He wont let me communicate with him the mention of his name brings arguments. he is really off with my son when he come back from his dad. My son brought hom some cakes and my boyfriend threw them in the bin saying he will not accept charity from him.I am trying to understand his point of view. but I have also been in his situation before. but I was ok with it. I am worrried my son will suffer cause my son really holds back on talking about his dad in case it upsets my boyfriend. I also have to send my son out to my dad without seeing him. I thought since we had a baby together it would be ok. but its not. once I had to go and talk to ex and my partner snatched our baby off me, He did not want ex to look at our baby!! I feel guilty but I have to talk to ex abourt our son behind his back.
2006-08-21 23:25:11 · 12 answers · asked by sweetsunbear77 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he sees your ex as a threat ..with good reason. please try to be sympathetic with him . and be sure to reassure him that he is the only one for you..hes in a difficult situation. good luck
2006-08-21 23:34:07 · answer #1 · answered by askmike 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best way to get back your ex is https://tr.im/AKiLB
Here's the hard part: Pretend she never existed, like it was all a dream, don't call her, that will make you the smaller person, be the bigger person since you deserve better, what she did to you on Valentines Day was immature, especially after dating for four years. This person wasted allot of your time and through it out the window. Go out tonight, even it it is only yourself, don't drink and call or feel sorry for yourself, this will only cause you embarrassment! I know your hurting..This will eventually will go away in time. Today is not a good day for you and your emotions are spinning all over the place.
Please, whatever you do, don't answer her calls and don't call her. If she keeps calling, which she pro bally won't, don't return her call for 5 days. Make her sweat and DO Not get back together right away if you discuss this in 5 days. Tell her since she Broke up with you, you have done allot of thinking, and had the taste of "being single again" and you would like more time being "friends" for now, so you are sure you are making the right decision. Remember "She decided she didn't want to be with you" so the door is open for you to get out and see what you have been missing for four years. You honestly need to do this for yourself.
She doesn't know, but what she did was give you the best valentines day present you will ever get! A new start and a new beginning, use it to your advantage. You will look back on this and Thank God this happened now instead of 4 more wasted years of YOUR life. Today does suck, stay Strong and I promise you your life is going to be so much more exciting and you are going to be happy. If you continue to call and call her, she will think of you as needy and won't want you. She is going to rethink what she did to you today and will be hurt, if you act like you could care less. Girls always want the ones they can't have. That is who you are now to her. Let her suffer,realizing what a mistake she made. This will drive her crazy. Right now she is on cloud 9 thinking you will take her back, OH, is she stupid!
Your life isn't ruined, hers is..She lost someone special, and gave you a gift to let to live life and find someone you deserve. You are not getting back at her, your teaching her what an idiot she is and what she lost and what you gained without her. SO when You eventually talk to her, tell her thank you for what she did...
She will be hurt and you will be happy!
2016-07-20 01:18:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunate situation, but what you should remember is that your son should always come first.
No child should be brought up in a home where certain big subjects (like his own father) are taboo. Imagine what sort of hang-ups this will give him in later life...
What you need to do is sit down and tell your partner (nicely) what you just wrote here. Tell him how you feel, and what you think it is doing to your son, and will potentially do to your relationship. Through his own insecurity and jealousy he is going to loose the one(s) he is so protective over.
I assume he knew the situation when he started his relationship with you, so just remind him...
2006-08-21 23:37:40 · answer #3 · answered by HP 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a terrible situation for you. Your boyfriend sounds very emotionaly immaature. Men seem to respone better when woman has a girl child. The son constantly reminds him of your x. They also like to pretend we are virgins when they get us! the child lets him know without a doubt that is not true! he knows it anyway but this keeps him reminded. how sad for your son. You should not have to talk to your son about his father behind your boyfriends back. he needs to figure out why he feels so threatened by your x. He needs alot of help and if he refuses to get it,hed be out the door. you have to decide whats more important his chidish wants or your children. your son will endup hating him in the end and resentinyou.
2006-08-21 23:37:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woman, get rid of the boyfriend, he will get worse. Your darling little boy is suffering and my heart bleeds for him. Get rid of the boyfriend before life changes your son into a young man that hates his mother because she didn't help him.
It's happened to a friend of mine - she met a guy who was just like your boyfriend. Her children have grown up and have issues - the son is worse, he will not even speak to her now. He said she never protected him and asks how a mother could allow a man to treat her children like that. I'd go on but I think you know the score.
2006-08-25 22:20:18 · answer #5 · answered by Curious39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-30 22:12:39 · answer #6 · answered by hildred 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex was the same, that's why he's my ex!! But it's not so easy for you as you have a baby with this guy. You really need to put your son first, it's not fair on him to have to sneak about to see his own dad. You need to be firmer with your partner and tell him you wont stand for it anymore. Tell him you have to put your sons feelings first and warn him if he doesn't chill out then he might find himself in the same position as your ex. Wish I could give you more/better advice as I know how crap your feeling. Hope it works out for you, good luck.
2006-08-22 00:03:37 · answer #7 · answered by cheryl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I started dating my wife when she was pregnant of another man (6 months already) who dumped her because he wasmarried and she hadn't known. I love my wife and love OUR son.Although he was not born of my body he was born out of my heart. Whenever the name of the other is mentioned I get enraged not because I fear my wife to cheat or anything I just love my son too much too share him with someone who has spend about 30 minutes with him the last 4 years.
2006-08-22 04:59:08 · answer #8 · answered by trytostayanonimous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe because he feels your ex is a treat to him.You've been living and sharing part of ur life with him,so he feels bad abt it.
Just come to the fact that you love him and tell him abt ur feeligs..
give him that feeling of uniqueness
That would be a good start,i hope..
Cheers
2006-08-21 23:33:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact you don't understand why shows you're really immature. the fact you thought a baby would solve your relational problems shows you're not only immature but also brainless. kind regards
2006-08-21 23:32:37 · answer #10 · answered by paliminka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋