you just dont enjoy sex? what to do
2006-08-22 02:07:40 · 10 answers · asked by mshg24 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Sounds like you need loveline. lol. No seriously. They have couples counseling. I'd probably suggest that. But for the doctor you have ta be open and honest. It could be something that happened a long time ago. Or some hang up you might have with the way that you look.
Hunny lemme solve that there is something beautiful about everyone. And if the guy loves you...then he'll love how you look with the shadows on you siluotte in the morning.
I never wanna tell someone to have sex. It seems beyond wrong. You should never have sex until you are ready for it and maybe you're just not ready.
However if you see this as a hang up and you would like to fix it in your relationship then you should be more open. Try something a little outta the ordinary or tell him what you want. Women have as much of a right to feel good as men do. That begins with good communication.
Men don't think like us. If you want something specific I suggest lead his hands if you dont wanna just talk about it. But watch his reactions. Or just tell him what you'd like to try.
When you're in a relationship you have to work together for what you want.
2006-08-22 02:20:31 · answer #1 · answered by warm_champaign 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say that you don't enjoy sex. Is it any and all sex that you don't enjoy or just the sex with this person. If it is the sex that you are having with this person then maybe you should talk to them. Different people enjoy different things. So unless you tell them that they are doing something that feels good then they don't know. You have to communicate this is the key to all relationships and a hard one that I have had to learn over the years. You need to communicate to this person that (in a kind way if this is a guy that we are talking about and they normally have very fragile egos) that is sensitive.
If you cannot talk to this person than maybe it is because you have a problem with sex and not your partner.
2006-08-22 09:25:08 · answer #2 · answered by pacifia1977 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by you don't enjoy sex? Physically? Do you feel pain? If so, it could be a symptom of endometriosis. You need to see a gynecologist for this problem. Or do you mean morally? Then you must get married to enjoy sex to the hilt.
2006-08-22 09:22:10 · answer #3 · answered by chelsea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a sex therapist. Were you raped? Maybe he is just not good in bed. That could be a problem down the road. You can't deprive him of sex just because you dont like it... Think about that, and dont be so selfish.
2006-08-22 09:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Now i dont feel alone...Im dealing with something like this myself...I have been told to follow my heart and the rest would follow....What i have been doing lately is just taking charge myself, by getting on top...If my heart says to leave his azz, i guess i will be gone soon, EVERYONE HATES BAD SEX! GOOD LUCK GIRL!
2006-08-22 09:16:21 · answer #5 · answered by Simple1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont beat yourself up about it. You dont dig it now but in time you will... you may need time and reassurance that the realtionship is a genuine one. Sex isnt the most important thing in life or a relationship.
2006-08-22 09:17:06 · answer #6 · answered by Foxhound 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have sexual hang-ups that keep you from "letting go." That is a good thing. All it means is that you are of moral character and want a full commitment before you give ALL of yourself.
Make him work for it. I am proud of you. I wish I knew you.
2006-08-22 09:14:08 · answer #7 · answered by evilposterchild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont have sex, he will understand if he really loves you.
2006-08-22 11:24:41 · answer #8 · answered by nikerunner800 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can talk/guide your partner through love-making sessions. This will help the person to concentrate on specific things/areas that will please you.
If not, find a better lover!
2006-08-22 09:18:29 · answer #9 · answered by johnavaro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are honest with them. Be up front
2006-08-22 09:14:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋