My wife is leaving, i just wont to die!!!?

Question

My wife says she dosent love me any more and wonts to leave. This is after we' ve already had a son together . Hes Three. Two years ago she cheated on me and i forgave her, but know this!!!!
I just wont to choke on my tears:( Any advise)

THANKS for the comments. I still feel sh**y and used. Any one know how to turn anger and depression in to motivation. I feel like its all my fault that i pushed her away. You see im Bi-polar and self medicating w/ cannibus and some time i can fall into deep depression, i think she got tired of the episodes.
p.s. I dont care about spelling LOL

Answer 1

Hang in the Skipper!! This a difficult time for you, but so are that seasons of our lives. Nobody knows why these things happen, but they do. Unfortunately, this has happened to you, but just like the first time you fell off of a bike, you gotta get back up and on again.

Don't think about the past, what is done is done. you will not be able to convince her that your relationship is worth saving. unfortunately, she has caused you too much pain. But, you do have a beautiful symbol of the love you once had in your son. Make sure you think about his life, and how important you are to him everyday. He will bring you the love and all the joy you need!!! plus if you take him to the park...chick swill dig you ...trust me!! :-)

Good Luck buddy and God Bless!!

Answer 2

I've been there and have felt the same way. There's no easy answer except take one day at a time, keep busy, talk to a lot of people, know that you're not alone, and try to date as soon as you feel comfortable to do so. Don't be mean to her. If you truly love her then take time to let her see how great you really are, but don't harass her. Perhaps she thinks that she is missing out on something. It's too bad you two didn't go to counseling first before it came to divorce. Maybe she'll change her mind later on, but if she doesn't don't be afraid to move on. I know it may seem like life is over for you, but never forget - you are not alone, there are many of us who have suffered the same loss. It will get better, you just have to be strong and persevere.

Answer 3

Im sorry that you were played by your wife. She wanted someone else and she did. You forgave her and now who knows if she is leaving you for the other guy. If you told her that you wanted a divorce adn that you are talking your son away, you wouldnt be in this situation. things happen and i know that you should forgive, but if you are married what did the wedding mean to her? paper? Maybe , you never know and hopefully that you find love with someone that loves you and cares for you, not someone that will use u. My suggestion is for u to ask for a divorce and keep you son as soon as possible. Ask for alimony and child support. Take the kid away from her and she will fell like **** then . Sorry had to tell you.

Answer 4

I know what u r going thru. This is my 2nd marriage. But, I made it & I never thought i would be ok. So, this is my theory. If someone doesn't want to be with u anymore, why would u want them to??? U can't make someone love u. She will just be holding u back & making u even more miserable. That is also not good for your son. It will affect him if u r not happy. So, I say , let her go. Just pray about it & u will seek the answer. But, if u 2 stay together, it will have a deep impact on your child.Just think of him & what's best. Trust me life will go on:)

Answer 5

The more you beg and cry the more she'll want to leave! The best thing you can do is nurse your wounds and avoid her like the plague! If she loves you at all, she'll come back! If she does'nt, then maybe she is'nt your soul mate after all. Some people are just bad. Don't let her beat you down! And the fact that you have a son with her does make things harder; but you can't let that involve your feelings about letting a woman who can't be trusted, back in your life. Be strong! You can do it!

Answer 6

Hi Skip
My heart goes out to you.. I am afraid you can't make her stay but she may find out that with you not there she might be missing out on something . Don't go for the divorce right away take this time as a separation and get yourself together , go to a gym get into shape, work on the house or other projects that you had wanted to do. take a vacation without her someplace that maybe you had always wanted to go . Also protect yourself,,,Cancel any joint credit cards and take out a fair amount of money from any joint accounts (don't take all the money she still needs to live) .and take your name off of them Be friendly with her and don't fight and make sure you send a certain amount every month for your son along with a toy or video , Hope it all works out for you I imagine that she will come back when she sees that your life is changing in a positive direction and if not I am sure that you will be better for it

Answer 7

Not being loved in a relationship is terrible, because there is nothing you can do to make them love you again, efforts are in vain and not appreciated. I couldn't live like that, so I divorced my man, and turns out I could do better, and so can you. The kids add a twist in this, I have two and their dad is there when he wants to be there, maybe she will be the same and you can take custody. He is still too young to understand what is really going on and he doesn't need to be in a house where there isn't love and enough stress to choke someone.
Have faith you can do better, it hurts at first to lose someone you love dearly, but it hurts worse not to have the love returned.

Answer 8

Honestly, if she cheated on you a while back now she is wanting to be free. Let her go. And dont take her back, even though you will want to. She may try and come back to you after she gets her wild side out. But dont let her.
Im not saying this to be mean. Just from experiance. And the first guy that responeded was right, end it now. You will be better faster if you dont drag it out. I had a bad relationship that was drug out and it made it hurt a lot worse in the end.
Also dont be mean to her, and dont say things that you will regret later. Just be tough and let her go.
Im sorry for your pain. But just remember, it is her loss and you will be fine.

Answer 9

You are fortunate that your wife has told you how she feels. Thank her for that. You Deserve a woman who LOVES you. Your wife has done you a favor.

So now you two can start building a different life together, raising your beautiful boy. Try to remain friendly to her and especially in front of your son.

Stay calm, stop crying and start making a plan about how to calmly work out arrangements.

Answer 10

Unfortunately theres not much u can do, she's obviously to immature to be the wife u need.. i know it hurts, ive been divorced and he left me and our two children and i loved him more then life itself.. the best thing u can do.. is to act like u dont care.. even though ur dying inside, be as happy as possible around her, do all u can for ur son.. and id fight for custody cause she sounds like she's not going to be a very good role model for him.. sometimes if u dont act like u care, people will wonder why.. if u start going on with ur life as if she doesnt exsist, like after ur legally seperated get some chic even if shes just a friend to be around u actting all giddy, alot of women will get territorial even if they dont want their man they dont want anyone else to want them either, i know its playing games, but i guess it depends how far ur willing to go to keep a woman that obviously doesnt love u the way she should, and i guarantee u , if she only comes back cause u played games, it would only be a temporary fix.. the best u can do is be the bigger person, let her go, dont put up a fight, be happy.. move on.. ur independence and lack of caring will eat her up inside even if she doesnt come back it will kill her knowing ur not pineing over her.. also if u do get custody of ur son, most not all , but most women cant live with out their kids, she could come back on that alone.. but she seems like a selfish person so maybe not.. but remember even if she doesnt come back, u be the best father u can to that little boy and know that it does get better in time, some it doesnt take long, me it took 7 years of hopeing and praying to finally realize he wasnt the man i fell in love with, anymore, i was morning over someone that didnt exsist, the man i married wouldnt of left his family.. or caused us so much pain, and i realized im more of a widow then a divorcee, do i love my x husband, yes, but i dont like the person he is now, 2 different people my x husband is dead to me now cause he no longer exsists.. so give that some thought.. maybe that will help u..
Good luck..