We are both married....?

Question

I met a guy i loved deeply, but he disapointed me. that was like 12 yrs ago. 2 yrs later he go married n so did i. we lived in different towns and 10 years later, we met (last year) and the feelings are still the same. we love each other but cannot be together coz we are both married. i told him to forget about me since i was ready 4 an affair but hes too scared. my real question is why wont he late me go? we talk alot on the phone but rarely see each other and he keeps saying he loves me. we both have 2 kids. what should i do? hes the only man i ever loved. should we divorce our partners?

Answer 1

Love means to see the person you love to be happy and peaceful , where ever they are . If you both really love each other do not disturb the present set up , where young children are getting proper care . If you both really want to quench your thirst , find some remote place and spend some quality time together, once a while for a change , but do not try to break four + four hearts .

Answer 2

It's very hard to let your past go .. a part of you will always love him no matter what BUT now 12 years is a long time and consider this dear ..

Do you want a man who is cheating on his wife ? who is to say that when things get tough he wont find an "old friend " to cry on their shoulder the same way he is yours ....I bet you have alot more smarts then that...

Answer 3

First u need to grow the hell up and stop being so selfish, cant u even see it when ur writing it.. "we both have 2 kids" UMMMMMMMMM lets see, mommy is selfish cause she screwed up and didnt work things out with the guy she "supposively" loves now and now she's going to tear up our family and another mans family because she's a selfish idiot that thinks that 10 years later it would work.. then shes so thick headed, that mommy cant seem to get it through her head that the dude already said he doesnt want to risk his family for her.. but yet she's still emotionally cheating on daddy, and well us too because shes about to rip our lives to shreads all because she's being selfish.
ARE U THAT SELFISH THAT U DONT THINK OF UR KIDS OR HIS KIDS????????????????? what do u think they will just say , oh u want to leave dad thats fine by us, will just leave dad in the dust???????????? he loves the idea of being with someone different then who he is with but your not worth giving up his life that he has now for, cant u see that?????? duh.. if he LOVEDDDDDDDDDDDDDD u so much like u say u both do.. then u wouldnt be on here asking such questions u'd already be together but ur not and u cant get a clue that all he's doing is using u.. for his own emotional needs and ego gratification..U both need to grow the hell up, own up to the vows u took, be a decent role model to ur kids, DONT SCREW UP YOUR KIDS LIVES FOR UR OWN SELFISHNESS.. because trust me, they will be the ones to pay for ur stupidity....U need to walk away from this guy all together, im willing to bet u were alot happier with ur husband before Romeo walked into the picture.. and has u all giddy.. geeze..

Answer 4

I dont understand ordinary a thanks to say you're fortuitously married. It makes no experience to me, only for the sake of sex? You said you're falling not ordinary for him, which says alot, women frequently will fall for the sweetheart, even as the sweetheart can usually separate sex from love. you acquire stuck contained in the seize, the seize that too many women fall into. questioning they could have casual sex with out deep thoughts. There are some women which could do so feat yet extra probably women fall for the boys. So do your self a choose and ask your self how satisfied you're along with your marriage. And ask your self could you emotionally have the funds for to loose this guy you married?

Answer 5

because you love him doesn't mean you're in love with him and doesn't mean he will make you happy. you said he disappointed you. what makes you think things have changed? if you were meant to be together, then things would have went that way. you can still love him. there is nothing wrong with that. but you shouldn't pursue anything with him. stay with your husband and keep the guy as a friend and no more.

Answer 6

What about the man you're married to now? What about your kids? Somrtimes you have to put other people ahead of your own desires. Its difficult but imagine all the hard times ahead if you do go with this other man.

Answer 7

dont divorce...u hav kids..u hav a responsibility..and more than that he was not there wen u really wanted him and if your husband is caring and satisfying in all sorts...i mean financially, mentally and physically...den r u crazy to leave him...but even though if he is not...dont divorce the poor guy atleast not for your old lover cause he seems nothing but a coward...

Answer 8

Please leave this man alone. If he was so great you and him would still be together. We always fantasize about the one that got away. Remember what it was like when you were in a relationship with him...it did not work out then and it will not work out now. Just take a stroll down memory lane. remember how he dissappointed you. I am sure, right about now your husband is looking pretty good.

Answer 9

That was in the past. You both have made commitments to your spouses that you are married to now. Do you have children? Why hurt so many people? Get over it!

Answer 10

He disappointed you once earlier. What is the guarantee he won't do it again? What is the fault of your own husband who loves you.Why should you ditch him for some mirage like attraction. What about your kids? Please think about all these issues. So I think you should stick to your husband and children and forget about this relationship.