low sex drive?

Question

i think i have low sex drive. i dont seem too interested in sex, and my bf always wants it. half the time i just do it coz he wants to, even he i dont really want to. Ive never really been that interested in sex i dont know why. Is it just low sex drive? what can i do to make it go high? foods etc? im 21. I should have a high sex drive at this age and be sexually active. does anyone else feel this? guys or girls? no insensitive answers please. x

Answer 1

Girls drive is nearly always lower than the male. If you feel like its a chore then its probably because your having it too much. 1 fantastic sesh is better than 5 half heated efforts. If you tell him to back off, and dont expect it, he'll start working harder to get you in the mood. If it doesnt happen, no problem, but when it does, youll both go absolutely wild.

Good luck!!

Answer 2

hi. im 23 female. dont get me wrong i enjoy sex. but its not the most inportant thing. if i dont have it it really doesnt bother me. sometimes i dont feel the need to have it so i dont. i thought there was somethin wrong cus i wasnt has needed for sex as other people, but i just come to except this and enjoy lots of things sex is just not that high on my list. i also tought that maybe i have not found the right man that im really comfortable with. etc. im an attractive girl and have many friends and get much male attention but i just feel that when ive finished enjoying myslef being free single, and are ready the settle down to then start thinking bout it all. also i found specking to mates about it i found out that yeah some had high sex drive and others have low. and the age range in my mates range from 20 to 40. so i just came the the conculsion that every1 is different. and stopped worring about it.
hope that helped abit.

Answer 3

Self esteem might come into play. WHY let this guy "do" you if you don't want it. That's just nothing less than violating your own body. I was raised Catholic, enjoying sex was a SIN! I didn't go into my marriage with a high sex drive. In my 20's and 30's I was raising kids. It wasn't till I hit 42 that I "bloomed"! Have been having fun every since. Hang in there. Have you ever tried a vibrator? When no one is around and you have some time to yourself, use the vibrator(don't insert it!). Find the spots that make you feel good and then pass this on to the boyfriend. If he still can't bring you to orgasm and make you feel good, and sex is more important than your relationship, dump him and stick with the vibrator.

Answer 4

I don't have a good answer because I suffer from the same thing. Just wanted you to know that its not abnormal. Sex for some women is more emotional than physical so you have to be emotionally stimulated too. Maybe he isn't taking care of you in other areas of your relationship and thats why your not interested in sex. I'm 26 and have been with the same guy for 6 years.

Answer 5

Girls go through their sexual peek way later than guys. Actually guys hit their sexual peek at a early age then stay there. I'm 25 and I just hit it. When I was 21, I wasn't to interested in it either. If I were you, and yes I was there, I would do things to spice up your sex life. Like ask yourself "what really makes my pu$$y throb when I think about it?" then do it. I know I came up with some bazaar things but it worked. And he loved it!!!!

Answer 6

I used to be ashamed of liking sex and would use any excuse so i didnt have to do it i never felt the need for it ,i thought it was wrong for women to enjoy it, just the way i was brought up, then i met my current partner who with a lot of patience showed my why sex can be good, he showed me how not to be ashamed of my body or ashamed of enjoying sensual things. Its done wonders for me i have a lot of confidence in the bedroom now and we are not at it like rabbits but we do enjoy it when we have time. Talk to your boyfriend and decide what you both really enjoy having done to each other, and go for it if that doesnt work try oysters or raw mushrooms. Good luck sweetie x

Answer 7

I think the less you get orgasms the less you want sex. Before your man can be shown how to pleasure you, it would be better if you learn what makes you hum. So a dildo (Rabbit or whatever you like) and lots of practice will start things going. I find that having a man you can talk to helps - he wants to please so I tell him when its good and keep quiet when its not good for me.. its a question of hitting the right buttons. Read some sexy books to get yourself thinking along those lines, then ask you man to help you without pleasuring himself. Once you are ok, he will be too!

Answer 8

i dont think u should worry about it .. sometimes its a matter of guiding your bf and asking him to stimulate u are right places .. not everyone is the same and some people are slow to get excited .. for those people who have low sex drive, sometimes stimulating g-spot works .. its hard to reach and u need to tell your bf if he is closer or not .. or if u feel any different or not ..

the second thing u can try is changing the room settings .. either dim the lights a little or turn on som romantic music before he tries to stimulate you ..

good luck!

Answer 9

If you're not going to want sex all the time then you need to let him know it's okay for him to please himself. My wife has a very low drive and so I take matters into my own hands but I think it does have an affect on our relationship and I think it has made cheating more a temptation because of the need for sexual pleasure and the feeling that someone "wants" me.

Answer 10

and there was me thinking i was the only one..i'm 27 and never really been that interested either..and my bloke wants it all the time too..i don't know what the solution is but me & my fiance are thinking of trying some viagra for me..i always feel like a let down and i'm so jealous of people when they say they love sex and enjoy it so much..i dunno what my problem is either..i've always put it down to a low sex-drive though.. good luck hon,i know exactly how u feel.