to put as much effort into a relationship as a women does! my bloke thinks he puts enough in, cus he works really hard to give us everything material wise! are most blokes the same ?
2006-08-21 22:40:51 · 9 answers · asked by sweets 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
and why do they find it hard to emotionally sopprt us! has anybody been in this position? help
2006-08-21 22:49:06 · update #1
A lot of blokes are but not all. I think blokes are less emotionally expressive, and sometimes women don't fully understand that. It actually doesn't mean he doesn't care -- blokes just have different ways of showing it.
2006-08-21 22:47:21 · answer #1 · answered by Scotty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This ia a matter of how a guy and girl view a relationship. Its also about feelings.
You are seeking more than material support, you want to be loved and cherished. Your guy cannot see this yet.
Like many other things in life relating is a learned skill. People, both giys and girls, can be good or bad at it.
Can I suggest that you first try to tell him that you want him as he is not just what he does. Love him into better relating skills. Teach him to more fully love you.
If you need help see a relationship counsellor, you can come through this and be stronger and closer.
Peter
2006-08-22 06:01:55 · answer #2 · answered by Peter H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually in these cases where men think material things are the answer, its because they don't really know how to be sensitive. Most men who are that way is usually because they were fortunate to have had many females(aunts, sisters and cousins) who inadvertently taught them how. Of course there are some men(maybe I should say blokes (;< )) who are just naturally sensuous and mature. Consider yourself fortunate if you come across one of those.
With patience, sweetness and kindness you can teach your bloke to be more sensitive and genuinely responsive to your needs. Use your ingenuity...it could be well worth it.
2006-08-22 06:01:25 · answer #3 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships shouldn't require a lot of "effort" (stress). That doesn't spell out a healthy relationship? I don't want to come off as harsh, but to put things bluntly, a person shouldn't have to come home from a job full of stressful demands, only to deal with a relationship full of stressful demands. I'm not implying that this is your situation, but it is one to avoid none the less.
As far as your addition...some guy's tune themselves out from their own feelings, believing it's part of being strong and "manly". From that standpoint, it can become unfamiliar territory. If you think he genuinely doesn't care about you...then that might be a sign to move on to a less "manley" man.
2006-08-22 05:54:49 · answer #4 · answered by Bush Whacker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the guy, but yeah, a lot of guys think that if they spend the most, they are putting as much into the relationship.
2006-08-22 05:46:16 · answer #5 · answered by Catmmo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, when it comes to the guy and is attitude towards the relationship, then you really have to ask him: "What are you doing to make it work between us? It's not just about the material things, it goes beyond that." Let him know how you feel, but don't make him feel guilty (it's a blow to his ego to feel guilty).
2006-08-22 05:55:52 · answer #6 · answered by venus101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blokes are individually as girls and there upbringing are, no general rule
2006-08-22 05:48:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes most of them are like those.
2006-08-22 05:46:41 · answer #8 · answered by sweetangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it just depends on the person.
2006-08-22 05:45:03 · answer #9 · answered by euroaly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋