I have 3 children, my eldest is not to my current partner. As my partner and I are un-married they all have my sur-name.
I want to marry my prtner but my eldest really doesn't want to change her name, she is a minor, I don't want to force her as I think she's been through so much recently. Does anyone know if she could keep her name if me and my other kids take their fathers name in mariage?
2006-08-21 21:39:00 · 14 answers · asked by Gypsie 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would like to add that she adores her "Daddy" he has been her father figure since she was 3 and her biological father has nothing to do with her (his choice) so it's not because she doesn't see him as her Dad or she feels torn.
2006-08-21 21:50:34 · update #1
Also, I'm not asking if I should let her keep her name i'm asking what the legal facts are. Does she keep her name anyway or will it automatically change once mine does?
2006-08-21 21:53:09 · update #2
Assuming you're in England and Wales, it's easy to change the two younger children's names as your partner obviously consents. The thing to do is a Deed of Name Change. I do them all the time and you can get both children's names changed on the same deed. I usually charge about £50 plus VAT. Any high street family lawyer can do it for you. So far as your eldest is concerned, I agree with other respondents that she should have whatever name she prefers. If at a later date she wants to change to your current partner's name, and her dad doesn't have Parental Responsibility (because he wasn't married to you), it's the same procedure as above. If he obtained Parental Responsibility either by formal agreement or court order, he has to consent to the change or you'll have to get a Specific Issue Order through the County Court under the Children Act 1989.
2006-08-22 00:47:57 · answer #1 · answered by david 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Changing your children's name! this will not be automatic on your marriage.
The child does have some rights and can voice their objections. also the child's father if still alive may have objections to this.
There are two ways to change the Surname of a minor. the easy way is for your partner to legally adopt them.
The other way is through deed pole.
in both cases the child's view will be taken into account.
"Daddy Dave"
2006-08-22 05:04:45 · answer #2 · answered by Daddy Dave 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only your name will change not your childrens you have to change them either by deed poll or through a solicitor and if your hubby is not the father you will need the real fathers permission if the child has his surname.
2006-08-22 07:32:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's a problem, On the other hand keep both your surnames ie: Mrs Smith marries Mr Jones now Mr & Mrs Smith Jones, If you get my drift. Do I get an invite to the wedding
2006-08-22 04:52:36 · answer #4 · answered by col 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ultimately it is up to you, but if you take your daughters feelings serious and as you said youd liek to make the least change possible for her as shes been though a bad time of late. Then the answer has to be respect her wishes.
2006-08-22 04:45:04 · answer #5 · answered by lango_faldo_the_barefoot_dr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can not just change your last name or first name because you want to. There are birth records with your names on them. You have social security numbers with your names on them. If you want to change your name or your children's names you need to though court and then you need to send copies to have agency change your names to new names.
This is oh lets change our name game. You can not just do it.
If you don't do it correct your children are going to have a very rough time as adults collecting social security, registering to vote and a bunch other problems.
2006-08-22 05:05:25 · answer #6 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes when I got re-married only my surname was changed, I wanted to change my kids surname too but you need a written permission from their father, if they have your surname you have to do it via Solicitor.
2006-08-22 10:27:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anna N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in marrage it's only your name that changes. to change your kids name is a legal process.
you would be changing your eldests name to a man she has no biological connection to. you should let her keep her own name. i wouldn't like someone to tell me that i have to change my name. my name is part of my identity and individuality.
2006-08-22 04:46:06 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah (31/UK) 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cant change youre daughters names to youre current partners name,he would need to legally adopt them'you can however "double barrel" their names eg "smith jones",ive looked into it myself and this is what i was told by a solicitor.
2006-08-22 04:53:04 · answer #9 · answered by pegs_down 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just because YOU are getting married and changing your name doesnt mean your kids need to change there name as well. respect your daughter's wishes.
2006-08-22 04:44:49 · answer #10 · answered by Kittie_Nash 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋