i have a some questions for any one to answer NICELY?

Question

okay i am 19 gay and have 5 questions.1.is it wrong to like the smell of my bf's sweat and his natural smell like with out any thing to make he smell good ?2.is it wrong to have sexual fantisies about Brendon Urie from panic! at the disco ?3.why do i always want to be kissing my bf i mean i know i am in LOVE with him but i never want to stop kissing him ?4.am i weird for not liking my penis touched by any one not even my bf ?5.i dont like my penis touched by any one and not even my bf even though he does after i c_u_m and then i say oww or ahh and i cringe some times and then he says sorry and we kiss and i say it is ok and i ask him not to but he again but he does any way just so we can kiss (he said that is why he dose it even though i ask him not to)so like i said what are some reasons other then what he does that make it so i dont like my penis touched ? PlEaSe DoNt RePoRt Me FoR tHeSe QuEsTiOnS I rEaLlY nEeD aNsWeRs

Answer 1

Sounds like you'll be dead from HIV-AIDS soon so why inquire?

Answer 2

1. Humans do have their own distinctive odors; nursing infants and mothers can identify each other quite easily. Just be glad that your lover doesn't have a disagreeable funk; if he does get a little gamy, well, a nice shower together can be a lot of fun....
2. You have fantasies (I assume Brandon Urie is some really hot musician? sorry, I'm an old straight lady). Who doesn't? Welcome to the human race. Fantasies can add quite a bit of heat to things, and they're not wrong or evil per se.
3. Of course kissing him a lot is fun! There are zillions of nerve endings around the lips...it's designed to feel great. Plus the emotional meanings associated with kissing and affectionate caressing.
4. The genitals are one of the most private (no pun intended!) parts of the body. Between all the social training of "don't touch yourself there/don't look at that" and "don't get hit down there!", I'm surprised more males aren't a little gunshy about genital contact.
5. In many males, right after orgasm, the penis can get really sensitive---especially the tip (glans). Even a gentle contact can be agonizing. Can you tell your lover that you really, REALLY find this painful and nonerotic and that other touch---like holding you, rubbing your back, or touching other parts of your body---would be so much nicer?

Answer 3

You sound like you're doing ok. It's not wrong to like the smell of your BF seat or anything else. You're just loving the smell when he's around which is normal. It's never bad to fanrasize about guys from any movies or magazines. Perfectly healthy. To not wantto stop kissing your BF is just showing how much you love him and a good thing. It's not weird for some guys to not want their penis touched, but a lot of guys like that, and like holding or touching others. If your BF likes to, I say meet him half way. Try to get used to the idea of someone else touching you. It's actually a great feeling having another guy jacking you off while you just lay there. If you don't like it, you should tell him so maybe you just kiss after you get off.

Answer 4

First of all, i congrats you on having the courage at 19 to ask questions. As for your answers.

1. No its not wrong to like the smell of your bf's sweat. That is natural. Like when he gets up to leave and the smell of him on your pillow, you like to hold onto it. It is natural.

2. Is it wrong to have sexal fantasy about someone, that again is no. it is normal to think about someone naked or think what you would like to do with a person if you had the chance to.

3. You can't get enough of the feeling of kissing him, Wanting to be constantly touching him. My partner and I are the same way. We always love to be touching, cuddling, kissing.

4. For not wanting your penis touched even by your bf, that may be something that has either happened in the past or something you were told. You may also be nervous and not wanting to shoot prematurely also.

5. After you *** and he touches it and makes you Oww and Ahh, that is normal. The penis, especially the head, gets really sensitive. Some people like the sensation and others jump wildly if you touch it as or after it has came. As for him touching it to watch you do that, it can be seen as adorable, however you feeling it , may not think it is at that time.

Well hope these helped you out, if you have any other questions, feel free to ask :)

Answer 5

Your questions are actually very good questions and are relative to homosexuals AND hetrosexuals.

1. It is definitely NOT wrong to like your bf's smell. Long before deodorants were invented, part of sexual attraction was based on natural smells.
2. It is never wrong to have sexual fantasies. They can add excitement to your life and don't hurt anyone.
3. Kissing is exciting and feels good. Nothing wrong with that! It is also a way for you to show your bf you love him. It also makes you feel connnected to him.
4. Do you ever become aroused when your boyfriend touches your penis? If not, is there a way he COULD touch your penis that would not upset you...perhaps being very gentle? Is the only way you can ejaculate is by masturbation? And has there been some sort of sexual trauma in your life? Depending on how you answer these questions would determine what you do next. Your bf may need to be taught (nicely) the correct way to touch you...he might not have a clue. It is also possible you have a medical condition that gives you these issues. And if you have been abused earlier in life, please speak to someone (a councelor about it)
5. MANY men are very sensitive after they ejaculate so it can be be quite painful to be touched immediately afterwards. Your boyfriend obviously desires you sexually and is turned on so that that is why he wants to touch your penis.

I hope these answers help. Lastly, you are pretty young and based on your questions....I hope you aren't allowing yourself to be mistreated (or forced to endure something that makes you uncomfortable or hurts you) because you feel that you love your bf. If he loves you in return, then he would never do something that would make you feel bad or pain.

Answer 6

1. I've heard sweat is supposed to be attractive but I still can't stand the smell of my bf's so more power 2 ya
2. Have fantasies about who u wanna
3. I never want to stop kissing my bf either
4 & 5. I wouldnt know about not wanting anyone to touch my penis... but maybe its just sensitive after u finish

Answer 7

Firstly, very cool that you have the courage to ask and ignore those that are hateful towards you. Your first 3 are normal. As to 4 and 5 I don't say abnormal but maybe ask yourself why you have such a problem with having your penis touched?Did something happen to you when you were younger that would make you feel that way? Ok, that is personal but perhaps if you got some counseling on that? Not saying it to make you feel bad. Good luck :)

Answer 8

1. It is more than ok. That's a sign that he greatly attracts you.
2. I don't know him but having fantasies is absolutely normal and healthy for everyone.
3. You enjoy kissing which is very good. Some people don't enjoy sex as much as they would want to because the foreplay doesn't last long. Kissing is just great for foreplay.
4., 5. You have issues with your penis. You'd better resolve them fast cause they might cause you trouble in your relationship with your bf.

Answer 9

I'll skip all the first parts of your question, they're pretty normal. The last one is a bit of a strange one through. I would think that to some extent that this has something to do with your own sense of security and comfort. For you someone touching your penis is an invasion of your own sense of self identity. It's something that is extreemly private to you. You're probably embarassed a little as well. At the end of the day all of this is pretty normal for some people. It takes time to come to terms with your sexuality, and for some its a more emotional process simply because they have been brought up with certain ingrained beliefs and have been brought up in somewhat stricter environments. You were probably told it was dirty to touch it as a young child, or that its rude to show it to someone etc etc. Ingrained social triggers. You'll get over it don't worry.

Answer 10

You are pretty normal in all aspect. Lots of guys like smells, and fantasy is part of sex...everyone's fantasies are different, so it is really very normal. Some guys like kissing, some don't ...to each his own. Most guys, after shooting, do not want anything touched down below. Your bf is a little over-loving afterwards, and is touching you out of habit...he may have a higher sex drive than you do, but in any case, everything you write is pretty mcuh normal for the course. Good luck

Answer 11

Most of what you say is pretty normal. The not touching yourself part or the part of not having him touch you.... this is the readers digest to the issue. If you touch yourself you consider it bad, if he touches you you consider it bad. If you are bad, no one will love you. If no one loves you, you will die.

At somepoint in your life someone told you it was bad to be touched there (most likely your mom). Get over it, start touching yourself and letting the one you love some much touch you and have a good life. Understanding your issue and accepting that it is a phobia or fear that is unrealistic and getting over it is the best present you could give yourself and your bf.

After all, what would be worse, getting used to being touched and enjoying it or losing your bf???