that he hates his work and he is really stressed out with it and he said that he cannot wait until we meet on Thursday again after not seeing each other for 3 weeks and until I can look after him.. What should I do to make him feel relaxed and to support him? When he says that he would like me to look after him, which I find sweet, what do you think he would like? Does it mean that he needs me?
2006-08-22 02:03:44 · 24 answers · asked by violet b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Unfortunately we are in a long-distance relationship. We see each other when we can.. about once a month..
2006-08-22 02:18:56 · update #1
Hmmmm....I don't like the sound of "look after him"...What does he mean by that? Wash his clothes, cook his meals? What? It's ok to do stuff for your man, but don't let him take advantage fo you. As for stress relief...you haven't seen eachother for 3 weeks...I can tell you one thing that you can do that will do some major releasing...candle light, music, talking, dinner for two. Just relax and enjoy eachother.
2006-08-22 02:19:26 · answer #1 · answered by Moon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the almost exact thing with a friend of mine. The only thing you really can do is support him. Let him know that he has other options but if he chooses to keep that job then you will definitely support him. A good thing to do would be to run his bath water for him when he gets home and have a good home cooked meal waiting on him. Try not to bother him to much about going out and doing things for the first night or two. Let him rest and relax. maybe you guys can rent a movie or something. And always be willing to talk about the situation with him and offer your suggestions. The main thing is to be supportive no matter what he decides.
2006-08-22 09:12:15 · answer #2 · answered by Chrissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it just helps if you give him lots of attention. After three weeks of not seeing you he probably needs some affection and emotional support from you. Make sure to do that by giving him your undivided attention when he speaks to you. Give him encouragement, look him in his eyes, and let him know he was missed. And even though sometimes guys are not real affectionate and mushy they still like it when you do something special for them. Something original that you may personally be good at. Or you can get him something to let him know you were thinking about him. I suggest you do something pertaining to his problem. Make him a goodie basket with all his favorite things in it. Call it a get well basket. So if he has a long trip home then he'll have something he likes and he'll know you spent time and put for-thought in it. This is very simple. But keep it a surprise. All guys love food! It might be nice if you do something simple like stay home and watch a movie so he'll have some one on one time with you. Its different for everybody but sometimes taking his mind of his problem will help. Im sure all he'll want to think about is you and not his job if its been that long since he's seen you. And no matter what anybody says, SEX IS NOT THE ANSWER TO ANY PROBLEM! He can do that with any girl if he wants to. But obviously thats not why he chose you. You must appeal to him more than just they eye. Relationships go way deeper than the physicall part of it. Because when he goes back home hes going to need more than some physicall attention. To know that you upbuilt him and encouraged him will make him love you more. And it can possibly help him deal with his situation until it changes or until you can be there to help support him at all times. But for now just give him your time, attention, and affection(which doesn't mean sex). Because if you get married, trust me that is not always going to work things out. A man loves a women when she is helpful in all areas. Yall will have plenty of time to do all that later. Give him lots of hugs and kisses.
2006-08-22 09:26:29 · answer #3 · answered by dreamer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very gentle but attentive. Do not pry, let him lead the converstions. Don't talk too much, Give him massages, cook special meals, something that you two would eat on special occassions. Light a lot of scented candles around the bedroom and the bathroom accompanied with soft music and seductive lingire. Give him a hot bath before the massage, use body massage oinments if possible. Have some chocolate delights and creams for bedroom forplay. Move seductively about the room always...during dinner, bathing and forplay...slow, soft, sensuous and seductive movements...let him see a side of you he never experienced...and don't talk about the job at all. If he wants to talk, just listen. Don't respond with a lot of suggestions unless he asks for them. Just simply let him know you understand him and supports his decision no matter what...I hopes this helps let a sister know how it turns out...
2006-08-22 10:49:22 · answer #4 · answered by uniqueone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is exactly what I would think: That he needs me in this situation that he is facing right now.
If I were you I would take the chance and plan a romantic evening a dinner maybe... For the end of the night it could be candles, lingerie and ... I think you know the rest. For extra relaxation I would buy essential oils and I would test my massage knowledge on him....Talk about anything else except his work and try to keep his hands busy and his mind stuck on you!!! Good luck!!!
2006-08-22 09:12:08 · answer #5 · answered by C.C. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he needs you and, if you're willing to look after him, that is nice.. Of course, if he is so stressed out over this job, I would assume that he's looking for another one?
How far away do y'all live?
To make him feel relaxed, whatever decisions you can make, that won't upset him, make them.. probably part of his stress at work, though you didn't specify.
Keep things calm and lowkey, quiet music, etc.. if there are kids, see if momma will keep them for a day or so.. if none, that's better..
2006-08-22 09:09:59 · answer #6 · answered by chuckufarley2a 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's exactly what it means. He's having a tough time at the office as most of us do.He just wants someone to probably talk to and support him.So, make hime feel special when you see him. But my question is why haven't you seen him 3 weeks.But other than that when you see him make him feel relax because he's going through a bad time and sometimes we need someone to be there for us. hope that helps.
2006-08-22 09:12:34 · answer #7 · answered by chitarra12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just means that he wants attention and some unconditional love because all he had at work was stress (which means criticism, pressure and lots of egos). Just have a quiet and relaxed day with him, just listen to what he says or what he doesn't say. Don't add to his aggravation with some attitude of your own!
2006-08-22 09:14:25 · answer #8 · answered by Kellybelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just surprise him at home and cook him a nice dinner, take a hot shower togeather and make love afterwards. Then cuddle the night away. He will feel better the next day.
2006-08-22 09:12:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Text back......Cant wait to see you too....countng down the days to be in each others arms again.
2006-08-22 10:48:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋