Just for women, please! This is your chance to give advice to girls thinking about having sex now.
Think back to when you lost your virginity. If you had it to do all over again, would you have waited to have sex, or are you glad you had sex when you did, or did you wait too long?
And most importantly, why did you come to that decision?
Thanks for sharing!
2006-08-21 22:10:03 · 13 answers · asked by Searcher 7 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I lost my virginity at 18 to a h.s. dropout in the basement of his parents house. I wasn't pressured into it, I basically wanted to lose it because I wanted to know what sex was like. Boy was I disappointed :) It hurt and it was a miserable experience; all he was concerned about was his own pleasure. We lasted maybe a month. During that time he gave me crabs, humiliated me in various ways in front of his friends, and cheated on me, this lead to a serious of relationships that were based on sex instead of compatibility. So yes, I wish I had waited. I wish I had at least waited to find someone who cared about me so I could have had a better first-time memory, and a better start to future relationships.
2006-08-22 06:24:27 · answer #1 · answered by Crazy dog lady 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I did not have sex until the age of 17, but I did experimented with sex in some shape or form from around the age of 10. I was actually molested as a child from a very early age until about 12. Thank God my abuser did not actually achieve his goal of intercourse.
I was not permiscuos, however I was extremely curious. I was a big tease. Not because I wanted to torment the other person, just because I was so curious. But I knew that having sex was not the right thing to do.
I think that we get sex confused with being desired or attractive or wanted. We let the desires of others dictate how we feel about ourselves. I think our society abuses sex. But it is put out there everywhere, how can you not be curious.
When I lost my virginity at 17, the experience was not what I had expected it to be. It was with someone I cared for at the time, who is my husband now. But at the time I felt pressured because I had been a tease and I felt like his frustration was my fault. And it was! Sex will take you down a road you may not be prepared for. I really wish I would have waited. It would have saved alot of heart ache for me and for my husband, then boyfriend.
Sex shouldn't be played with, it's not a game or a weapon. It is a gift given to us from God and if we abuse it, there are definate consequences. I've watched marriages that have partners who waited for vows and others who had multiple partners before marraige to each other. Respect yourself and wait. You will be glad you did when you take a look back.
2006-08-22 11:54:51 · answer #2 · answered by law 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, i haven;t lost my virginity yet so my take is a lil off i guess and i hope i dont sound too self righteous here.
Hhmmm...i'm not against consensual sex between mature adults, however i just feel that many among us do cheapened the sacred act of sexual intercourse, a lot of it has to do with social and peer pressure. Do we really need that kind of promiscouity?Noone ever died because they remained a virgin...........losing your virginity should happen when you are absolutely in love with the one, not just casually experimenting.......you may choose to do it after or before marriage, but if it's an insincere and animalistic act then it would be hard to keep your head up high afterwards, i think.
It's deemed as uncool to be a virgin these days. Gimme a break!!
2006-08-22 05:49:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I lost mine at 19, i don't regret it. I'm glad I waited until i was old enough to make a mature decision. Sex is not something to rush into. A lot of risk goes along with it. So take that risk just anyone, make sure the guy is worth the risk, and no I'm not talking about happily for ever and ever, just someone worth taking risks for. make sure u r FULLY INFORMED about STDs, birth control, and think about the responsibility of a child first. Always use condoms; pills are great to use along with a condom. The condom protects against Studs and pregnancy, but it's always great to have a backup plan against pregnancy. Do not trust a guy that says he'll pull out. Make u know how that condom is supposed to go on, and make sure the guy puts it on correctly. Oh and if your guy has sex before its a good idea to have him get tested for STDs before having sex with him. Since Men have been known to lie about that, would drag him down to a clinic to get tested, and i would get tested too, show him that i was safe too. Remember women are more pron to get STDs then guys are, so don't let him push u around where your health is concern. To be honest if all of this concerns and precautions seems daunting then your probably not ready for sex. I personally believe too many people lose their virginity too young, but what going to happen is going to happen. i just want all parties to be safe.
2006-08-22 05:50:37 · answer #4 · answered by Jo 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I lost my virginity one month ago (07/22/2006), at the age of 18. It was great and I don't regret about it. I was not in love with this guy then but now I love him and so does he. I don't know why I lost my virginity with him but probably I wanted to experience something new. And it was fun!
2006-08-22 12:05:01 · answer #5 · answered by Greeneyed 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 16 and it was horrible. Of course I thought I was in love and that he loved me and that we would be together forever. I think it lasted 6 months and it broke my heart and ruined my self-esteem. I actually equated sex with love and the truth is for guys it isn't. If I had it to do over again I would wait and just be a big tease because that is way more fun and even if guys get mad then you are weeding out the idiots.
2006-08-22 05:18:09 · answer #6 · answered by Constant_Traveler 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I would never regret giving it up... I never felt more like a woman than having experience carnal pleasures. I gave it when i was 19... I have been going steady with my boyfriend who waited a year and a half for it... we were both virgins when we did it... kinda goofy at first... but... hahaha.... the experience is worth remembering. when you reached the age of 16 and you are emotionally mature.. i guess that would be the right time to give it to the one who deserves it... not just some wacko who "kiss-and-tell". good luck
2006-08-22 05:22:25 · answer #7 · answered by nastygrl_2000 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋
i asked it from my girfriend.. i am posting as her response.
she is glad to have lost it to me..
she mentioned that her virginity held a level of respect in her body.. its only once that she could have given it away in her lifetime.. and she is glad to have lost it to me for the relation we shared at that time..
i personally believe that whether it is a girl or a guy.. none can forget their first encounter of an intercourse when they lost their virginity to anyone.. neither did i.. nor did my girlfriend..
this encounter stays with you for the rest of your life.. and it is in your hand to make it stay as a pleasant memory or just a phase of life that is there in a non ignorable part of your mind..
i would recommend that you must lose your virginity to someone close to your heart at a point in time by pursuing your partner in a rightful manner.. if you pay for it or do it just for the sake of doing it, its no use..
best of luck...
2006-08-22 05:22:11 · answer #8 · answered by mk_single 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would have waited as I was too young to apreciate the joy that can be had with a loving partner.I was looking for love to replace what I felt I didn't get from my family.
2006-08-22 05:21:48 · answer #9 · answered by lyndles 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
the average age seems to be 16-18. i was 19 and since that times, it seems like i have been playing catch up with everyone else. if i could do it over again- i would have done it earlier.
2006-08-22 05:18:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋