It is causing real problems (well for me) because it's usually me that drives. He snores really loudly and the other bedtime activities don't last that long (4 minutes). Can anyone tell me if this is due to his drinking, I think he drinks too much but I'm not sure.
Your help is appreciated.
2006-08-22 00:16:42 · 11 answers · asked by LOAJP 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Whatever he says he drinks, add a couple of pints on each time- this should give you an avarage, and yes, even without this generous estimate I would say he drinks plenty enough!
The snoring would certainly be helped by cutting out a few jars of the sauce, though it can also be caused by being a little on the plump side. Booze can have that effect on a person's weight, the snoring can happen because of weight around the neck region.
As for your other problem, could be a case of brewers droop though plenty of men seem to have the same problem as yours without being several sheets to the wind : ) I think you need to have a chat to him about this.
It's possible that he could be feeling anxiety or stress and this could be causing him to drink and also effect his sexual performance and drives. It's worth finding out if this is the case, and you need to speak to him to work that one out. It could also be that he's simply a creature of habit and likes a drink as well as being stuck in a rut sexually speaking.
I think you can express your concerns without nagging, just tell him that you're worried about him and think that his drinking this habitually is effecting his health and your quality time together.
perhaps you can suggest some positive things that you'd like to do with him instead of him spending his nights in the pub?
Good luck to you
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2006-08-22 01:05:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, he definitely drinks too much. The healthy limit for men is 21 units a week. One unit is half a pint of cider so therefore he is drinking 8 units a day, 14 units on friday, 14 units on saturday and 10 units on sunday. He is drinking a total of 70 units a weeks which is an obscene amount of alcohol. I'm afraid it seems that he has a drink problem and needs help immediately as he is fast tracking himself to an early grave. That amount of alcohol will be adversely affecting his mind and body in many ways not to mention your relationship. You must seek help now. Go to your doctor who can give you the best advice and contacts. There will be helplines in the phone book or have a look on the internet. There are plenty of websites out there. Good luck, I wish you all the best.
2006-08-22 00:45:10 · answer #2 · answered by Munchkin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He does have an alcohol problem ... If you have the kind of relationship where you can talk to each other about problems, suggest he sees a doctor or counsellor about it. The guideline is only 2 units a day (that's only 1 pint!)
If you need any help with the other activities, I'm sure there are people around who could help ;-) lol
2006-08-22 02:08:01 · answer #3 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's a drunk. Leave him to his love affair with booze and walk away. He'll tell you he aint got a problem but you are enabling his lifestyle and letting him continue every time you drive. He wont change until he hits rock bottom and none of it is your fault so don't let him emotionally blackmail you. HE has a problem and its HIS responsibility to fix it. You can't change him.
Living with a drunk gets worse over time. They spend every spare moment wondering when they can get their next drink and blame you for nagging if you ask them to stop once in a while.
They end up being late for work, fogetting responsibilities and to be honest, they stink of alcohol all the time. Surely you don't wanna spend the rest of your life with a man who loves alcohol more than you? I betcha he's full of excuses too????
2006-08-22 01:05:20 · answer #4 · answered by Pixxxie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeh he is drinking way too much!! Maybe you should ask him if he thinks he has a problem, if he doesnt see his drinking as a big deal, then maybe you need to put your happiness first and end the relationship or take a break from him, at least until he sees how unhappy you are with the situation. Best of luck.
2006-08-22 00:32:26 · answer #5 · answered by Pauline N 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No because it has to be five different pieces of fruit and/or veg/ If you have some chips cooked in vegetable oil, dipped in tomato ketchup with a pint of cider - that would be 3 towards it.
2016-03-17 00:59:21 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-22 00:32:22 · answer #7 · answered by kildarababe 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh yes, this guy has a problem. He is constantly topping up, so therefore mostly drunk. He needs help. Educate yourself about alcohol units and effects, and then educate him. If he can't see he has a problem, you cannot do a thing. It has to be him that takes the firststep.
2006-08-22 05:24:07 · answer #8 · answered by daria 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you need to pay more attention to him.
Start going out together, join a club, play games, visit the theatre or go to some concerts...there are so many things for you to do together.
Very importantly, learn how to enjoy each others company without the 'demon' drink getting in the way.
2006-08-22 02:08:46 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course it's causing his problems. It will also make him very fat
cider is loaded with calories
and how does he afford it
see if you can persuade him to drink less and save up for a nice holiday instead
2006-08-22 00:33:58 · answer #10 · answered by virginia o 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋